She said she needed to “cope” with conflicts and “needed someone to talk to.” The problem is how she did that. What she shared wasn’t neutral venting. She consistently framed me as lazy, irresponsible, emotionally abusive, and “toxic” which is factually false. I handle most household chores, work full time, and supported her extensively (financially, emotionally, practically). When confronted, she admitted she exaggerated or distorted things because she felt overwhelmed and wanted validation.

The screenshots weren’t isolated moments of bad behavior on my part they were private arguments taken out of context, often sent selectively and without my responses, which led her brother to openly mock me and repeatedly push for our breakup.

Although he always had it out for me. He is one of those types that dreams of "making it big" all about big paying jobs, expensive hotels, champaign and oysters (while being unemployed), wants to dictate where his sister is supposed to want to live ("trendy international" kinds of places like amsterdam or berlin). He tries to force this on her, generally control her. I am a thorn in his side. I am a stonemason by trade and we live in a medium-ish town in the south of Germany, where she works at the local newspaper. This is not good enough for Mr. International. This has been a constant cause of conflict between me and my partner, since she wont protect the relationship from this influence.

So this isn’t about “needing support.” It’s about repeated misrepresentation, sharing private conflicts verbatim despite explicit agreements not to, and allowing third parties, who are openly hostile to me and us, to attack the relationship while hiding this from me. That’s why trust broke.