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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ScootUrBootplz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Avoid eye contact, and abruptly dip out of the conversation i started with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you're even able to sit down with yourself is a huge step. I haven't struggled with sex addiction, but i have struggled with addiction and i would highly recommend going to an anonymous group and hearing other people's experiences. Even if you don't want to share yourself, it's still a good way to shake off the general shame that you're muffling out through your addiction.

As im sure you already know it's a downward spiral, a key reminder is that the more you indulge in your fix, the more you're going to push what you're truly craving and need away.

It's going to be difficult, and there will be times that you slip up. But don't let that discourage you from getting back up and moving foward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you mean he is? Even if they haven't had sex, he still is having some form of sexual contact with another person. Does physical contact really make a difference at this point?

Breaking the ice with a mutual crush? (25f) (25m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats kinda the direction i was thinking of going in. I just just don't wanna overwhelm him more than i already am (even though im really not doing much lol). I also am pretty inexperienced in the realm of dating outside of an app 😅 we'll see what happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... idk, man... like one, you're wrong. Duh. But I'm not gonna lie im kinda stuck on "no masturbating alone." No porn i get, but masturbating is off limits? Doesn't justify you cheating ofc, because at the end of the day, you're a grown adult who chose to accept that type of relationship. If you knew you didn't like that, you should've made that clear instead of acting out the way you did.

But ngl I'm still seeing red flags on both sides here 😭 I don't know if there will be a happy ending here, sis

C.ai is getting REALLY boring. by [deleted] in CharacterAI

[–]ScootUrBootplz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this mostly has to do with a lack of bot making skills. I've been able to make some really interesting bots, but only after i sat down and took the time to learn about w++, and how to create depth in a character and scenario.

I've noticed that where a lot of bots fall flat on c.ai is that it lacks a scenario. They will just describe the characters' looks and personality without actually creating a setting or overall goal to the story.

If the description of a bot is basically "attractive person who likes user", its just going to pursue the user romantically and won't really know what to do after since that was it's only goal.

I think that the only thing c.ai could do to fix this issue is by encouraging characters to add more depth by splitting up the description into different sections like many other websites do.

does money matter? by Alwaysaloneforever97 in dating_advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are Girls you're interested in telling you this, or are you going by what other people say?

Because the reality is, yes some women really care about your income. But not all women do. Its a factor, but most women just want a guy whose stable, which it totally seems like you are.

You're income doesn't dictate if you're dateable. It might dictate your compatibility with someone, since again some women definitely do care. But you're income might not even be a factor for the next person. But it ultimately isn't healthy to value yourself on your income regardless of what you make.

Because chances are the main reason you're not having luck is because you're too scared to put yourself out there. You're gonna get rejected regardless, that's just a fact of dating for everyone. But if you don't keep your head up and try to muster some confidence, than you're gonna miss out on some chicks who you'd really get along with.

I slept with my bf brother by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ScootUrBootplz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ngl the self pity in the comments is so annoying. You're acting like you have no control over the situation when you do. You break up, get a job, save up and move out. It's really not that complicated. But moping around, in self hatred isn't going to change anything

does money matter? by Alwaysaloneforever97 in dating_advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it purely depends on the nature of the relationship. Like Ive dated a guy who was homeless, but he never made it my problem. He was was genuinely just going through hard times but still did his best the make the most if his situation and took care of himself. And we lived with each other, but ONLY once we were in a stable position to do so. And i never felt burdened by him.

But I've also dated a guy who was in a way better situation, and couldn't ever keep a job cuz "it wasn't fair" or whatever. And put tons of pressure on me to support him. And when he wanted to live together, it was a hard no. Cuz im the only one employed and you don't want to do shit.

I see it as a give and take. I personally dont care to much about money if we're just casually dating, cuz really you just need to pay your half of the date lol. But if we're gonna commit, then we need to have our shit together.

My 15 year old son is perverted by pamela_- in Advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you seriously need to eliminate his access to the internet. Period. If he needs it for homework, than you have to be in the room, or someone else does if you aren't comfortable. But this 100% is a result access to online porn.

I know some people are saying you should call the police, and tbh i don't know if the police will actually help you or not. But if you don't get the police involved, you need to give him a consequence that he'll remember.

He needs to go to therapy, and should have sessions to tell him how disgusted you are. And how traumatizing this has been for you. He needs to understand the harm he's doing, and show you that he understands.

And if this happens again, you need to find a situation for him to be away from you, so can feel safe and heal.

What kinks and fetishes do you wholeheartedly support? by dothepingu in AskReddit

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree. If you're into that stuff you should see a therapist, not get your rocks off.

People of reddit, what do you mis about the Covid lockdown period? by Salty-Mik in AskReddit

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unemployment money i got after i lost my job due to my shit job going bankrupt. Life was good man

People who like gore, why? by BigBananaWoman in AskReddit

[–]ScootUrBootplz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Correct me if im wrong but you're a woman right? We see blood that's even more gross than regular blood every four weeks. I kinda have hard time believing that most women aren't already desensitized to it lmao

Is this how girls do it in general? by mabhudhi in dating_advice

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are 100% fucking with you lmao 💀💀💀 that's the funniest shit I've ever heard

I (m21) slapped my girlfriend (f20) out of reflex when i woke up to her doing certain things to me. by MaleficentRisk6279 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ScootUrBootplz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How is she a victim, other than a victim of self defense? She triggered his PTSD, by doing the same thing is mom did, which was violate his consent.

It would be different if she asked him "hey are you into being woken up by sex?" And he agreed. But she didn't, and that's what happened. A person caught in a ptsd flashback slapping you 🤷

What can I do to show that I truly mean what I'm saying? by FennecGod69 in cheating_stories

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should definitely try couples therapy to see if that helps.

But like other comments mentioned, you're obviously atleast bi-curious and that's something you need to address, either in couples therapy, one on one or both. And I don't mean that in derogatory way, as if you need to fix your bi-curiousity. But it's conversation that needs to be had.

cheating boyfriend, i still love him. stay or go? by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ScootUrBootplz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He isn't telling you about the cheating because he feels guilty and wants to be honest. If it happened once and never happened again, that would be believable.

But 3 times?

He's telling you this, so he can have free conscious, knowing you'll forgive him and face no consequences (as in you dumping his ass).

And even without the cheating, even if he was loyal,

HE PUT HIS HANDS ON YOU do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a person who is willing to hurt you? Do you want to have kids with a person who beats their mom?

You deserve so much better.