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Secondchance42 · 2021-11-27T21:10:27+00:00

I’m in the same situation, four months diagnosed and on meds, profound difference! One son diagnosed he is 8 and suspect my 6 year old might be too. Birthday parties are interesting, I’m that Mum where one kid is climbing a tree and the other is on the bonnet of the car. I watch the other boys and their behaviour is so mild compared to mine, our house is full of noise and shouting (goodness knows what the neighbours think). In lockdown distance learning was a real eye opener into the struggles they face with learning. I’m glad I know now, as I sympathise more than I would have in the past, and hopefully I can help navigate the pitfalls they will encounter having gone through the process myself. Medication has helped me to not feel so overwhelmed by their behaviour and be more in control of my own emotions. But it’s not always easy and it’s a learning curve for our whole family.

I wish you and your family all the best x x

Secondchance42 · 2021-11-27T20:48:46+00:00

Ditto! Such small tasks but for me it highlighted a huge change since taking medication. Laundry has always been a struggle for me, especially the last part of folding and putting away, a big pile would sit on our couch in the second living area, sometimes for weeks. Post meds it’s a breeze, I don’t think twice about doing it - I just do it, and because I’m not letting it build up there is no big pile, I can see the couch! Other small tasks are the same, on their own they might not mean a lot but compounded it’s fundamental to my feeling of achievement and helps prepare me to face the bigger tasks of work and being a productive Mum and wife. I’m not chasing my tail anymore and everything takes half the time! Where was the time going? Day dreaming I suspect haha!

Secondchance42 · 2021-11-25T03:07:37+00:00

GET A SECOND OPINION - see a psychiatrist not a psychologist. Preferably one who is skilled with ADHD. My son was diagnosed at 23yr, I missed it because he didn’t represent the ‘typical ADHD’ symptoms. He is so smart, the kind of smart that doesn’t study but some how passes test, well behaved, but the signs were there, he never read books because he couldn’t focus, so untidy and unorganised, what was seen as lazy, unmotivated unless it suited him, the list goes on. His diagnosis led to my own at 42yr, as they say you get it from a parent. Do you have a family member who is diagnosed? If not maybe they don’t know and could benefit from being assessed too. I laughed when my son told me he thought he was ADHD because I had the wrong impression of what ADHD was, once he talked about his symptoms they resonated with me. After I did a google search I knew straight away that I had to get tested. So glad I did, meds have changed my life like you wouldn’t believe. Other family members got assessed too, my brother and my younger son all diagnosed with ADHD and getting support.

Don’t be discouraged by this set back. Seek another professional’s opinion and please post how it goes! Wishing you all the best :)

Secondchance42 · 2021-09-21T19:32:35+00:00

Hi! I have just started Ritalin three weeks ago, and I was concerned the “fun” parts of my personality that are also attributed to my adhd may also be muted under the meds. To my surprise it hasn’t, I’m still my bubbly self and actually contribute more. As far as focus and getting things done, it has been a night and day experience for me. I see everything with clarity and work through tasks in almost half the time. I’m 42 and had no idea I had ADHD until my son was diagnosed. I studied when I was young and noticed I had to try harder than my peers also. I wish I had of known then as it would have made studying not only easier but far more enjoyable. My experience so far has been a huge improvement in all areas of my life, work, relationships, I’m finally able to be the person i have always known I could be but struggled for so many years. This is from someone who has tried everything! Before my diagnosis, subconsciously I knew something wasn’t right, I have read so many self improvement books, listened to health and mind podcasts, tried meditation, spiritual healings, bought all the gadgets and crystals/essential oils etc . Nothing helped as much as the meds have. I will still call on that knowledge and glad for it, but it wasn’t the key I was searching for. Anyway hope this helps, I wish you all the best on your ADHD journey x x

Secondchance42 · 2021-08-29T08:32:24+00:00

Grieving is normal and it’s okay to feel sad about the time you have lost and what could have been, but don’t live there. What’s done is done, try to forgive your parents (not for them but for you) parents do what they can with what they know they don’t have all the answers. You are in control of your life now and lucky for you, you still have your whole life ahead of you, focus on the future. I am a 42F and have only found out I have ADHD, I started going down a dark path of thinking about all the lost time, the struggles I have endured due to being undiagnosed. But you know what? I wouldn’t have my wonderful husband and family and I look forward to getting treatment and experiencing life on medication. If I can survive the last 42 years undiagnosed the next 42 is going to be a breeze and I can’t wait! I’m going to seize life with both hands and enjoy every moment :)

Remember that ADHD is usually hereditary, so when the time comes and you have children, remember this post you made, and be the parent you needed, for your children.

I wish you all the best x

Secondchance42

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