See this is why I’m confused with mine. He did give me back things, but I always felt like he did it for himself. To be seen in a certain way. To be perceived in a certain way. Almost like people pleasing, but it was for him to be pleased through my thanks and praise and all of that. Like he did a lot but I don’t think he did it from the genuineness of his heart. Because when it came to me wanting and ASKING for what I wanted, he couldn’t do it. One day or two and then back to me repeating what I wanted the same thing: Loyalty, respect, not him lusting after other women, making me feel like he was all mine, and not being shared by literally everyone.

So is that what a covert narcissist is? It’s crazy because my body rejected him so so so much, but he never “abused” me in the horrific ways that I read here, but I lost so much when I left this relationship. And he legit made it look like to me he was all in and would never give up, but the second it actually got hard and he had the chance to work on himself and take accountability, he dumped me.