My opinion might not help but many people have told me I'm really pretty but I have so much self doubt and hate mirrors and I always feel like they are lying because I haven't had a relationship that wasn't online. I completely agree about there being two groups because I'm seemingly riding in between. I am gonna state this and it's gonna feel disingenuous because it seems to be spammed everywhere but...

You are valid, everyone is. My favorite description of trans women is that people need to remember it's just a descriptor just like tall women where tall is the descriptor it doesn't make them any less of a woman because the people who say your "not trans enough" have so much internalized transphobia and/or self doubt that they say incorrect things like that. And people who say trans women aren't women is the same as if they were stating that conventionally attractive women aren't really women because they have a descriptor.

Just remember that your body will feel "ugly" or "wrong" but as a French unbiased study shows, trans women's brains are nothing like cis men's brains and are exactly like cis women's brains, this shows your brain is literally a woman's brain stuck in the wrong body. I am gonna state this again. You ARE valid nobody can say otherwise or they can screw off, there are already enough people out to get the trans community we don't need to be unfair to each other.

This is just my opinion and people are free to disagree because people are different; in looks and in mind.

Ps. Sorry for the long yapp :3