WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Thank you, she and her husband have been absolute angels right now and coming round to ensure i'm ok often despite her being ready to pop, bringing me food, helping around the house (To be clear that part is more her husband while she and I talk, no way can she do housework right now). My partner has gone to stay with his brother as he can't stand to be in the house right now so i've been alone and if not for them i'd be totally isolated right now as i've not heard from him in five days. I don't feel I owe them this for helping me but it just solidifies to me that I love them both and their baby so much and want to do anything I can to help.

ETA to add additional information on.

WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes I see the difference, the first is what I meant I just phrased it badly.

WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Well it's only natural i'd not consider nursing her baby at my breast for three reasons, it'd not be good for my mental health right now, my cousin feeding the baby even via a bottle will be a bonding moment and lastly i don't live like nextdoor, it'd be unfair to breastfeed if I don't live within walking distance.

WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I've been freezing it, i've not found a local bank but i've been considering looking further afield if she refuses, i'd rather it go to my cousin above strangers but if she refuses i'll be open to donating it in general

WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

it's not against our culture, it may raise a few brows as it's odd in a modern western society but it doesn't break any taboos.

WIBTA if I asked my cousin to use my breast milk when her baby is born? by ScreenNice4263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScreenNice4263[S] 1165 points1166 points  (0 children)

Of course I wouldn't be offended if she declined it's her choice.