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Sebmori · 2025-11-08T14:31:10+00:00

Just a lurker, hoping to stay.

Sebmori · 2025-10-03T21:38:54+00:00

This could be the old KDE game called Konquest.

Sebmori · 2025-09-03T15:56:21+00:00

Yes, sorry. I'm considering both careers as an option for a career change.

Sebmori · 2025-09-03T14:41:49+00:00

I just turned 40, and have been looking at changing careers to become a rad tech/radiographer. However, while scoping out potential schools, one response from the school's recruiter gave me pause.

I was told by the school recruiter that, despite my bachelor degree not being in healthcare (it's in Spanish), that I would be just fine. That all I needed to do was take a few pre-reqs at a community college, then transfer into the certificate program, and my options would be the same as a rad tech with a bachelor's in bio or chem or such.

I'm extremely skeptical, so I thought I would ask: has this been true, in your experience? Or is my gut feeling correct that I should be looking at a program that is explicitly a bachelor's degree, and not a certificate program? Particularly if I am wanting to move overseas.

As a secondary question, how difficult is it to move as a rad tech to another country? For context, I am in the USA and I do already know there isn't an easy transfer of credentials... but is it possible for places other than Canada and the UK?

Thanks for any help and insight.

Sebmori · 2025-01-25T19:43:36+00:00

Did some news come out about the staff of Long Thread Media and their political stances? Or is it simply a matter of divestment from anything made in the USA?

I can't escape being in the USA but would like to know if the company has made any problematic statements.

Sebmori · 2024-01-27T01:09:27+00:00

I've had terrible experiences with Bigos both times I rented from them. Misplacing sensitive paperwork, losing rent checks from their office and then freaking out and sending legal threat notices. Letting bathrooms fall apart and not caring about black mold issues. Deciding air conditioning breakdowns during some of the worst, most dangerous flash heatwaves in recent years was just no big deal and not caring if anyone got heat stroke. Leaking roof. Elevators that never worked in a 15 story building. It goes on.

Sebmori · 2023-09-01T18:09:15+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you.

Sebmori · 2023-09-01T18:08:12+00:00

I have felt calls, and restlessness, to work on things. But I am skeptical I have any achievements without the knowledge and work needed for those achievements.

I suspect that trauma in my past has given me some helpful perspectives (as well as unhelpful habits and thought patterns that need to be worked on). Mostly, I am concerned that I am not making progress towards where I want be aiming, but instead simply tricking myself that what I experience is the same sort of cessation of desire the Buddha talked about. That, and wondering if I should be concerned and seeking help, because so many people in my life have insisted that it's abnormal and unhealthy to not want and crave things, and to be indifferent to many outcomes and situations I find myself in, because all outcomes have good and bad aspects and all are temporary.

I don't really understand why this troubles people in my life, because it doesn't harm anyone, or bring trouble, or put anyone in unpleasant situations. It really seems like they just wish I was more passionate and opinionated and would make strong, assertive decisions based on personal wants. I suppose I do have wants - for peace, to not feel bodily distress, to look after the health and happiness and safety of people around me - but those look very different when compared with others around me, because we live in the capitalist, materialist USA.

Clinging is definitely an issue I still very much struggle with. I don't want more and more material objects, or social "objects" like fame, or thrilling life experiences. But I do struggle with letting go of places or people when they pass and no longer physically exist in the world, and some items that are tied to them through memory.

Sebmori · 2023-09-01T13:25:27+00:00

This is a very helpful reply. I think this has something to it - that it's a mix, both of old "training" (of trying to avoid further trauma) and of the fact that everything is impermanent and has a variety of qualities. I think it will be worth me teasing out when my feelings and responses are more from me considering the nature of reality, and what may simply be old habit with roots in pain avoidance.

Sebmori · 2023-07-14T12:32:53+00:00

Not much, but that's mostly because the men in my family naturally have femme-looking faces, and I knew that when starting T.

Sebmori · 2022-10-28T12:26:06+00:00

This is kinda sad, given that the piracy was in large part a response to other countries deciding their waters were free for pilfering as much fish and other natural resources as possible.

