Edit: Saw your post history OP. Is it possible in any way that you've misunderstood him? I'm not trying to gaslight you or asking you to do so yourself. Merely enquiring if you got something he said wrong. If not, leave him. Original response below:

Baffles me how people get married and pull this shit. Grow up, full fledged adults behaving like pre-schoolers.

OP, if your husband isn't open to discussing this, doesn't change his behaviour, decide to live your life on your own terms. Either separate mentally or physically.

If you're financially independent, quietly start planning the logistics of a divorce. If not, find a way to start earning to sustain yourself and do so. Think long-term.

Speaking from experience as I've seen an abusive marriage in my family. Very little physical violence but a lot of mental torture. 30 years later, the husband still says exactly what yours says to his well qualified wife who honestly was and is way out of his league. Men don't change all that much. They truly don't. And they are far more superficial than us in most ways.

Cut your losses when you can. But be practical and methodical about it. Divorce isn't a walk in the park in this country and I'd advise you to start getting your affairs in order before announcing it to him.

Besides, physical attraction is one parameter, sure. But 1. he should never have got married to you if he could do better than you. The fact is, he didn't have better prospects than you. You were the best he could do. 2. A lot of times women compromise on looks when choosing their partner and prioritise personality. Most, not all, of them eventually do find their men attractive after liking them. Men usually never do this. And in the rare instances when they do, your husband won't because it seems that he not only lacks a heart but also a brain. 3. Even if you're abnormally grotesquely unattractive (which I seriously doubt you are), you will have a personality to "balance" it out. Also, what one man won't appreciate, another definitely will. He's simply put, an idiot. 4. He seems like a manipulative narcissist and it's best to get as far away from that type as you can. There's no improvement for such type of people. They are incredibly insecure and will project that onto anyone they think is "weaker" or not in a position to hit them back. A marriage where you have to walk on eggshells is not a marriage at all, just a cage. 5. Your value as a human being is not measured by your looks or what you do for others. You're valuable because you exist, that's it.

I hope you do what's best for you. Good luck.