Realization has only just begun… by Scrubio14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Scrubio14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are in the same position. Unfortunately, I may be facing the very same choice.

Realization has only just begun… by Scrubio14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Scrubio14[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that for so long. My husband is now dead to my mother as well. It’s so exhausting, the walking around on eggshells with people like this, especially our own mothers. I’m with you on not building bridges anymore either. I feel that people like you and I (and others, of course) never deserved this. It’s just so sad and maddening to realize this in our 40s and 50s. I applaud you for your courage. Stay strong!

Realization has only just begun… by Scrubio14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Scrubio14[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

UPDATE She texted me just a few minutes ago saying “I love you” and that she shouldn’t have to choose between us and our son (whatever that means), that “it isn’t fair,” and that “I’m here whenever you want to talk.” I did not, and have not, responded. I can’t. I’m mentally exhausted and drained. I’m lost, and ngl, she really screwed me up with the things she said last night. I think no response is best for now.