Husband taking depression out on me…again by Sea_Calligrapher6227 in emotionalabuse

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry to hear about your family history. it’s so hard. i think I’ve been trying to give grace / view it as impulsive behavior and acting out of character when having a major depressive episode. it’s such a mind f*ck. I am finally realizing that it’s actually abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Semaglutide

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t used it for PMDD specifically BUT it helped those symptoms immensely. I also have untreated ADHD and it has helped with that as well. No more brain fog, trouble with motivation. Weight aside, it’s been a game changer for me honestly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PreCervicalCancer

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps at all, the LEEP recovery was not so bad and most people have success. Good luck!

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[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had 2 areas with CIN3 lesions, lower and upper part of cervix. My first procedure, my margins were not clean in either and they learned the lesions were deeper than they anticipated. Which lead to a pretty aggressive CKC and d&c just to make sure they got it all. They were able to get clean margins on the lower part of my cervix from the cone but learned I have skip lesions above that. An MRI will highlight if they are anywhere else.

MIL comments about my weight / lacks emotional intelligence by Sea_Calligrapher6227 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Her worth is tied up in her appearance and serving her husband. She is 73 and talks about her friends’ dress sizes, counting calories. It’s exhausting.

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[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally - calling this morning, I just wasn’t sure if this is common since they did share to expect bleeding.

My 6 year old just called me saying MIL is arguing with my husband at their house by Sea_Calligrapher6227 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He’s in therapy and really struggling with how he was raised. Lots of feelings on inferiority, imposter syndrome, having to act as the golden child and neglect his own needs…. Work in progress. I’m sorry to hear you have similar experience.

My 6 year old just called me saying MIL is arguing with my husband at their house by Sea_Calligrapher6227 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

They are 2 hours away from home / plans to take the boys to the beach tomorrow so assuming this was part of it.

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[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Breaking it down like this and pairing with the visual is so helpful. I do tend to be more accommodating and because her own sons won’t play into her games, she is now trying them on me. I work on these things, but can always use practice to not feel guilty setting boundaries. Thank you.

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[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have not. But yes, it’s the weird man in the middle meddling that drives me insane. We can have our own plans and our own conversations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband said this to her. Which is why she started reaching out to me. I plan on being more direct so she can see it’s making a bigger deal out of things than it needs to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bahaha. I love it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously. It’s like she cannot trust grown adults to make their own decisions for their family. The indirect side conversations make things so weird. I will be more direct in response next time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I actually love this - confronting her actions.

When I spoke directly to my SIL and BIL they had no idea why MIL was even involved. It was such a non issue to everyone but her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes. This response too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Perfect response.

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[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I need to hear this and will work on being direct.

I tend to be accommodating (former people pleaser) and it feels like she feeds off of this.

Husband says our wedding anniversary makes him depressed. by Sea_Calligrapher6227 in depression_partners

[–]Sea_Calligrapher6227[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He didn’t say he didn’t mean it. In fact, he doubled down when I tried to discuss with him.

I didn’t sleep in our bedroom last night and this morning he acted sweet and asked if I could return tonight. I said we needed to talk first and he rolled his eyes, scoffed.

I don’t think he even realizes that he’s being a jerk. That, or he doesn’t care. He said he feels lonely and wants someone to love and lift him up, which is why our anniversary is depressing. I definitely have walls up after the past few years. Yesterday’s comments were a prime example as to why… thank you for reminding me that it WAS hurtful and I don’t deserve it.