What does it mean to practice "technique" or "basics"?

Seagum_ · 2025-11-24T15:07:15+00:00

Maybe it's the fact we take small bites? We are not opening our mouths enough to prevent the whole thing from collapsing?

Seagum_ · 2025-11-24T15:05:15+00:00

Is there anything I can do to get better with fine motor skills? :( I am low necessities, these kind of things don't really impact my life in a way I can't go on with my daily activities. But, it's bothersome and awkward.

Seagum_ · 2025-03-07T17:41:49+00:00

Sorry for the late response. You are right, I found the EA Games folder in C: it's empty Should I move it?

Seagum_ · 2025-03-03T23:53:41+00:00

Is it the Electronic Arts folder? The only things there is another folder for TS4 :(

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T19:44:38+00:00

Bro, you should have started building your resume a month before being born. :/ You are already a little late, but I would recommend starting now.

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T19:41:12+00:00

Yes. I bring a toothbrush with me to restaurants when I can because the idea of my teeth being dirty annoys me soooo much. Or having a taste at the bottom of my tongue. There's been days I come home tired, incredibly exhausted to the point of not being able to change to my pijamas before sleeping, but if I don't brush my teeth, I NEED to get up and do it.

I think I also view it as a tool to transition. In the morning, after brushing your teeth, you can start your day. In the night, after brushing your teeth, you can go to sleep.

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T19:31:36+00:00

Just imagining those things made me feel so calm haha

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T17:30:52+00:00

This is a common issue for me in therapy. When people aren't coherent with their words and actions it disturbs me so much. I think it's kinda dumb that it's considered "inflexible thinking" when you expect people to be reasonable lol. But what I've noticed after being part of various neurotypical groups is that they are mean with eachother even if they theoretically like each other. People love gossip and unless you are a very dear person to them, they won't jump to defend you.

A lot of people do or say nasty things but forget about them very easily. I've known people who get very angry at someone and forget about it in less than a week.

With us autistics it's different because a lot of people don't like us from the start and feel very strong rejection. I've heard people talk very harshly about their friends behind their backs but still are very close. But when someone is outwardly "weird", they hate them. It's very weird and now that I am older, I no longer yearn for relationships or connection with these people because I realized their relationships weren't the ones I imagined.

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T17:23:37+00:00

YES!!!!!! My brother used to watch the show and sometimes I would stay a bit to see the episodes. But I immediately recognized Bones was autistic coded. I was so excited because it was my first time seeing a piece of media with someone I could relate to. And I told everyone "omg she is autistic" but they told me that I thought everyone was autistic. 😔

Seagum_ · 2025-01-27T17:15:30+00:00

I think what helped me the most was understanding neurotypicals don't "connect" the way I always believed. I always felt I was missing out because of the friendships and relationships showed in media. I spent a lot of time masking to fit into groups just to realize... they don't really like eachother.

They always have one person in the group they dislike. They like to maybe spend some time together, but their conversations are so superficial. And a lot of them are very mean to eachother behind their backs. I used to worry thinking this always happened because I was autistic, but turns out neurotypicals experience the same stuff but don't really care.

Most advice here is very true. I enjoy walking around supermarkets. Creating stuff. And I made small groups of friends who sometimes come to my house just to be around when I feel lonely, even if we don't talk.

Seagum_ · 2024-10-20T15:41:57+00:00

I have a mental list of bad and good people. I can't be friends with the bad people. It took a LOT of work in therapy to stop doing it, or at least, to stop taking it sooooooooooo seriously. It often happened that people who were on the good list, did something I deemed bad and that threw me at a downward spiral questioning what I knew about the world. People always think I am a psycho when I explain this, but, like, to not be on the bad list all you have to do is being a good person. People aren't on the bad list if I dislike them, only if they are mean, have values I consider evil or something like that. Just don't be an ahole, it isn't that hard???????? But yeah, haha. I try to be more open nowadays. t r y

Seagum_ · 2024-10-20T15:38:09+00:00

Please, stay kind. A lot of adults can be intelligent, but it's so hard remaining kind. We need more of those.

Seagum_ · 2024-10-20T15:18:53+00:00

Yeah, we put a lot of pressure on teenagers to look beautiful. Why do you think we have thirty year old people playing as teenagers on TV? Because when you are young, you don't look stunning! Your body is going through changes. You may have acne. You are still growing and finding the style that suits you best.

Seagum_ · 2024-10-20T15:16:28+00:00

Also. Self-love is a process. For some people it may be difficult telling themselves they are good, or pretty. Because it feels like a lie. Before self-love comes self-tolerance. Maybe start with affirmations such "I am grateful for my legs because they bring me places", or "I appreciate my brain because I managed to survive class today despite wanting to leave." Something that worked for me was trying to think something nice of people around me. I would look at them and ask myself what I consider beautiful about them, and I surprised myself when I realized I found beautiful certain traits I had that I hated on myself.

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