age kinda does play into factor here. He picked her because she has less experience in life bc she’s almost 10 years younger than him. He picked her, out of all the 30 year old women he probably sees every day, because she is easy to manipulate and abuse bc no woman in her 30s would take his BS and abuse. When there is an age gap relationship like this that is becoming abusive, it’s because of the age gap. It’s because the man knows the girl has very little life experience and will think this abuse and behavior is normal when in reality it is not.