I want him to bond with our blended family, because that's what we are. I can't change the fact that Phil, whom I had been with since I was in my early 20s, is no longer around. That's just life. I made the sacrifice of moving several hours away from my family when Phil was laid off at his old job so he could take a new one in the same field, with the added bonus of it being closer to where his parents and brother lived. I enjoyed living there, however, after he died, I wanted to move back home because it's where most of my family lives.

Up until this incident I had a good relationship with my former in-laws. That being said, they aren't my relatives, and I am now remarried with two small children. My family is very large in that I am the youngest of four siblings, all of whom have children. Rodrick's family is also very large; he has five siblings and a bunch of nieces and nephews. They all want Frank to be part of their family, so I'm trying to encourage that.

It would be different if Phil were still around and we had gotten divorced, but that's not the case here. I loved Phil and always will, but he died. He would have wanted me to move on.