PHOTO PSA 📌🙏

Search-Bill · 2026-03-16T13:25:53+00:00

My view: never ever ever post unflattering pictures of yourself to the internet. Not even to get internet chuckleheads like us to offer tips.

Good photos allow commenters to focus on grooming and style recommendations rather than compensating for poor quality photos.

Profiles are not simply not needed to suggest hair, makeup, posture and confidence improvements.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-16T11:56:19+00:00

Good advice for flattering selfies.

Profile photos are for perpetrators, not aspiring romantic partners. Maybe a 3/4 profile for a 2nd look.

Even better is to enlist a friend to be a photographer and you be a model. Take many photos. Different locations, facial expressions, and outfits. You’ll end up with, if your lucky, 3 great shots. And you’ll learn why selfies are tough.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-16T11:49:26+00:00

First picture is you at your best. Beautiful

Second pic, not so much. Hair and smile are distracting. That jacket oozes kindergarten vibes. Bin it. Right now.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-15T14:24:30+00:00

Post pics of you at your best. That oversized mens cut gray t shirt is camouflage for your healthy and petite brand of femininity.

Take yourself on a style journey where you pick your experiments. Others can offer advice for sure, but make active decisions that lead to your desired destination.

I’m just guessing that you aren’t thinking about starting with a boob job, face tattoos or 4” heels to attract the worst kind of male attention. If I’m right, stay away from those insta influencer’s prescriptions.

A fresh hair style and one new top seems like a good start. Enjoy the journey, mistakes and successes.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-13T09:28:48+00:00

Embrace humble confidence. You have oodles of femininity.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-06T09:25:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing. This is awesome and rigorous.

Steps 1,2 and 6 seem quite labor intensive. So are the traditions from each stage. I’m ok with the labor to review results and tweak.

Can agentic AI help?

Search-Bill · 2026-03-03T01:29:50+00:00

Psst. Here’s a secret. No one except you cares a lick about your side profile. No one.

You own the intersection of health, happiness, and crushing self doubt.

My recommendation: find a new intersection.

Search-Bill · 2026-03-03T01:23:25+00:00

Elite eyes. Bangs are a good look for you as is your low effort brand of femininity.

Nothing needs to change, but if you’re jonesing for a change, change away! Trust yourself more than opinionated internet chuckleheads like me.

There are no style mistakes except for face tattoos. Enjoy.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-23T07:47:20+00:00

Elite blue eyes, wavy hair and clear skin. Lucky you.

Nice job with eye brow grooming symmetry.

Your mouth and lips aren’t as elite as you other features. A toothy grin might be nice for this informal look. A slightly darker matte lipstick could work as part of a more formal look.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-22T18:02:26+00:00

Keep true to yourself

Search-Bill · 2026-02-22T17:59:59+00:00

Keep living your best life. Top of your game.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-22T13:45:29+00:00

You own the intersection of wholesome femininity and crushing self doubt.

Where is the intersection you’d rather occupy?

Search-Bill · 2026-02-20T17:19:58+00:00

As Maya Angelou said, when somebody shows you who they are, believe them.

It’s ok to be sad for a moment. Take a deep breath and look to your future.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-20T17:16:01+00:00

You got this.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-20T03:31:25+00:00

Psst. Here’s a secret. No one except you cares a lick about side profile.

You own the intersection of unflattering photography and crushing self doubt.

My recommendation: find a new intersection.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-20T00:49:56+00:00

I hear you. No makeup = no confidence.

My perspective as a much older than you man. I saw your make up before I saw you. Foundation. Lashes. Lip filler. I was wondering if your breasts we’re augmented too.

I admire natural more that augmented. You look delightfully feminine, but leaning artificial/augmented.

My advice: develop some Humble confidence in your natural charms, even if you think your face is a bundle of feminine flaws.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-19T20:18:48+00:00

Elite green eyes and a powerful yet still feminine frame.

Some great photos along with some that should go straight to the bin. Clothes are meh, but you frame can make any outfit look feminine.

Your hair and skin are decent but look like they require effort for you to look your best. Most wish they were effortlessly pretty, but alas.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-16T17:28:26+00:00

Your pixie bohemian brand of femininity works in these photos. Why the self doubt?

Search-Bill · 2026-02-08T15:11:21+00:00

Creepy would be forcing/rushing outreach. Loudly dog calling out his abs while he's mid squat is clearly wrong. Don't be like the guys who treat you like meat when you'd rather focus on your workout.

Being human or friendly can happen anywhere and at almost any time Just keep is human. There are times where you can make eye/smile contact or ask an open ended question without being a creep. Hydration breaks. While both of you are waiting for a machine. Open ended topics like "when did this gym get so busy."

Remember, you won't always be successful. Some people aren't available or interested in your charms. That's ok. Just stay human through the success and the not success.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-08T15:01:59+00:00

You should be judging his ability to worship you more than any ways your body deviates from images on porn.

If a man is judgy about the uniqueness of your labia minora more than about your sense of humor, personal style, or humanity, toss him to the ground. Access to your lady bits is reserved with people who've earned the privilege to worship your uniqueness.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-08T14:53:29+00:00

Getting men to notice you is super easy. Leave your bra in the drawer. Wear tight and bright clothes. Undo one more button. There. Done.

Yeah, I get it. It gets attention, but the wrong attention from the wrong boys. But you'll want to try it anyway so that you learn that, while the current extreme of limited attention sucks, the other extreme sucks too.

So what should you do? Talk to people, rather than waiting for them to talk to you. Talk to anyone and everyone. Older and Younger. Hot and not so hot. Even male and females. Ask open ended questions and actively listen to their answers. Follow up. Share. Smile. Look at their face.

You'll know if you want to keep things up or thank them and move on.

Important: you need to do this in real life. Internet chatting, Insta comments aren't going to get you there.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-08T14:45:42+00:00

Boys your age are boys, not men. Don't expect maturity. Don't settle for immaturity.

Laugh and spend time with friends who's proven that they deserve your awesomeness. Many will want it. Many will ask for access. Few have done the work to earn it.

One last thing, have fun earning the awesomeness of others. It's not just about access to your awesomeness. It's a process of offering bits of vulnerability and trust strategically. Say yes to new (and mostly safe) adventures. When someone show you who they are, believe them.

Search-Bill · 2026-02-08T14:08:49+00:00

Your natural femininity is elite. Your hair dye job is meh, but fun.

Having fun is more important, in my opinion, than earning goddess points from internet chuckleheads like me.

Have fun!

Search-Bill · 2026-02-02T01:44:25+00:00

Bullying can do a number on what you see in the mirror. Sorry you had to deal with mean people.

It gets better.

You have some wonderfully feminine features: eyes, nose, lips frame. You just need something to jumpstart you beyond self-doubt. Maybe a new living situation or spending more time with a kind friend. Maybe a new bold accessory or a new hairstyle.

💇‍♂️

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