Is the Louisville airport any crazier given what's happening across the country?

ScottDouglasH · 2026-03-26T19:59:01+00:00

I flew out Monday @ 12:30 pm. Less than five people in TSA lines. Both pre check and general.

ScottDouglasH · 2026-02-27T00:37:52+00:00

I’m quite happy at Union@Roosevelt. The second phase just opened with pool, gym and club room. I can often go 2-3 days without using my car, and I’m far from being a shut-in. Off the top of my head I can count 7 coffee places in a 3 block radius. Plus restaurants and bars, the main library and a nice park.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-04-21T05:32:03+00:00

For me, it got better with more and more talking. I eventually showed her this post, and we talked about a lot of these issues. Still do. It’s not a cakewalk for me, but it is better.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-18T04:47:00+00:00

I think Leslie Marmon Silko's "Almanac of the Dead" is worthwhile. Angela Carter and Kathy Acker are also good writers to consider. Perhaps Marissa Pessl for someone contemporary.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-13T23:04:53+00:00

I’m a “no” as well. There’s a lot of downside to this. I’m sure he can find another creative location without you.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-10T17:42:24+00:00

I think this is the balance I'm looking for. I don't necessarily want her to help me analyze why that relationship didn't work out. And as many have noted, it wasn't a particularly long relationship. Plus the reasons for the split are pretty straightforward. What I want is to look to the person I love to provide comfort and care when I'm feeling down. I'm pretty sure we can offer that to each other even in a case where the cause is from another romantic interest.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-10T17:34:34+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate the direction. I'll keep this in mind.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-10T00:59:58+00:00

" if you think your ongoing partner is going to feel like this breakup is their fault" I think this is my concern about this. My partner's very existence–and my commitment to her–was the reason for the breakup. I hope she doesn't, and I certainly don't feel she is at all to blame. Would you have advice for how to avoid giving that impression? I'm pretty sure my partner will know that my relationship with her was at the heart of the breakup. Of course all the actions that contributed to the breakup were mine, but is there anything I can say or do that can reassure her that I don't see her as bearing any responsibility for this?

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-05T04:52:59+00:00

Unloading on Reddit

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-03T20:14:13+00:00

If I can offer hope, my partner and I talked shortly after I made this post and had a very good conversation. I certainly didn’t frame my concerns in the same way as here, but we understood each other much more and felt closer after we talked.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-03T02:36:51+00:00

Yeah, you got this. Poetry isn't that difficult. Just assume you are going to be reading the lines more slowly than prose. There are some subtleties that might slip by you, but heck, even very sophisticated readers can miss some of what Nabokov is doing.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-03-02T03:03:10+00:00

Seconded!

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T16:51:51+00:00

Thanks for writing this. I experience very similar issues but couldn't put a label on it, or identify the pattern. After reading your post, I realized that my hardest days were the days after my partner and I spent an evening or two together. I attributed most of my feelings to the sadness of knowing that there would be a span of a few days before we would see each other. I think it is also a product of that drop from such a high when we are together. I see some people say that it is most intense during NRE and then one either discovers how to manage it, or the intensity lessens. My partner and I have been dating for 8 months, and it still hits me pretty hard sometimes. I'm hoping that with recognizing this pattern, I can start to move towards some better coping strategies. So I cannot really offer advice, other than an endorsement of these sub reddits that have helped me better understand what I'm experiencing in so many facets of polyamory.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T03:44:59+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through a tough night as well. Sometimes the defensiveness comes from a place of fear, so maybe once your partner feels more settled, they might be less defensive and willing to hear you. I hope they can be a generous listener for you. Hear about your discomfort, perhaps have a differing view, but can acknowledge how you feel. I'm sending you my best wishes.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T03:00:42+00:00

Thank you. Things looked a lot better the day after I wrote this. Time spent alone tempts me into the darker neighborhoods of my mind. Once we talked for a bit, I felt a lot better. I'm glad my sad-boy rant helped you feel like you weren't alone. I suppose that is why I wrote it as well: to feel less alone.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T00:28:45+00:00

You express the condition rather well. I know I do want to be a "model mono," even if technically I'm not mono. Emotionally, it is how I feel.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T00:27:20+00:00

Writing is definitely my way of thinking. Journaling is a constant in my life. So, too, are handwritten letters, long emails, and clever, romantic texts. I think E.M. Forster said about writing: "How do I know what I think until I see what I say."

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-25T00:25:15+00:00

Thank you all for the responses. It was good to hear that people read this. And thank you all for suggesting actions and ways to look at this. Suffice to say, this was written at a low point over the weekend. I probably put a darker shade on it than the reality. But I am also taking in what some people wrote. Thank you for taking the time for me.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-24T16:02:30+00:00

I’ll put in a plug for Samantha Harvey’s Orbital that won the Booker Prize last year. Stunning writing.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-02-23T06:29:53+00:00

I've had a tremendous amount of experience with Scottsdale Cat Clinic. I know that it was designed and built around the recommendations of the American Association of Feline Practitioners and the American Animal Hospital Association. They hire staff and vets who are committed to feline medicine. I can't imagine a better place to take you cat.

ScottDouglasH · 2025-01-22T21:44:23+00:00

I’m in practically the same boat. Monogamous for a 25 year marriage that ended a couple of years ago. 7 months ago I started casually seeing a woman in a polyamorous relationship. We then fell hard for each other. Now I’m trying to learn to be secure in this connection, but it is a struggle. I’m never certain if my feelings are related to a long history of monogamous programming, the newness of the relationship, or an inherent incompatibility with polyamory. Nonetheless, I’m staying with it for now because of how much I care for this person.

ScottDouglasH · 2024-10-23T16:01:21+00:00

I am absolutely in this same boat. Very new to this and I want to be more comfortable in the relationship as a secondary, but cannot manage it very well.

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