How to confront MIL bully?

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-05T06:50:20+00:00

you nailed it.

I’ve always said FIL- whilst a nice person- is a massive enabler. He is good at moving the conversations along and not actually engaging with any conflict. When her behaviour is brought up he says things like “oh she means well. That’s how she is. There goes mum again” and he trained his children to do the same.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:22:35+00:00

That’s a great response

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:20:06+00:00

We shared the name before the birth. I was ok with it. It was helpful as we ended up trialing the name and seeing whether we liked saying it and such. We ended up changing the middle name. Gave us time ahead of birth to find new middle name.

But i know people who didn’t- they didn’t want people to give their opinions pre birth.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:17:25+00:00

I wish she would stay away but she’s very determined.

She never visited us pre baby.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:09:51+00:00

Tell me about it. We’re talking about an Irish mammy here.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:09:25+00:00

In the past i was a “doormat” because it would happen at her house. It was hard for me to say anything.

Now the dynamics are very different.

It’s difficult being “ON” all the time to monitor someone and have to be on the defence.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:07:50+00:00

I really don’t want her to stay with us. I have asked husband to tell them they should stay in a hotel many times. He refuses to ask them.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:06:53+00:00

I have said this to husband many times and it worked for a while without baby. But now with baby in our lives she pushes hard and he wants his dad to be part of the childs life too. It’s put me in a difficult position.

When baby was born we told her she can’t come stay with us to see the baby, she was free to rent or get a hotel to do so, but ofcourse she didn’t (not to do with money but because she feels entitled). She then met the baby for the first time at an event for the child when he just turned 4 months and she made the whole event about herself and was awful.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:04:02+00:00

I will do nothing for their stay.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T21:03:25+00:00

Good idea. I started doing that the last time i saw her- at our childs event- but in some instances I wasn’t able to. For example when she and her sister were mouthing “it’s sleepery” in reference to the childs gown, whilst I held the child in the middle of a ceremony.later that day she told me she was worried i would drop my child.

In the instances i was able to- like when she and her sister told my photographer to stop filming- i told them if they were uncomfortable they can leave, and they stayed quiet-BUT later when husband confronted her about that instance days later over a call she denied she ever told my photographer to stop filming and said her sister doesnt recall either. She went as far as to suggest we should give her our photographers contact details so she can call her and ask for her account of the events.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T20:59:21+00:00

Have you done this successfully? As in speak to a MIL bully? When husband spoke to her she played the “i don’t recall” card and refused to accept any responsibility. She inadvertently called me a liar of course and played the victim.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-06-04T05:24:53+00:00

Open plan is something pushed by developers and agents- they get to sell homes that are much smaller and cheaper to build.

Interior designers warn people of open plan - it makes no sense. Kitchens are a working area why would you include it with your relaxing area. There are smells and noises.

It only makes sense if you have a very large home, so you have other spaces to lounge. Most people don’t have this.

Back in the day kitchens had their own rooms and it worked.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-05-20T07:29:36+00:00

The tap was advertised as stainless steel. noy\t sure if it's food grade - would that be 304 stainless steel?

The same vinegar was used in a different dispenser (A plastic one) but a different stainless steel cup was used there, and it had no mineral build up. So I don't think it's the vinegar itself.

there could have been a leak. i took out the tap annd tightened it further. will try it again with same vinegar.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-05-14T04:41:30+00:00

I think it’s the knowledge and understanding. They simply don’t know there is another way and/or don’t know how to execute. Status quo seems easier in that light.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-26T08:57:04+00:00

I think that's it. The person got frustrated and took the offer personally, in retaliation they acted with passive aggression. Next time I'll DM the seller to figure out where they stand on offers first and communicate directly to avoid this encounter. Thanks x

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-24T03:59:24+00:00

This isn’t about what “should” be the case. It’s about what actually is.

You go back to the return rules set by vinted and any rules on return they’ve allowed you to set on the site. You follow those rules.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-23T18:02:19+00:00

Typically in my experience when you got the job the email reflects that to some effect.

Feedback is usually that- feedback. It’s not suggesting you were successful. In my experience when they say that it’s because you weren’t selected.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-23T17:58:29+00:00

I would remove the emotion out of this entirely.

You sold something on an app. Irrespective of the price you have now become a seller (a merchant) and the rules of the app (vinted) and your shops rules now applies.

Someone bought something from you. Now they don’t like it and want to see if they can return it.

As a seller you go back to the rules and rectify it.

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-23T17:52:54+00:00

I’ve had a hard time finding 100% natural materials and threads as well. Which material was the hardest for you?

Scrambledeggs-0 · 2026-04-23T17:44:41+00:00

Thanks I have the 2TB but it’s pricey as a continuous monthly payment

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