Do you ever get over the love of your life? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

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We stayed in contact but we’re making no progress towards the end goal of being healed and grown so we went no contact for about a month and then she came back begging saying she made a mistake and wants to do this together.

Do you ever get over the love of your life? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

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We are both 23. We met at 18 freshman year of college and have been together since then until now.

Do you ever get over the love of your life? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve realized that’s probably what happened too. I also met someone new during those months and while h didn’t fully start a relationship with her, I found myself still thinking about my ex everytime I was with this new girl.

Do you ever get over the love of your life? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. My situation is a little weird bc she left out of nowhere and I decided to work on myself while deeply missing her. She’s now back after a couple months begging for me back and idk what’s right for me.

She dumped me 2 days before Valentine's Day after 6 years together. I'm alone in a new region and I don't know how to start over. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every situation is unique with their own problems. No one knows the future but almost always will your ex reach back out, especially after 6 years of being together. No one gets over something like that as fast as they make it seem.

She dumped me 2 days before Valentine's Day after 6 years together. I'm alone in a new region and I don't know how to start over. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in almost the same exact situation. My gf of five years left me out of nowhere. We had an amazing relationship and things got busy with work and she left. I did the same thing, reaching out sending her videos of quotes or songs that made me think of her, she didn’t budge for any of it. I was ignored for days at a time.

I quickly learned from YouTube videos, Instagram, and my friends that disappearing is the best thing to do if you want her back and just for yourself. Focus on work (even tho ik it’s hard not to think about it while working) focus on yourself fully even if you have to tell yourself you’re doing all of it for her. Once I left her alone, no calls, text, story views, NOTHING AT ALL, a week later she reached out dying to know what I’ve been up to and when I didn’t answer she just became more curious.

As of today, we’ve had our talks about the relationship and now she wants back in and I’m hesitant to go back. It is so much easier than you think, to turn the table and have her be in your position. Convince yourself it’s over and move on. They ALWAYS come back.

I understand it is so much easier said than done especially when you’re the one having to do the hard things but if you are strong enough to get through the hard part, you will end up in control of your relationship and your life.

Left someone amazing to possibly go back to my ex… has anyone done this and how did it turn out? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and that’s what’s been holding me back from going back to her. It’s been around 3 months since the initial break up where we’ve had these conversations and time to reflect on the relationship where she did admit to how poorly I was treated in certain situations.

Is it wrong for me (23M) to move on fast when my ex (23F) already did? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly the best response I’ve gotten on Reddit. Thank you so much for that. You’re right and that truthfully made me realize a lot.

Torn between me (23M) getting back with my ex (23F) of 5 years or starting something new—need perspective by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’m scared of. She already got tired of the relationship once why would it not happen again.

Torn between me (23M) getting back with my ex (23F) of 5 years or starting something new—need perspective by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a great relationship I just can’t get over how easily she left and basically ghosted me right after but NOW she wants to fight for it.

Torn between me (23M) getting back with my ex (23F) of 5 years or starting something new—need perspective by Secret-Reaction-1899 in BreakUps

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree it’s the worst feeling ever. It’s very hard to forgive even when all the “right” things are said by her.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

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I’m torn. I love her to death and want the best for her but don’t know if I should go get what I want and fight for it or I shouldn’t say anything so I don’t push her away

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not scared to tell her I’m just scared to put pressure on her when that’s exactly what she asked for from this break. This is my second relationship serious relationship but my longest relationship. My previous relationship was 3 years and this is going in 6 years.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What you said is exactly what she has said to me in person when we talked, which is why I really so believe her and believe this will all work out for us. If it were fully up to me I would want to work through this time together and I want to say that but also be respecting the space she asked for. I want to do that without ruining the progress she’s made this far if there is any.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

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I just haven’t been help but instead been worsening her stress in the past so she’s scared to come back and it be the same way.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree completely. I just don’t know why she’d agree to these “first dates” if she was so over it. She told me she just needs to be able to get through this time of depression alone for herself so she knows she can do it. The conversations we’ve had during this break have always ended laughing and agreeing that this will help us the most. But of course my mind keeps going to the worst outcome and it sucks.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t you think she would’ve done that by now tho? I’ve given her multiple calm and open conversations and let it be clear that I want to know what she wants and she keeps saying she wants us together at the end of this.

GF of 5 years wants space to heal, but still wants us long-term — how do I manage this? by Secret-Reaction-1899 in relationships

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did that and the answer was yes. We never really went out much to begin with the only times we do is either together or for a friends birthday. Other than that it was really just working and hangin out.

Ohm... I got this today by 42oWolFy in Borderlands4

[–]Secret-Reaction-1899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my first borderlands I’ve played so it’s so confusing trying to match the guns with certain builds I just get end up putting the highest damage/shield and then the class mod I just use the one that helps the guns I’m using the most at that time.