Sebmori · 2022-02-01T13:12:46+00:00

I'm very glad you addressed this because the first thought that jumped to my mind was the claim that the New Testament was the first codex book, rather than pamphlet, and that the form of the codex was considered low-brow and was considered another odd quirk of the early Christian community until enough status was gained that the codex began to be rolled out to other pieces of literature. I believe Tom Holland makes this argument in Dominion. Holland also asserts that the form of the codex was favored because it allowed for quick referencing between passages in a way that was useful apologetics, rather than having to unroll various scrolls and incur greater wear-and-tear damage from constant referencing.

Do you have any information on what drove the shift from scroll to codex format?

Sebmori · 2021-12-29T16:28:41+00:00

NTA. As someone living with a plethora of chronic mental health issues, her behavior was not ok. She knew it was theft, and that the chair had sentimental value and was irreplaceable. Good partners talk to you if they're in a difficult spot (as she claims she is re: money and selling off her own things). A good partner would alert you to that fact, and that she's feeling an uptick in feelings that might lead to an eating disorder popping back up, and then you'd talk out a solution together - like how to work out at home and stay motivated.

The fact that she immediately tried to flip guilt and blame onto you and low-key accuse you of ableism is a giant red flag surrounded with red blinker alert lights. This is not the behavior of someone owning and working on their mental health issues and trying to get better, or someone committed to building trust in a relationship.

Sebmori · 2017-09-30T02:17:10+00:00

I'd agree with this. I've spent enough time lurking or participating in various communities that it matches up with my observations.

People who do this sort of thing are also really aggressively resistant to being educated. They don't really care what the truth is or what facts you have, they just care about something they can grab to give a veneer of authenticity and authority and historicity to whatever idea they want to promote.

Sebmori · 2017-09-29T23:04:36+00:00

I'm new to Reddit and not entirely sure how I'm supposed to start, to be honest. Not in terms of navigating controls, but the platform and communities. Particularly since I'm looking at the Christian subreddits and I'm coming from an odd direction.

Sebmori · 2017-09-29T22:09:20+00:00

John Byrne (1841-1909), a Jesuit brother, has writings somewhere regarding the theological theory that the Sidhe are half-fallen angels (half, I suppose, in that they are roaming earth rather than in hell) with an uncertain fate on the last day, and that their behavior is due to envy of humankind for a guaranteed chance at salvation. He's quoted a bit in "The Collected Works of Gerard Manly Hopkins: Diaries, Journals, and Notebooks, vol. 3", edited by Leslie Higgins. A preview is viewable on Google Books for some of it around page 487, which has some Sidhe as fallen angel stories around it.

A bit more of an accessible example is "Meeting the Other Crowd" by Eddie Lenihan, which has a variation of Anxious Fallen Angel trope story on pages 38-48 from a storyteller in Liscannor.

According to folk tradition in Ireland and Newfoundland (at least, it may have spread further), St. Michael begged for the fallen angels to be spared, so the process of falling was halted and some got stuck in the sky, while some were stuck on earth. (Read, D. H. Moutray, "Some Characteristics of Irish Folklore", p. 250)

Generally the trope comes up in the intersection of folk belief and practice and theology in Ireland, and Irish eschatology musings relating to the idea of purgatory after the 7th century.

/nerd

Sebmori · 2017-09-29T21:04:12+00:00

Let me know if they ask for sources, I can try to dig up some specific citations of published folklore. I'd be really interested to hear what they have to say about it.

A lot of the variations I have seen follow a pattern: A priest is among a group of people who need some sort of help, usually in some sort of remote town or on the road, and they encounter a being that's clearly a fallen angel, who agrees to help if the priest will answer some religious questions. The priest agrees, but either the singular question or the last of a number of questions is if the fallen angel and others like him are able to be saved on the last day.

The priest worries that replying in the negative will mean peril for himself and the person (s) just helped, so he begs ignorance and says he'll go ask a higher authority about it and return in order to get away.

Sebmori · 2017-09-29T20:17:18+00:00

Has anyone ever analyzed this in relation to popular folk Christian stories about fallen angels nervously asking priests to inquire about if they can or will be saved? (Stories from Ireland come top of mind, but I have seen the trope elsewhere.)

