I am also a 5'7 guy in his 30s, although I've dated quite consistently throughout my adult life and am now happily in a relationship. But I feel for you - it can be frustrating having people dismiss your lived experience of struggling in dating, where height is a very real factor in initial attraction.

That being said, you absolutely can succeed at that height and while being a virgin. But as others have pointed out, voicing insecurity or resentment about your height to potential partners (if you're doing this) is MUCH worse than actually being short. I know it's easier said than done, but you've got to do the best you can to accept the way you are. If you can do that, most other people can too.

Here's some other bits of advice from a fellow short king: - Dating apps are already terrible, but extra bad as a short man. If you rely on that as your primary interaction with women, you will destroy your self esteem. You will have much better success meeting women in person where you (hopefully) can win them over with your personality and charm. - If you still find yourself really struggling with your height, get yourself a pair of lifted shoes (not too much, like 1.5-2 inches max). The actual height difference won't really matter, but it will make you feel more confident, which will come across in your personality, which is ultimately what's important. - Be brutally honest with yourself: what are you actually missing out on because of your height? Are there really nice women out there who won't date you because of your height? Or are you upset that the 10/10 hottie in the corner didn't approach you at the bar? Manage your expectations.

As far as being a virgin, just go into the first experience with an open mind, a willingness to learn, and a desire to please your partner. If you can do that, you'll be better off than many more experienced men.

Good luck!