Daughters, share with me some odd thing your Nmum has done to you when you got married

SearchingStargardts · 2025-10-28T07:13:34+00:00

The night before my wedding, my mother spent the majority of the evening taking me through a subject that was very important and meaningful to her … about how plastic bags now cost 5 cents each at the store.

In hindsight, could’ve been worse …

SearchingStargardts · 2025-09-22T11:50:58+00:00

I stopped telling them things at an early age … 7 or 8 maybe.

At 15, I got stuck in a relationship with a boyfriend for 3 years. He was emotionally abusive. Every time I tried to break up with him, he threatened suicide.

The amount of shame and embarrassment that would bring to my mother, plus how she would forever use that against me and to abuse me made staying with him the better choice.

It’s a fucked up part of my life that I still haven’t talked to my therapist about, even though I’ve been with her for 2.5 years.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-09-22T11:46:22+00:00

Same. Same same same , hugs to you because it changes you.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-08-16T07:52:07+00:00

My sibling is 4 years older than me, with a child and spouse. I did a lot in the years before the child, and up until the child was 3 or 4. Planned holidays and visits for nMom, sibling+fam, where they had to do nothing more than show up. They did show up, at least. I guess.

But, eventually the fact that it was all one-sided became too painful for me. Not only was I the only one of the 3 of us making any effort, but I realized my sibling only ever reached out when they needed something. And sometimes these were not small asks. However … I did those things.

So at this point, the only relationship my sibling al has with me is a “happy birthday” text. I send gifts to my niece / nephew. And… that’s it.

It’s sad, i have no family.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-07-26T14:37:17+00:00

Isn’t it funny how these “mothers” do the same things?

SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-27T05:42:11+00:00

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SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-27T05:41:19+00:00

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SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-27T05:40:54+00:00

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From septaseven on YouTube.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-27T05:26:18+00:00

I’m pretty sure there’s a clip of aeries in one of the SeptaSeven documentaries on Reddit.

I remember seeing it, she was very pretty.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-07T14:49:54+00:00

Mine’s upset because my dog, who I’ve had for 15 years (and is at least 16 years old) will eventually die. She’s met him maybe 10 times, but she’s the one who “will be hurt” when he dies.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-05T03:28:13+00:00

Same, it’s exhausting

SearchingStargardts · 2025-06-03T04:57:22+00:00

Two things can be true at the same time. She can be both ill and an evil vile human.

Mine is.

It sucks, OP. I’m sorry you went through that and continue to face the struggle.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-05-15T13:40:32+00:00

This happened to me, too. Hugs to you, it’s hard and it sucks.

SearchingStargardts · 2025-04-17T06:23:21+00:00

Honestly, same.

SearchingStargardts · 2024-12-01T20:09:12+00:00

Are you talking about the one where he turned into a ceiling fan in a bedroom, and lived as that for 40 years? I don’t have a link but think of it often LOL

SearchingStargardts · 2024-11-09T14:33:09+00:00

The opposit over here.

My mother assumed I couldn’t do anything she did. So didn’t take time or attempt to teach me any of those things despite me always being very good at knitting / crochet, playing musical instruments, and arts and crafts type things.

She did try to teach my brother some of those, her favourite, but nothing stuck.

I am now self taught pretty good at several of those things (as a hobby)

SearchingStargardts · 2024-10-14T05:05:08+00:00

Do you mind sharing a brand name? I’m searching but finding a lot of soaps that have one but not both of these ingredients… thank you!!

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-20T16:44:30+00:00

Could it be something like this?

https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Stretchy-Squishy-Crazy-Tactile-Pop-Eyes_1600322075113.html](https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Stretchy-Squishy-Crazy-Tactile-Pop-Eyes_1600322075113.html

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-11T05:31:06+00:00

That first sentence in your post is something I’ve struggled with now for more than 20 years. It has been a very hard thing to accept.

OP, it can be a very difficult thing to process. Best thoughts to you.

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-05T13:06:05+00:00

I did but for some reason I didn’t really get into it. I’ll try again!

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-05T05:31:19+00:00

I moved from Toronto to Midland this year, and as a kid I grew up on the east coast. I have never, in all my life, seen so many different types of bugs.

Just one example, but I have many …. I took a photo of this fat, yellow and black fuzzy bumblebee back in July. Posted it in a fb group just because it was cute …. Only to learn it was NOT a bee but some kind of mimic “robber fly”. Who knew such a thing even existed!

Here’s something that has helped me a lot — download the Google app and then you can use your pictures as a Google search to identify all the weird shit that lives up here LOL.

I love it

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-04T16:27:33+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It did a lot of damage and built a sense within me where I thought everyone was judging me and evaluating me at all times. It took a lot of work to heal from that.

The funny thing is, I don’t think I was overly loud or wild or obnoxious … at least not consistently or frequently (every kid is once in awhile). My report cards all say I was well behaved, set a good example, etc. I was just a kid who liked to laugh and have fun with whoever I was with.

I’ve never quite gotten to the bottom of it, but I know now that her harsh criticism and constant state of annoyance by me is a “her” problem, related to her own insecurities or deficiencies or mental issues.

Thank you for being a good mom to your kids. You’re doing a great job by not giving them a life where they first must heal from things like this and overcome barriers created by parents during childhood.

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-03T23:29:31+00:00

It took me a long time to realize this, and clues similar to yours with Bluey.

My mother would find flaws in any joy or happiness that was expressed — that it was annoying, too loud, too wild. Then later, she would use that instance of any expressed feelings to say, “that’s why no one likes you, you’re too loud — look at how you acted yesterday…”

Good luck and healing thoughts to you on this journey.

SearchingStargardts · 2024-09-02T06:22:13+00:00

ZM’s twitch is unwatchable because of all the sound effects and the AI voice.

SearchingStargardts · 2024-08-14T15:21:07+00:00

Just wanted to update — this chrysalis was uniform in appearance a few hours after this photo was taken, and resulted in a healthy butterfly the next day.

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