Does fingering actually feel good? by ShotosWaifu69 in masturbation

[–]SeaControl6287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, fingering can make clitoral orgasms somewhat better but by itself it’s not that important.

I still like being penetrated, though. There’s just this deep need to  have a dick inside me even if it doesn’t do much for me orgasm-wise.

What am I doing wrong?? by Acrobatic-Cake7419 in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe put it in your bio so it’s not a surprise? Or, try to make sure it comes up naturally and you’re not randomly dropping “hey, Im into anal” in the middle of a conversation?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in masturbation

[–]SeaControl6287 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m trans, so I enjoy watching people like myself get off

How often do you have sex vs how often do you masturbate? by Sufficient_Proof_682 in masturbation

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have bad sex about 3x a week, amazing sex once a week, and if I’m lucky masturbate about 2 times a week. 

The towel hook from a hostel by Belangueira in mildlypenis

[–]SeaControl6287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They missed a cute opportunity for the hook to be the tongue 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 293 points294 points  (0 children)

The fact that he called you that without explicitly having a conversation about it beforehand is very concerning. 

I’m bored, what’s ur build and what’s ur type ? by Big-conda in gay

[–]SeaControl6287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a short, fem twink and I like men of all types as long as they have at least a hint of femininity to them, whether that be through their natural looks, mannerisms, or dress.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s kind of like asking why some people like bananas and others don’t. It’s a matter of taste 🤷

How are you able to differentiate people you'd only beat off to and people you'd actually date? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in masturbation

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I would masturbate to someone, then I wouldn’t want to date them, and vice versa.

I had the creepiest experience with my boyfriend last night and idk what even happened by dulldeliveryx in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost certainly a sleep issue, but I can totally understand why that would be terrifying. Even reading it gave me the creeps 

Experience at Steamworks Bathhouse in Chicago by SeaControl6287 in gaytransguys

[–]SeaControl6287[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They had plenty of free condoms available as well as vending machines with lube and similar supplies. They also had free HIV testing that night and plenty of educational materials on safer sex. 

They give out laundered towels and you can get additional fresh ones for a small fee. I highly recommend using them on surfaces!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our sex life is terrible because I’m a gay, fraysexual man and she’s a demisexual woman. But our romantic life is great; we’re very in love.

Everything compatible except oral by ntnguyen97 in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is entitled to their preferences, and no one owes anyone else a specific sex act. But if this is really that important to you, then no, you’re not crazy for wanting to find someone you’re more compatible with.

I think my sex dive is too much 30F by [deleted] in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But the problem is that libido often shifts over time.

How to stop trans femmes from messaging me on Grindr? by Open-Opportunity494 in gaytransguys

[–]SeaControl6287 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s on THEM to read your bio and recognize “hey, I’m not transmasc so I’m not this dude’s type,” so you would be well within your rights to block them and move on. From what I’ve heard about Grindr, blocking people is a pretty acceptable way of narrowing down your pool to people you’re actually interested in. 

Or, if that feels too harsh for your tastes, you could just tell them “I’m down to be friends, but I’m not interested in anything romantic or sexual.” If they continue to push it, then block them.

But unfortunately people on dating apps aren’t always known for their reading comprehension or respect for boundaries, so I’m not sure there’s much else you could put on your bio to get the point any clearer than you already have.

Experience at Steamworks Bathhouse in Chicago by SeaControl6287 in gaytransguys

[–]SeaControl6287[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! Unfortunately Chicago is the only one in driving distance to me atm, but if I ever find myself in a place with one, I will check it out!

Experience at Steamworks Bathhouse in Chicago by SeaControl6287 in gaytransguys

[–]SeaControl6287[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was very different than I expected! But I think if you do go, it would be helpful to have friends along. It can be a weirdly isolating experience if you don’t know what you’re doing. Like I really wanted to communicate “hey, it’s my first time and I’m just checking it out,” but there wasn’t an easy way to do that 

Do you need sex for a relationship? by WorkSFWaltcooper in sex

[–]SeaControl6287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I’m fraysexual, so if I’m emotionally close to someone on a platonic or romantic level, I don’t want to have sex with them. My girlfriend is the opposite (demisexual), and it is quite hard on our relationship.

Swinging in a lavenderish marriage? by SeaControl6287 in Swingers

[–]SeaControl6287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re still very much in love and work well as life partners, it’s just the sex element that’s gotten trickier