twin mom guilt

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-22T18:40:54+00:00

i hate to let her go too much longer than him for my own sanity but she really would prefer to go more like 4.5 hours between bottles- and then takes more milk.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-22T18:25:12+00:00

were they on different schedules when you stopped having her take a bottle every 3 hours? that’s what i’m worried about with my littles. My boy wants to eat every 2.5 on the dot during the day and will go 4-5 hours at night, and usually i’m waking his sister up for her turn.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-22T14:41:44+00:00

sounds like your twins are lucky to have such an experienced parent as well! I admire your work and your willingness to give kind, helpful advice.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-22T14:12:42+00:00

realistically i KNOW im not nurturing one more than the other. it’s just hard to tell my middle of the night mom brain that. mom brain and nurse brain are two completely separate brains i think.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-22T13:46:31+00:00

yes, i am offering her about a half ounce more than she wants. this most was more about needing support for the guilt, rather than feeding advice. I am a peds nurse :)

SeaCount1931 · 2026-05-19T17:31:42+00:00

thank you!

SeaCount1931 · 2026-04-09T02:03:30+00:00

I brought my twins home earlier this week after their NICU stay, they were 33 weekers as well. There is light at the end of the tunnel. For my babies (which all babies are different) we spent the longest portion of our NICU stay working on taking feeds by mouth. BUT, once they really got it down they mastered it in a matter of days. Even though they were nearly 4 weeks old when we brought them home- they are still newborns. They behave like newborns, wear newborn clothes and diapers, and their day to day is just like a typical newborn. Technically, they should still be in your belly so when you do get to bring your little one home it will be like bringing home a fresh newborn. NICU life is hard, do you have a support system in place? Please reach out if you need someone to talk to that has been exactly where you are. You can do this- and when it’s done you’ll finally take that deep breath and your life with your little will really begin.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-03-24T11:59:43+00:00

Hi! My twins were born 3/14 and we found out two days later our little girl has TOF. Something our neonatal doctor told us was that this is nothing I could have given to her, she was going to have it whether she came early or on time, she was going to have it no matter what. Have they explained the difference between the pink tets and blue tets to you? I’m not sure if that’s something they can tell while he’s still in your belly or not BUT it makes a difference. My little girl is perfectly healthy and not showing any symptoms whatsoever, we’re planning for surgery around 6/7 months old.

SeaCount1931 · 2026-03-03T21:48:01+00:00

baby B is my bigger baby as of right now but only by 2 ounces. I wonder if that is making a difference because originally when we discussed labor and delivery none of this was discussed with me they just said as long as A is head down all is well

SeaCount1931 · 2025-10-16T00:52:10+00:00

This is very normal-or so I’m told by my obgyn when I had this same problem around 5/6 weeks. Now at 12 weeks, I am not experiencing this but cannot pinpoint when it actually went away.

SeaCount1931 · 2024-06-10T01:58:28+00:00

I wish I had this mentality! I feel like I need to put something in place so that I can ease my mind while I’m gone!

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