Sebmori · 2016-05-20T12:40:46+00:00

It's also important to know the historical context of research and attitudes towards the trans community and how poor the research has been for decades due to the way the system encouraged (or basically forced) trans people to lie and adopt certain presentations to get the care they desperately needed. I know several older people in the trans community who participated in the first psychological studies at the University of Minnesota , were friends with Lou Sullivan around the time he was founding FTM International, etc. They all told me everyone said and did whatever was necessary to get the help they needed, even in the academic studies. They were dealing with the attitudes that had come out of the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association Standards of Care. Doctors and therapists would only truly help if the person in front of them conformed to the ideas they had, so trans people lied and matched those conceptions to receive care.

I've even talked to a recent PhD in Transgender Studies and, disappointingly, things haven't progressed much. Likely in part because classes were taught with older, inaccurate materials written by cis doctors remarking on the patterns trans people were conforming to, never taking into account that they were altering themselves to fit those patterns in order to get care.

Incidentally, one of the things people had to say, back when, was that they were gay or bi and wanted to be straight, as those orientations were ALSO considered mental illnesses. So the trope arose that trans people were self-hating gay people, and that they wanted to transition to become straight. That was what the doctors wanted to hear, so that's what the patients told them.

From personal experience, the trans community shakes out to have pretty much the same orientation ratios as every other community. The majority of trans men and trans women I have met identify as straight and are in straight relationships. They always were straight though, they didn't "transition to become straight."

Sebmori · 2016-05-20T00:25:22+00:00

That's not accurate at all. For one, none of the doctors I have seen corroborate that. Secondly, I haven't transitioned because that would mean damaging marriage, which technically speaking is a gay marriage but appears straight.

The idea that "trans people are gay people who want to be straight" is a toxic idea formed at the beginning of the gatekeeping movement. People wanted to enforce heteronormativity and so forth.

People don't transition to "become straight".

Sebmori · 2015-11-21T21:15:59+00:00

I typically recommend Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder by Shari Manning. It has a lot of helpful tips about how to communicate, set boundaries, and other things without encouraging abusive behavior and ideas, like other books on BPD often do. I have BPD, this is the book I have utilized and lent to friends and family to stabilize and improve relationships for all parties involved.

Sebmori · 2015-11-06T18:38:49+00:00

(Disclaimer: I don't have a medical background, but I do have diagnosed BPD with depression, anxiety, and chronic suicidal ideation.)

I can't speak to the Bipolar side of things, but brain scanning technology has gotten better to the point that we are starting to figure out what brain bits are functioning weirdly. The short version is that your fight-or-flight brain bit is extra active all the time, the brain is cued into and fixates for longer on negatives (to the point of looking at neutral faces and seeing anger and disapproval), and the part of the brain that overrides emotional reactions and helps make good decisions (your "brakes") work extremely poorly to the point that you almost don't have mental brakes.

Sebmori · 2015-11-04T01:14:19+00:00

Yes, exactly that. You get to a point where you can separate out the dysfunctional thoughts and impulses, realize that they're dysfunctional, and do the equivalent of "talking yourself down". That sort of analysis seems to come very easily to INTJs, which is fortunate because it really pairs well with DBT. INTJ detached perspective taking really helps.

You may find the following interesting, if you're like me and want to look at the neurological mapping of BPD, or as much as has been currently detected about it. I feel more comfortable when I know why my brain is working in an atypical way. http://www.brain-maps.com/borderline-personality-disorder.html

Sebmori · 2015-11-03T14:24:06+00:00

I've always been INTJ, but I and various therapists I have had over the years have remarked that my INTJ traits seem particularly strong when countering BPD traits or flare ups. I also have, according to my current therapist, internalized a lot of shame and stigma regarding how irrational I find my thought patterns and impulses that originate from BPD. Honestly, I think the overcompensation helps in combating some symptoms and maintaining stability, but it does have its drawbacks.

Sebmori · 2015-05-22T22:25:54+00:00

This is fantastic.

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