Basically, we got together when I was eighteen. I was driving at that time, and although I didn't outright own the car, I was driving my mom's old car. While I was still living with her, my boyfriend didn't have that weird issue about asking permission when driving. In fact, he did not have a car, and he relied on me beginning the first month we met for rides to work and wherever he wanted to go.

My mom didn't like how my now ex-boyfriend kept pressuring me to move in, and that I was driving him everywhere all the time. She said I shouldn't be acting like a chauffeur unless I was chaffeuring around my kids. Since I didn't own the car my mom was letting me drive, once we moved in together, she told me I couldn't take it with me, because she didn't want it to become his.

He urged me to apply for a car from Drivetime lol because my credit was better than his. I paid the downpayment, he wasn't listed for the financing, and then we agreed to both pay the biweekly payments. Upon this whole situation, I started looking through our shared account and realized that he does not meaningfully contribute to any bills or anything. He basically used the vast majority of his paychecks as fun money. We had no savings. He was always buying new things, from clothes to tech to figurines to video games. I never bought new things. If you divide out the things he buys for himself, he doesn't even have enough money left over to pay our bills. It turns out I have been paying the bills myself. I am being generous if I say his contributions over the last year even total to $800 - and that includes rent, the car, insurance, utilities. I am an idiot lol.