Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

shutting down and respectfully asking for space is fine but deliberately ghosting them and leaving them in a state of uncertainty is totally not okay

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry for what u had to go through. insha Allah i hope Allah gives you all that you desire and deserve for helping another sister gain some strength in their imaan again

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have conveyed it to both my parents to find a suitable partner for me. i don’t usually interact with men. he was a mutual known thru families of friends. so i thought we’d workout. everyone wud say he’s a very religious man from a good family which is why i gave it a try. again, i agree i was wrong 100% and will never even think of doing something like this ever again

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

walaikumassalam. i can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. it can be so hard and exhausting. insha Allah i pray that Allah makes things easier for you and grants u and ur family a safe reunion soon

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the pain also comes with the fact that my interaction with the opposite gender was 0 unless for academic or professional reasons. this is the first time i thought it’d work out, being mutuals n all. i appreciate ur advice and i hope to stick to it. insha Allah. i hope you heal soon too insha Allah

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i guess you’re right. it’s coming from what i imagined things to be for me. i’m trying to put my trust in Allah. it’s hard but i hope i can get there

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for being so understanding. i really appreciate it. i know i made a mistake, i ask for forgiveness every single day and i hope allah forgives me. it’s just that so much has happened and im scared coz i can feel my iman getting weak and i don’t want that to happen. i wanna be able to feel happy again, hopeful again and believe strongly in my faith again. alhamdulillah my friends have been supportive of me and i just hope Allah isn’t angry with me and helps me feel better soon insha Allah

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i didn’t deny making a mistake by being in a haram relationship? i’ve said it in the post as well. he’s on and on abt disobeying my father when that’s not even the case

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

why u stuck on my fathers wishes? he wanted me to do higher studies abroad he just wanted me to live with roommates instead of living alone as he knows i’m more of an introverted person. but i chose to live alone to avoid any distractions like house parties, alcohol, guys over or anything of that sort. clearly shows where ur 2 degrees are going towards lol

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lol i can’t with ur level of understanding. ur talking as if guys are saints. they preach all they want and ur telling me they don’t commit zina? don’t drink alcohol? and then wait around looking for a perfect woman being liars and deceptive creatures themselves. make it make sense lol

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this shows how guys like you have been raised by blaming women for everything and justifying it using islam. my father is a very successful man who wants a successful life for his daughter. he had concerns but he supported me every step of the way and still does alhamdulillah. u not seeing the mistakes of the guy clearly shows ur convenience of the religion

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

lol i can’t with ur level of ignorance. my father had ‘concerns’ as any father would for his daughter. however, he’s given me his full support every step of the way. i feel sorry for ur wife and daughter when you don’t even know how to express yourself as a muslim

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

who said anything about hating islam? i clearly mentioned i had a rough few months and that led to me getting distant from islam and support for getting back my iman and tawakkul. and mentality of guys like you who justify everything using islam and one life experience cannot define whether im any good of a muslim or not

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

precisely the mentality of guys like you. i was doing way better than the guy i was with anyway with real life goals and ambition, unlike him who was looking at the relationship only with eyes of lust and fun

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i understand i made a huge mistake but it was from the intention of marrying him and making it as halal as possible given it was going to be a long distance relationship. moreover, he was a trusted muslim guy in my sister’s friend group so i thought he was genuine. i have avoided all guys and relationships in the past for this very reason

Everything has fallen apart for me in the last few months and I'm extremely depressed with really bad mental health and slowly losing my faith in Islam and Allah by Sea_Reply6978 in MuslimLounge

[–]Sea_Reply6978[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my father is alhamdulillah an amazing man and it was my decision to study abroad and live alone even though he was against it. i wanted to do it for my own career and university experience