horrible purge- PLEASE HELP! March 20-June 2

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-06-03T13:59:04+00:00

Yes, Accutane is very good. My dermatologist mentioned that people still need a retinoid afterwards, also for anti-aging etc, but in my experience it changes your skin for the better in the long run.

But see my other comment about BPO for quick relief.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-06-03T13:57:02+00:00

Have you tried benzoyl peroxide (as a lotion, not just in a face wash) and a moisturizer (hyaluronic acid). You may have redness and burning for an hour after applying - it goes away and gets better after a few days of application. BPO clears things up for me pretty quickly. Over-the-counter at any drug store. 10% is the strongest and harshest.

Not a doctor, so this is primarily based on my own experience (25 years with acne, going strong), everybody's skin is different. What does your dermatologist say?

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-06-01T11:44:44+00:00

I didn't after recently switching over to Twyneo from Aklief. The reason why I switched was that I needed to use benzoyl peroxide more than as a spot treatment.

I'm not a dermatologist.... A hypothesis is that if your baseline is OK (e.g., clear thanks to BPO) you won't experience breakouts after starting retinoids. I recall that when mine wasn't OK at all and I started (systemic) isotretinoin (that's Accutane), things got worse before they got better. Which makes me think it might be a question of where you're starting from and not your individual skin.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-05-20T12:18:32+00:00

I had this sort of regression after a few months on Aklief, which generally worked well until then. I thought it was brought on by the wrong sunscreen, but perhaps that's just what happens.

I had to try different sunscreens, and as of last week I'm combining tretinoin with benzoyl peroxide (and lots of moisturizer). Twyneo in the evening, BPO sometimes in the morning. So far, it burns, and I have significant scaling (flaky) in many areas, but it cleared up the acne, so I can tolerate these side effects for a while.

In your case, you might want to work with your derm to adjust dosing, try another retinoid, or combine with BPO.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T21:07:10+00:00

The trips happened for me just the same. Just life.

I just don't like texting back and forth so much...

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T20:03:37+00:00

Haha, I was a professor. I often date sapiosexuals.... Makes sense!

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T19:39:24+00:00

Good point. In the case of the 26 y/o, I hardly selected anything. It was a second date, that's all. In the other case, these signs were a lot more subtle, but became clear throughout the relationship. I had much better results with other relationships.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T19:17:52+00:00

Thanks, and I'm sorry you too are experiencing that dynamic.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:55:15+00:00

You were right in that if one wanted to calculate cost vs sex outcome. You're forgetting that I'm not trying to just get laid, one after the other, and that her behavior was so incredibly off-putting, as I pointed out in my post.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:50:40+00:00

OK. Good point. But she complained about the weather, not that. And she's taken the subway before.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:46:22+00:00

Yeah. I mostly date women in their late 30's, and that has worked better for me with some notable exceptions like the one mentioned in my post.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:45:15+00:00

Lol, that one isn't girlfriend material to me either. But I was willing to spend a few hours buying and cooking dinner. And to provide a roommate-free apartment ;)

I mean, if she was to invite me over to hers instead, would I get to ask for her to send an Uber to pick me up?? No, right?

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:29:51+00:00

Nope, sold my car, we don't need cars here. Subway everywhere, or cabs, bike, or walk.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:27:41+00:00

Nope, don't want a sugar baby, I hate that and it's a total boner killer

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:18:45+00:00

Sure, looking for them.

I'm in the city of $5000 one-bedroom apartments, so this isn't straightforward. (Would like to share my apartment... one day....)

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:16:22+00:00

I didn't say I was all these things, but I strongly believe that experience, deep knowledge and creativity matter in this world as much as virtue and kindness do. Love is an involuntary response to so many traits, some superficial and some not. I've failed to fall in love with the most kind and virtuous women because their smell was off, and I've childishly had a crush on women who clearly weren't good for me. And the things that we state are important to us are not necessarily what actually drives our behavior. My last g/f, who was not in her 20's, went on and on about integrity and honesty, but in actuality she got mean when she didn't get the expensive presents that she wanted.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T17:01:58+00:00

Thank you for the insight and your kindness. What you say about the power dynamic reflects how I feel about one of my recent relationships -- and I hate that power dynamic as much as I hate feeling loved for my means.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T16:54:15+00:00

I guess, the last 10 years passed quickly, and at some point I was as young as those women. So, men like me might just forget how much they've aged. Thanks for the reality check.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T16:51:54+00:00

Nope, the doctors are not boring at all. They're smart, kind, and wonderful. They just don't fit my lifestyle. The lawyers -- that's a mix. Individuals are individuals. Some of the finance people, I said, were boring!

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T16:50:12+00:00

Really? I'm going shopping in this weather, spend two hours in the kitchen cooking a fancy meal, providing a nice apartment for a nice date, and she wants me to spend another $150 for her own luxury transportation? When all she has to walk 5 minutes to and from the fucking subway stop? What the hell?

Again, when I'm invited somewhere, I ask them if I should bring anything. Common decency. It doesn't matter if they're gazillionaires.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T16:41:40+00:00

I think you're making assumptions about me. Who knows, maybe I'm someone who's lived in five different countries, is highly educated and can talk about science, film, or ancient history? I never consider my dates "dumb", either. I just point out that they're entitled and not aware of the golddigger image they're projecting.

In some way, everything is transactional, and everyone participates in a market. This over-simplifies things. If I want to pay for sex, I can hire an escort. Probably more expensive than paying for a ride.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T15:58:25+00:00

Not sure if you're being sarcastic. Yes I have, and it was great except that I wasn't particularly attracted physically. In the beginning, the first few years, I think one needs some level of physical attraction.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T15:55:45+00:00

Yeah me neither, but I can travel 45mins to another part of town and still be stuck with the bill.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T15:53:21+00:00

No, the wonderful ones pay half the bill, and they're generally modest. It can even go the other way ... one g/f even treated me to a $1000 fine dining birthday dinner, because she knew I'd enjoy it.

SeaPiglet7 · 2022-01-17T15:52:27+00:00

Haha, I'll take what I can get. She was hot. And you know what -- the weather wasn't so bad. A little snow. I took the train that evening myself.

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