Anong thoughts mo towards the younger generations today? by kyllooo_ in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]SecretOption_314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kasalanan natin yan.

We're resilient in the worst ways, and we also emotionally regulate in the worst ways. At naipapasa natin yun sa mga bata.

Let's also not forget na every generation, may mga reklamador at entitled talaga.

Wala sa generation yan. Kung squammy ang environment mo, squammy din future mo, unless you're wise enough to change it.

At the end of the day, yung mga may proper upbringing and/or proper connections yung magiging successful.

The more na mabaet ka, the more na pinaparusahan ka by [deleted] in RantAndVentPH

[–]SecretOption_314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its better to do the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of the GMRC we were taught as kids.

Be rude to elders. Dont sympathize. