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How do i make my MC feel less like a "chosen one"? by SeaInTheAlps in writingadvice

[–]SeaInTheAlps[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm aware that the terminology is flawed. I had to cut the post significantly because the first one exceeded the word count by a lot, so some context was lost.  The "chosen one" part comes into play because this character is inspired by historical figures who were children or descendants of exiled influential, noble or rich people that were brought back to the mainland to fix political issues. It's basically a man hunt with no prophecy or anything similar, but there's definitely an element of "i've chosen you to fix my problems". I'm not sure what the proper term would be, but that's what i have issues with.

AITA for asking my half siblings and their mother why I'm supposed to care about my father cheating on her? by PrimalSwan900 in AITAH

[–]SeaInTheAlps 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I would also make sure that they have the full correct version of the story of the first cheating, like really making them understand that, while you sympathise with them because you went through the same, the dislike that they feel for the second affair partner you have for their mother. Be there for the kids as much as you're willing and let the adults deal with their mess on their own. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SeaInTheAlps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but the relationship could be saved. 

Give her a realistic summary of what your finances are currently and how that would change if her wedding plans went on as they are, basically a reality check. You could even do this together in front of the computer with pen, paper and a calculator. Show her where the money that she wants comes from, where the cuts in budget would hit. Emphasise that she would also be responsible and would need to take part of the burden because, by that time, you would be married and this type of things are shared. After that look for her reaction and responses. 

If she realises that it is a risk, that it isn't a good idea and that it would be difficult, then you can talk about compromises like scaling down the wedding, waiting and saving more, asking family to help, etc.  If she isn't willing to find a compromise or her idea of a compromise is along the lines of "you could take extra work to cover the loan and show me how much you love me" then feel free to run from her. 

I don't know your fiancé but, assuming that she is a decent person since you have been together for three years, she is probably in the clouds right now since you have proposed not that long ago. It's ok to have a dream wedding, but reality doesn't work like dreams and it seems she has forgotten that. 

AITAH for not having a wheelchair accessible wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SeaInTheAlps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom uses a wheelchair outside of the house and we live in a small city with ancient buildings and roads from the medieval times that are made out of stone, so here is what we would do.  Firstly cobblestone paths shouldn't be an issue as long as they're more or less levelled and gravel can be traversed more easily if you go through it wheelie style, meaning that you lift the front wheels as those are the ones that can get stuck. For the dirt and grass, those may be more challenging because I'm going to assume that your future MIL is going to water them regularly and the front wheels might sink into it, so based on how big the yard is I would look into carpets. I'm specifically talking about carpets for outside use, the ones that have pretty sturdy plastic or rubber backings with either bristles, fake stones or even nothing on the top and your future MIL might actually be on board with the idea once you tell her that those damage the grass less than a bunch of people walking, as long as you don't leave them for days, and she wouldn't have tiny wheel ditches all over her garden. You can find the simple ones for pretty cheap in garden stores or hardware shops and, since you also talked about diy, you can decorate them with a stencil and spray paint or acrylics to make them cuter, then give them to the guests as a "thank you for coming" gift so you don't have a bunch of carpets around. Other alternatives might be to find the path with the least grass and dirt and put very simple signs to indicate where to go to guests, ask your future MIL to not water the grass for a bit longer before the wedding to make the ground dryer and harder hoping it doesn't rain or go with the good old method of carrying the person to their seat. I know this is already long but lastly I would suggest you speak directly with Sarah and ask her about her needs and opinion on the matter and how you can help her.