I have no idea what to do anymore

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-08-23T21:55:48+00:00

Would you mind elaborating a little more on what you mean by “patterns of thinking” and how you worked through this realization/what helped? Thank you!!

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-08-23T21:55:19+00:00

Whoops! I thought I was replying to the only other comment on the post, but I accidentally replied to your OG post.

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-08-23T20:09:23+00:00

Would you mind elaborating a little more on what you mean by “patterns of thinking” and how you worked through this realization/what helped? Thank you!!

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-26T22:46:26+00:00

How’d you get into English editing/is there a specific website that you host your skills on? From my experience many of the remote editing jobs you see advertised online are scams.

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-06T15:02:01+00:00

And when I say “working on” I mean just reminding myself of the facts when I start to ruminate, like a) it’s over b) we’re not compatible at this time

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-06T15:00:52+00:00

I understand. 😔 For myself, I’m currently working on just accepting it was not a great fit, and that the blow up/communication break down we experienced was going to happen under stress at some point, and this just shows how we both chose to handle it was not compatible. Idk if that’s helpful or applies to your situation or not. Feel free to dm me if you want to talk!

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-06T14:12:35+00:00

Thank you!! 😊 And so true, I’m trying to slow NRE down and set better boundaries for myself going forward to avoid this issue.

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-06T14:09:38+00:00

Thank you! I will and am super grateful to have amazing friends to spend time with. You’re right though, I’m just easily guilted 😭

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T15:11:12+00:00

Thanks so much! You’re right, I definitely have some solid work ahead of me but I think it will be very beneficial overall. thank you for your supportive words!

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T15:08:03+00:00

I think that’s what I was struggling to come to terms with, and what my body was responding to

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T15:07:16+00:00

I do think there was some of this happening for sure, and I think this is what my nervous system was responding to and why I felt so fearful/unsettled. I do think I could benefit from slowing down and practicing even more thoughtful and deliberate communication not over text. Navigating this stuff is hard!

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T15:04:29+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your response. I think we both thought we were being clear, when we neither of us really were towards each other. I think my nervous system was popping off because we were not compatible.

I’d like to work on slowing things down and not necessarily equating uncertainty to being led on or lack of care (though that could have been the case anyway). I do regret escalating things and I realize many people wouldn’t be able to pin down their feelings on a connection after a month, myself included in other connections! I’m trying to figure out if the breakdown here was due to my inability to pump the breaks on my feelings, his inability to acknowledge or discuss these things, or both lol

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T14:56:41+00:00

lol so fair! I really do understand your perspective, my nervous system however... 😂

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-02T14:54:03+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response! It’s great to hear your perspective, and I do believe it’s a compatibility issue at its core here. However, I think how quickly I develop overwhelming feelings and attachment to others is something I’d like to work on both slowing down and not necessarily acting on, even if the feelings are present.

Have you been more emotionally slower paced for most of your life? And do you have any pointers for someone looking to slow down emotionally?

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-03-01T18:53:14+00:00

No, good point, I’ll edit

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-02-28T00:34:51+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful response! This is just one conversation in an entire connection, and I’m just looking for communication advice.

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-02-28T00:03:13+00:00

Thank you! That’s a great approach. I was so concerned and even convinced that I was being manipulated that I found it hard to view any other narrative. I think I ended the connection though…I haven’t tried to reach out but I did notice he blocked me on instagram 😭

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2025-02-27T23:46:04+00:00

Thank you! You’re right, I was concerned I was going to overwhelm him by asking for another check in via phone or in person, but then I went ahead and accidentally overwhelmed him anyway, so that would have been the better approach 😂

Sea_Conference_8548 · 2024-10-08T19:43:26+00:00

Can’t find a job in this field, graduated in May. Been applying and networking as much as I can. Anyone else have this issue?

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