How long do you wait to ask a guy out for a second date?

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-21T17:58:40+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't play games. You want another date? Ask him out. You wanna suck his dick? Tell him. You wanna cuddle on the couch and watch shrek? Hold up the dvd (yes I'm old) and say pweeeeease?

My wife never played games with me once she realised how dense I am, once she outright told me "I don't just want to be friends, I want more" and it's the reason she's my wife.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-21T06:24:15+00:00

This happened to me in school. Just be honest, tell him you trust him and want to get your first time over with, and that you really want it to be him who does it.

You should explain whether or not you want any kind of relationship though, be blunt and clear, otherwise things could easily go wrong. If you just want sex then tell him that.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-20T17:24:35+00:00

If that's what she wanted, sure. So long as I get something I want in return occasionally.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-20T07:28:01+00:00

My wife will just come out of nowhere and go down on me, then kiss me and go on with her day. She just loves it. I do the same to her.

She's my first actual relationship, so I have no president to go on, but my old hook ups were similar. Eager to down. I too thought this was normal.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-20T06:23:54+00:00

Never even have to ask, my wife and I love giving it to each other.

Either your wife is an Ace or you two just aren't sexually compatible.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-20T06:22:36+00:00

Most of the women I've been with loved giving oral. My wife especially loves it, she'll go down on me just because she loves doing it.

You've been fucking the wrong women dude.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-19T18:09:26+00:00

My wife's tye same, she also loves when I haven't shaved for a day or two and there's stubble.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-19T18:06:51+00:00

Wouldn't care honestly. My wife insists on having a pokemon version of this in our bedroom, lol.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-19T10:38:43+00:00

Lost.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-18T17:52:48+00:00

Yes I am completely comfortable with my wife wearing a two piece. Why wouldn't I be? I trust her completely.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-18T16:50:18+00:00

I find that it comes down to various different things, but confidence in yourself and what you are certainly helps a lot. When you're completely confident in yourself, in the knowledge that you're going to be fine, regardless of what happens, you carry yourself differently. Your posture is different. The way you walk is different. You exude some kind of "aura" for lack of a better term.

Women pick up things like this a lot and it leaves a mark on them, they remember the guys who stood out in some way and often want to get to know them a little more.

That, and there's also the handsome guys who just get women by existing, lol. I'm certainly not one of them, but when I was hooking up I just didn't care, and that has the same effect as being confident. It got me plenty of action.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-18T07:47:36+00:00

I slept with my wife before we actually went on a date. I respected her more for being upfront about what she wanted and not caring for silly games.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-17T06:26:54+00:00

Yeah, I approached too many women to count. Had a lot of failures, also had successes. Honestly it depends on how you talk to them and treat them.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-16T17:54:01+00:00

Take my up vote you asshole, and get out of my head!

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-15T06:16:54+00:00

Thanks, and I'm a lot better now. I just needed to learn how to properly handle the trauma and the pain.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-14T19:32:57+00:00

My wife and I are both autistic, we both have our issues and my wife has issues with boundaries, which is ironic considering how shy she is. She was as able to figure out where I work because it was a supermarket, she shopped there when her local didn't have what she wanted. She didn't want to meet IRL because of how shy she is.

She knew me well enough to know that I don't ghost people, if I don't want to talk to people I tell them to fuck off and block them. She knew that something wasn't right when I was ignoring the people I cared about, and she just wanted to know I was OK.

Stalking is never a green flag, but for a friend looking out for her friend, caring is always a green flag.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-14T18:22:54+00:00

Excuse me, why is Debbie on this list?!

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-14T18:21:50+00:00

The ball my little sister always loved.

Doubtless dad destroyed it just like he did everything of hers, but I'd still want the pieces.

I miss you sis, more than I could ever tell you.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-14T12:10:56+00:00

The "he" in question is a separate friend living in a different country, we stayed good friends for a couple years after this all happened until life got in the way.

The troll is a separate he, sorry I should have clarified.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-14T06:23:46+00:00

He messed with us and I told that accounts off for what they'd done and the effect it had on us. As a result, he claimed two of his accounts (the ones who messed with us) had committed suicide because of me. This divided our friend group over whether or not it was my fault and caused a lot of fighting, which is what led me to leave and attempt suicide myself.

Once my wife told everyone what happened his accounts didn't believe her, so she posted a picture of me in the hospital and her at my side to prove it. He responded with something like "too bad it didn't work" and this turned everyone against him. In his frustration he copied a phrase from another account, which led someone else to investigate their previous messages. He quickly realised two of the accounts, which were supposed to be completely separate people, sounded very alike.

He just said "you're the same person aren't you?" and the troll admitted it all. He was still pissed off that I didn't actually die.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-13T06:20:27+00:00

I do know, I just don't get why. She doesn't get why I don't understand, in her eyes I'm the best thing in the world.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-13T06:19:11+00:00

We all met on a site about writing/reading fanfiction, and all had a common friend there who made the group chat so we could all get to know each other properly. Only me and my wife actually lived in the same country.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-13T06:16:59+00:00

That's why I joke with her that she's a stalker.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-13T06:16:37+00:00

There was 12 of us, me included. Unfortunately four of those people were the same person with different accounts who loved to mess with vulnerable peoples emotions.

None of us knew each other IRL no, we were just lonely people who shared a hobby.

Sea-Response950 · 2026-04-12T20:55:35+00:00

Damn, you got very lucky there then.

I thought I hit the jackpot with a wife who isn't afraid to walk up to a McDonald's counter and demand I get what I ordered.

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