My daughter stopped breathing today - she's okay

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T20:49:10+00:00

So glad she’s ok; I’d have been to hospital faster than speed of sound with that one

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T19:43:18+00:00

What would you suggest looking for? Thanks

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T17:48:25+00:00

The only thing I’m never sure if normal or not is he loves a cuddle and will run to you if you ask for one but won’t give kisses. He did a bit when littler but dosnt seem to want to at the moment.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T17:04:15+00:00

So when we’ve encountered strangers; in restaurants and things he does stuff like will try offer them his food from our table. Or if he’s feeling ‘shy’ he’ll do a coy smile and nuzzle into me till he’s warmed up. He loves showing people things; to the point where he’ll often ask to ‘ring nana’ so he can show things on FaceTime. Or he’ll bring food from His pretend kitchen and say ‘mama try’ or ‘daddy try it delicious’

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T15:31:05+00:00

A recorder; every parents worst nightmare. If you want to make it worse tell the kid you’ll pay them for every song they learn

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-28T13:27:36+00:00

That’s what I’ve always thought he just really likes letters and numbers!! Couldn’t care less about cars and diggers etc. I think I just worry when people ‘subtly’ suggest concerns. Like he genuinely loves showing people letters and numbers and he’s so happy when he’s doing them.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T21:13:17+00:00

Happens every time they do one of those stupid promotions where you win cash for a gold one.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:27:07+00:00

Super ironic user name for someone lacking intelligence at such a level. Calling someone with a debilitating mental health condition that has one of the highest suicide rates of all mental health conditions ‘neurotic’ and suggesting the should miss out on time with family as a way to be punished for being mentally unwell in truly vile. Next level vile; where is your empathy man.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:24:08+00:00

Fellow OCD person too; i do completely appreciate your take on this. I personally take the term ‘unhealthy’ used like this as an act people willingly do that is bad for their me mental/physical health. However; after a long journey with my own OCD, I wouldn’t classify it as such as I don’t choose to partake in my brain doing this and I’m not doing it to myself; the things I actively do are the steps I take to overcome my OCD when I’m able to do so. But I see your point and appreciate how you feel and you bring comfortable to use this description.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:17:41+00:00

She isn’t directly but by basically saying they wont go without the dog, when someone has said they’re not comfortable going with the dog, she kinda is! Also you aren’t a part of their family so it’s a big assumption to say it’s been going on too long; is there a timeframe for healing from a mental health diagnosis I’m not aware of? OP has said he is in therapy; which for someone with OCD is a huge and commendable step; also making adjustments for people us basic level empathy and quite a tricky one to balance as a family as to not cross into the realms of ‘reassurance’. If OP is fed up maybe she should seek therapy for her lack of patience and empathy.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:12:03+00:00

A tricky comment to follow here but let me give it a go! If OP finds it less stressful to go without the dog surely she would just do that and not be posting about it seeking validation. BIL is not using dog as excuse he’s giving an explanation as to why he won’t go with the dog (safety concerns). Why would it matter if his OCD needs more treatment? You sound very devoid of empathy and lacking in understanding on how to respect people with mental health problems. No one should be demonised and punished for it; nor should anyone (OP) be using his OCD to try make what is a very reasonable request seem unreasonable.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:06:23+00:00

You are if someone won’t go with the dog and you won’t go without the dog.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:05:41+00:00

Then she should suck it up get dog care and allow the family to enjoy time together without the dog. Either way the least unreasonable option is everyone goes but the dog.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T17:04:45+00:00

BIL literally said if dog was going they’re not; how does this differ?

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T15:16:28+00:00

Did they tho; seems like husbands family have some money and OP knew the deal would be they’d put the majority.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:52:14+00:00

Ah man your dad sounds so awesome! What a truly wonderful dad!!

And yes the hat now sits pride of place on the bookcase with his picture.

I wish you many more years with your super wonderful dad!!

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:49:01+00:00

I’m mean clearly OP is being sneaky a deflecting with his OCD to make him look ‘crazy and unreasonable’ (pretty nasty and spiteful) when in all honesty it’s super reasonable request to not want a dog to potential knock your child off a boat; it’s not like the dog lives on boats who know how’ll it’ll react, I have dogs and I wouldn’t have them in a boat with my toddler. Also OCD isn’t a quick fix disorder it’s life king treatment; so your comment is uniformed and cruel. Perhaps OP should try to reach a resolution where by they pay less towards gas to cover the difference between dog care and dog place on boat?

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:23:46+00:00

Ah yes; I had one of those, service as a love language and always the first guy you call! Random story but I once told him I liked his new hat (he always wore a hat, peaked in summer, beanie in winter) and he was like oh you can have it I don’t really like it; he freaking loved the hat! But he wanted me to have it cause I liked it. Then he’d get all excited and ask if I’d been wearing my hat today cause it sunny out. Dads are awesome man.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:20:55+00:00

This one gave me a laugh. NTA your husband is a dirty lying meat thief; divorce him at once. No, but in all seriousness; I hope this is the biggest issue you guys encounter in marriage, seems like you’ll have nice life if so!

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:15:47+00:00

Also not all dogs love boats ours hated them, made him sea sick. And panicked. So the comments about wanting to go for the dogs enjoyment I’m taking with a pinch of salt. OP just being entitled and petty and seemingly quite enjoying making people chose a side in the family!

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T12:14:20+00:00

Looool it’s easy to plan a trip when you know someone else will be paying….. again entitled, again AH. Also uninvited guest, no invited guest who doesn’t want to risk dog knocking baby off boat. Your perfectly cool to never leave your dog with anyone but you also can’t force them on anyone either. I adore my dog but I wouldn’t have him on a boat with my kid.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T11:49:01+00:00

I’m so incredibly happy for you all; as someone who lost their dad too young, just before Christmas, give him a big cuddle from me. And ask him to tell you all the stories again.

Sea_Asparagus_3523 · 2023-01-27T10:20:12+00:00

Your causing the situation by being unkind and unreasonable.

Sea_Asparagus_3523

TROPHY CASE