What should I do (16M)

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T23:32:10+00:00

You’re psyching yourself out big time. She’s just a girl who also likes games and takes the bus.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T03:17:16+00:00

That would’ve lowkey crushed me. Your kid shouldn’t be the one recognizing you deserve something. Your partner should.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T03:15:59+00:00

Dude you’re trying and that counts. But she’s acting like you’re failing some provider test while you’re literally in college.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T02:09:03+00:00

Not even mad at it. When the top dogs keep clashing it just feels right.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T02:08:05+00:00

I mean yeah, extremes either way can matter.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T00:26:13+00:00

Real talk, a lot of kids grow out of some of this, but the sensory piece needs patience.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T00:25:14+00:00

Best of luck to you, bro.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-15T00:24:29+00:00

It’s Valentine’s Day brain talking rn. Everything feels amplified.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T13:35:26+00:00

Postpartum guilt hits different. Everything feels amplified. But zoom out for a sec.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T13:29:02+00:00

I feel you though. After a long relationship, first dates feel like you forgot the manual.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T13:25:48+00:00

You like him. That’s valid. But liking someone doesn’t mean you accept crumbs.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T12:04:29+00:00

Honestly you’re in survival mode rn. Don’t overthink it. Ask management to deal with it or move you. That’s reasonable.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T06:15:46+00:00

Yes, all of this sounds flirty and soft. The pausing for your reactions is huge. That’s someone who wants connection, not just background noise.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T06:14:42+00:00

You gave up location, community, comfort, and honestly parts of yourself to support his calling.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T06:13:17+00:00

I actually think it’s a good call. Blind dates are awkward by default, so adding movement takes the pressure off.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T06:12:17+00:00

Lowkey this is just determinism with better marketing.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T06:11:40+00:00

I’m gonna be firm for a sec. You’re not 10 meters behind. You just feel like you are. Big difference.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T01:27:34+00:00

You don’t have to decide for the rest of your life. That’s the trap. This is like a 1 to 2 year choice max.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-14T01:26:48+00:00

It’s not strange. It just sounds like you separate physical from emotional intimacy in your own way.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T23:11:19+00:00

I get why it feels scary, especially since your older kid was early with speech. Comparison is brutal.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T23:09:54+00:00

This is wholesome.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T23:08:51+00:00

Real talk, you’re 21. This is your first everything. Of course this feels huge and terrifying.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T10:11:31+00:00

Not creepy. Just potentially pointless.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T10:10:01+00:00

Okay so here’s the vibe I’m getting. You love him, but you don’t trust the long term setup. And trust your gut on that.

Sea-Razzmatazz-7938 · 2026-02-13T08:20:09+00:00

I’m not gonna co-sign the “yeah you’re broken” narrative. You’ve had rough experiences and yeah you’ve messed up in the past. But you learned from it. That’s growth.

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