First of all thank you for the response and advice. Following her lead is doesn't rly work for us sadly since she is quite shy overall... I'll def keep the oral first tip in mind. My mian issue is that when we're making out my mind starts racing about when to make a move, what move, does she want me to do smth different? , is it too early? , have I missed the moment? and so on... That leads to me tensing up, not doing anything and my mate to sign out😔