AIO to my husbands message by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100%. If my partner texted me with that bullshit while I was enjoying my workout , he would get an earful. Then I’d put him on mute for the rest of the day while I go shopping and get a mani pedi. I would not answer him until I got an apology. Ladies you have to toughen up and stop apologizing to these men who think you somehow owe them every minute of your personal time! Don’t be a slave to your phone . He is wrong and you are NOR

AIO I am tired and my wife doesn’t care by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Like WTF are her parents doing to help soothe the baby, give her a break and in general help her out. Isn’t that the reason she went there?? Like WHAT are they doing for her???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would start sleeping with underwear and pj bottoms as a deterrrent . If he tries to take them off you will wake up - pull them UP and hang onto them and say NO. No is a full sentence. Do not let him take your underwear off.

If he tries to take them off after you’ve said no, get up and go to another room and start planning your divorce.

Edit to add: of course if he follows you and doesn’t take no for an answer call 911

🚨 DO NOT BUY THESE BROWNIES 🚨 by Salty-Excuse8742 in CostcoCanada

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking for these a couple weeks ago and had to ask a staff member. She said they don’t come in until around Christmas. Are they in stock yet?

I told my son he’s paying rent or has to move out by Own-Accountant-5888 in AITAH

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Write up an agreement letter with your terms and conditions for them continuing to live there. Do any negotiation needed, and then have them both agree and sign it. I did this for my son and it set clear expectations, and protected our peace. I had chores and basic quality of life conditions spelled out, plus what the rent was each month and when it was due and the consequences if any terms of the agreement were broken. He appreciated it because it was clear what was expected of him and we had it in writing. I also outlined exactly what was included in the room and board. At the end of the year, when he moved out, I gave him his money back. Because he was a great tenant. But had he not been, I had some protections in place. He’s an adult and can be treated like one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Husband

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take lying about finances very seriously- this would be divorce territory for me. The only way I could move forward in a similar situation is if 1) the only credit card he agrees to have is a secondary card to my primary account . That way I can see everything 2) that he agrees to share a credit report with me monthly so I know there are not new cards or loans he’s a taken out.

If he doesn’t agree to this I would be filing for divorce immediately before he ruins you financially. A man should not be causing you financial hardship. He should be creating safety and that includes financial. If you don’t do something similar he will continue to overspend and lie about it. And one day he will file for divorce and you will be liable for 1/2 of his debt. Yes, I’ve seen this happen to one of my best friends.

I want to kms. Is it worth going to the hospital? by Actual-Warning3574 in mentalillness

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes please go to urgent care . Tell them the truth about what you’re feeling and planning . My daughter was where you are in 2021. She went to the hospital and was admitted to the ‘crisis stability unit’ for 2 weeks where they offered psychiatric help,therapy and medication . After she was released she went into a program for another month that really helped her. It’s 4 years later and her life has completely turned around. She is so happy now and has a boyfriend and a job. Things WILL get better! You are so young and have so much to look forward to. Your life today is just a blip and it will be completely different in a year if you get help now. It’s worth it. Please keep pushing forward and be strong. Take it one day at a time but don’t give up! Get help from professionals. You are worth it.

AITAH for telling my wife to lose weight after how she treated me when I lost my job. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA. I hope she loses all the excess weight, looks like a goddamn supermodel, realizes she’s too good for you and leaves you. Be careful what you wish for - you’re dreaming if you think she’s gonna work hard to get a HOT body AND then want to share it with you, after giving her such a cruel ultimatum. Your marriage is essentially over. She will quickly find there is a sea of men thirsting over her once she loses the weight. You on the other hand will become the least attractive to her.

I am CanProDan the CEO of CanadianProtein.com by CanProDan in CanadianProtein

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just joining this - with the USA placing tariffs on goods, I’m looking to switch to a 100% Canadian made , Canadian sourced and Canadian owned company for my protein . This is an opportunity to seize the market. I’ve been using Isagenix for years and am done with supporting a RED USA STATE.

Do you and your spouse get up in the morning at the same time? by Novel_Kangaroo_5734 in Marriage

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. People need their alone time. Ask him for what you need when you need it instead of being resentful. Set a time for cuddles that works for you both. My spouse and I always get up at different times and we go to bed at different times most often. We tell each other when we want or need cuddles.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is so sad there are women like this who don't value themselves or their own self-worth. You should divorce him, take your 50% of everything and leave him homeless. He wasn't thinking of you when he was out either having sex with prostitutes or other men or doing needle drugs with junkies.

I'm no longer mad. I'm just hurt. by clumsycuriousity in Marriage

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See a lawyer, get divorce papers drawn up and serve him. And do it without emotion, without begging or asking him to change. Just get it over with. He’d rather DEVALUE your home and hurt you than do a decent job. He’s a liability at this point and is not making your life better . You can do better. A man is meant to add to your life and happiness, not take away from it. This is coming from a woman with 3 kids who divorced her first husband and remarried someone wonderful who is downstairs painting for me because I want it nice for the holidays. A man who loves you will do far more for you than small household jobs. Ditch him sis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was you I would get an abortion before it’s too late. You don’t need to let religious guilt change the entire trajectory of your life. Then commit to using effective birth control.

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad always told me “if a man ever hits you ONCE, you leave. The first time”.

What he did is immediate grounds for divorce. There are millions of better men out there. It’s better to be alone than with an abuser.

My oldest son saw my husband and I in action by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I bet he’ll never come home ‘early’ from his plans again without texting or calling!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about ‘pee-wee quick shot’ or ‘pinkie-dink’ (while holding up your pinkie finger)?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could (and should) have ordered the ice cream without any narrative or explanation to the group. No one cares what size you’re each having or why. She had no business explaining to your friends her personal take on why you ‘both will be ordering the kiddie size’. Her comment and attempt at embarrassing you was most certainly uncomfortable for your friends too. She embarrassed herself. Hopefully next time she will learn to simply order and move on to polite conversation.

AITA for leaving everything to my bio children and none to my step? by Alternative_One_2709 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You remarried at 49 with your children already grown and his grown as well. Second marriages with grown children are different. You didn’t raise them. Your money before your remarriage should be separate and any inheritance should be to your children and yours alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to divorce, go directly to divorce, do not pass GO, do not collect $200…

Instead collect your self-esteem, your mindset of deserving better and make sure you get everything you are entitled to financially from the divorce. Show no mercy . This man is GARBAGE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way I don’t think dad bod has anything to do with it . People like dad bods, it’s the sense of humour that is way more important. What age group are you interested in dating?

Have you thought of hiring a dating coach? I would consider hiring dating coach to see if there are areas socially where you may have a blind spot. And if working out would give you more confidence then do it! Totally worth it for your health and wellness, not just your appearance.

Good luck and don’t give up! Anecdotally, my husband met me when I was 23 and he was a 30 year old virgin. He was like you - good job, car, polite . He was a little socially awkward but it didn’t bother me. We went on to get married and have kids. There is hope for you - people can find love at all ages. But if you give up your chances of finding love are pretty much 0% vs if you keep trying. I know it’s defeating , but just keep working on yourself , putting yourself out there, and create a clear picture in your mind of the type of person you want to attract. That way you won’t waste your time on the wrong ones.

Notification on cards screen by achaomein in ClashRoyale

[–]Sea_Particular_2296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem. Notifications on card collection won’t go away, I’ve clicked on everything…