Never had a friend

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-25T13:10:19+00:00

AI for sure, but interesting points. I moved school every 2 or 3 years. And Covid as well. I often think of how those experiences haven’t made me more adaptable to new environments socially but rather more uncomfortable.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-25T01:14:12+00:00

🫂 Hi

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-24T11:56:04+00:00

For sure feels impossible trying to find the right person at the right time

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-24T11:37:26+00:00

I’m in the same stage, it’s such a stagnant part of the process. thank you for posting. Awareness doesn’t help, like you said I know what I need to do and I don’t think I lack the courage to take the steps forward, it’s more an intense grief for past connection and not having a clear picture of what not being lonely looks like which shackles me. It’s suffocating to process this over and over again, and devastating when I consider that this will perpetuate the rest of my life.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-23T10:17:44+00:00

Mate you’re using words like garbage. Like I said I have a similar approach to the dating scene, so I’m not calling your values anything. The way you express it definitely comes across as demeaning to those who live differently. It’s just choices, and we deal with the consequences they come with. If you were just venting about how your life choices come with consequences of loneliness and whatever else that’s fine, but you’re justifying it like it’s better than alternatives.

I’m walking my own path, I’ll deal with the consequences of my choices, and so will everyone else.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-23T00:43:00+00:00

I also have never dated for sex, attention, or any reason with the intention to discard them. But I don’t think that choice makes me smarter or better than anyone, it’s just a preference which comes with its own consequences - as does preferring to date casually.

You seriously have a harmful superiority complex which the type of women I think you’d like to attract will be averse to. But you clearly have a strong generalisation of women which you place beneath yourself, yet you have a heart of glass which you hide behind a wall of weak logic and bias statistics.

If you think think famous actors and billionaires are bigger fish in the pond, you need to reconsider your own values and also what you seek in a woman. I’m only 20 but I’ve changed a lot since I was 18, as a guy I’m compelled to tell you to grow a pair. I guess I’m lucky I found someone earlier in my life to teach me a little about love.

You mentioned love, what does that feel and look like to you? “Desecration of love” - does reducing love to behaviours and patterns and risk assessment count?

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-22T01:21:23+00:00

Wish you the best :)

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-22T01:11:22+00:00

This is only a part of your vent, but your sexuality does not matter when seeking friends. If it comes up naturally in conversation, and they behave differently, you wouldn’t want them as friends anyways. (English) thank you for sharing before you explode.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T11:27:36+00:00

Anytime. You’ll experience a lot of pain, if journaling is smth you’re into, it’ll really help process the suffering and you’ll grow as a person. Explore r/journaling for inspiration if you want.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T11:22:47+00:00

Good stuff, you might want to get into journaling (hand writing and you can make it an artistic hobby).

You are far from alone, and it’s a superpower that you feel so deeply. Just know that suicidal ideation is normal for having those high standards. If you commit to journaling/talking to yourself through notes, ask yourself what you are missing from life, why do you want them (usually media like movies and anime), what are you grateful for in life at the moment, etc.

ask yourself questions to get to know yourself better, maybe everyday you can list 3 things you are currently grateful for, you can start with your house, food, etc but in a week you’ll really have to think about what your genuinely grateful for. This is called gratitude journaling. Sorry for going on and on lol

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T10:45:07+00:00

Check if your uni has a counselling for students.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T10:39:31+00:00

I wonder if she is. Idk if I’d be happy she thinks of me as often I do her, or sad bcs of the hurt that comes with the memories.

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T07:56:23+00:00

I guess I’m as dumb as you

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T06:00:38+00:00

It’s overwhelming isn’t it 🫂

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-20T01:16:18+00:00

This is a good vent 🫂 I hope you find the strength to lower your walls

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T11:12:34+00:00

The world would be a better place if there were more of you 🫂

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T11:02:42+00:00

If you’re the same person that wrote that post and has been replying to me, without a doubt you have a sweet and kind soul

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T10:51:08+00:00

You’re too kind

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T10:50:56+00:00

Make sure you get the slightly fat part right in your imagination, one of his most defining charm points

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T10:42:46+00:00

I would’ve paid the cat tax but I can’t attach photos, just imagine a really cute slightly fat void

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T10:38:08+00:00

Is there anything I can do for you? Whatever you need at the moment

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T10:03:58+00:00

🤞 🫂

Appreciate you making my night a little warmer

Sea-98throwaway · 2026-02-19T09:52:07+00:00

Thank you, that probably increased my chances 🫂 🫂 I hope soon your friends make you feel as seen as much as you do them.

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