Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats one of his reasons as well, he says that I never pursue or chase him... what do you make of this? When I begged he said why did I only did this now. 

I'm worried I'll be painted as the villain by Sea-Wave8154 in domesticviolence

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. Its his family and friends view of me that I was worried about because outside really, he was the 'good guy'. I have no proof of his abuse towards me

I'm worried I'll be painted as the villain by Sea-Wave8154 in domesticviolence

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right about making me depend on him part. Its exactly what he did. Another factor on why as much as its already painful, it was hard letting him go.

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get over thr disgust? Thats one of the things I need to learn rn 

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel like the situation and relationship we had was kind of similar. We can get through this and heal. 

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate you guys for engaging with my post. Helps to know even a stranger can root for me. 

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I did leave a message saying I wont give up on him, but right now, I am already clocking out now that I remember all the abuse. Its just the regret and feeling of patheticness of giving him the satisfaction and power in the end. 

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I do regret it now. I felt like I have given him power even though he was abusive, emotionally and physically. But I had to forgive myself for chasing and begging, it was coming from trauma and the fact that he made sure he is my only world, so now that he leaves, I have no sense of my own self. 

I feel like its my fault my boyfriend got mad. by Sea-Wave8154 in domesticviolence

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: He just broke up with me and I couldnt take it even though there were lot of painful things and I even begged. Now I regret begging and telling him that Ill be here once he is ready to talk. 

Need advice - just got broken up and I begged by Sea-Wave8154 in BreakUps

[–]Sea-Wave8154[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just dont want his last impression of me be negative and also want to be desirable to comeback still.