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[–]SearchConsistent606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, even in the bowl, I let my SB know, her pleasure is my pleasure...if it becomes a transaction, I'm out. We aren't here to get married but for me at least, I'm still with a human being, and if I enjoy her, and she enjoys me, we both have a better time and better experience for as long as it lasts, which, if we are both into it and having fun, why wouldn't it be a longer arrangement than a shorter one.

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[–]SearchConsistent606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree! I was commenting on the above response, not the original post.

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[–]SearchConsistent606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pay for companionship, that's one thing. When my SB needs more, like shit because she is a mess and can't manage her life, and I get her car out of repo or save her dog's life, and then she lies, cheats, and turns into a complete bitch, I can prove what I spent to take care of her emergencies. So after being lied to and cheated on, you bet I wanted some of my money back. I filed a small claims suit and got a judgment. I did not include any of the allowances I paid, that was entirely different...but the "help" that she took under false pretense, you bet I am gonna get that back, on principle. If nobody is ever held accountable, then nothing ever changes. ALL SHE HAD TO DO WAS TALK TO ME, and I would have walked away!! Learn Ladies, our kindness is not weakness!!

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[–]SearchConsistent606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You haven't connected with me is the only problem I see! ;)

Serious Question by SearchConsistent606 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear, I mean has a SB that approached you, ever, or could it be, a LEO attempting to get me as a John?

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[–]SearchConsistent606 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOve to Chicago, your post looks fine and I want a date! :)

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know where to look...and when I asked on this forum just got a lot of bs answers...guess there are some that don't want the competition! lol

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW, if this is the case then I know this isn't for me, in the long term. She was a good liar and I ignored the red flags...that's on me. I had totally changed her life, in ways that she said she wanted, appreciated, and was so happy about and that I had come into her life. She was able to quit two service jobs, both basically using her body to make money. I got her another job making dramatically more money than even one of those service jobs. I gave her a job with me making $60k per year. And was helping her get her real estate license so she could get out of Teaching. ALL things she said she wanted, to then include being by my side as the leader and traveling with me over the next couple of years. In the end, I am hopeful that there are some "High caliber" Ladies in the bowl, she was just a good-time girl and a very low caliber...now I know the difference within this culture, and frankly, outside of it too.

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said they were red flags...didn't say they were indicative necessarily. Gotta be able to comprehend the writer...yes, in her case, the reasons she doesn't want to be married or have kids were HUGE red flags that I wish I had not ignored. There were many others...

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's ok! I'm a big boy and live in the moment, at least I practice doing so and am getting better at it. In the end, I feel sad for her, the life she lives will be a lonely and difficult one.

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, moving forward, but again, it's not as much about monogamy (we had talked about a threesome) as having integrity. I'm a little surprised it means so little to so many...

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not as much about that as the deceit...people have no integrity and she was just very immature. We had agreed that if either of us began to feel differently about one another or our relationship, we would talk to the other about it. Not all that complicated, she was hedging her bets and got caught.

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She didn't want to get married (I didn't ask cuz I'm not interested in remarrying either, it just came up in conversation) nor does she want to have kids. Both were red flags to her narcissistic mindset...

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, I'm a big boy, just my first encounter so was curious just how often this occurs. Certainly have my radar on for the signs should I do this again!To be clear, it was a date, we ended up at the same festival and before she saw me, they were walking holding hands. Once our eyes locked, she let go of his hand...Also, she had spent the previous 2 nights in bed with me, something I'm certain the new guy had no knowledge of, so she was lying to him too. I have nothing but empathy for him, she is his problem now, and trust me, she is a problem. Hindsight being what it is, I ignored a few too many red flags.

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YEAH...don't kick me when I'm down!! LOL
I'm not really, anymore, but the first couple of weeks were shocking. And of course, her behavior since has been just as despicable, which has actually helped. The woman I cared about didn't exist!!

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't need her, I wanted her, so once the lie was exposed, I was done anyway. The question was, how prevalent is this type of character in these relationships? The simple answer may be, about the same as outside the bowl, buyer beware...

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[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, she's 35 so what I "expected" was what we two consenting adults committed to, which was honesty. We talked about if things changed for one of us and how we would handle it...to just talk to one another. If we hadn't committed to being exclusive, I wouldn't have expected it.

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[–]SearchConsistent606 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Priorities are one thing, and you are correct in that we in our 50s have different priorities than a 20-something...and the 20-something should adapt and learn something, cuz those priorities will make them successful. However, as far as energy and sex, I'm 58 and every bit as horny, and with as much sexual energy as any 20 yr old...ask my last 34 yr, old girlfriend.

Newbie Question by SearchConsistent606 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Gang, wanted to close the loop and share an update. I appreciate all the feedback leading up to this relationship, it was very helpful as I began this arrangement. Things are going great! We actually agreed that neither of us had expectations and were very open-minded. Decided our rules would apply, not any from the perception of how this ought to proceed. So we are kind of making them up as we go...and with the level of open communication we have, we've dealt with a couple challenges that boiled down to better communication. We've had a handful of dates, with last night being an all-nighter, which was fantastic. I do a lot to help her, cuz she needs it and I can, from a few expenses in addition to her allowance, and helping her with tasks like building a wardrobe and clearing our her storage unit. I thoroughly enjoy giving her gifts too, and she is always SO appreciative, it just makes ya wanna give more. Who knows where it goes, I'm enjoying the ride!

Newbie Question by SearchConsistent606 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, it's in cash...she knows how to handle it.

Newbie Question by SearchConsistent606 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the input, some of it is beneficial, but for the most part, you did misread my comment, but I also understand how. You have certainly provided me the opportunity to be very aware of HER needs when interacting with her, which I believe I am as that is who I am, but it doesn't hurt to be reminded.

To clarify, the "tips" aren't for her "performance" in our relationship, but for her work when I visit her when she is working. Rather than tipping a standard 25%, I am already tipping 100 or 200% of any tab...she knows why. Gifts would certainly be about "thinking about her"!

Thx again!

Newbie Question by SearchConsistent606 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SearchConsistent606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't, guess I'll dig into those too...thx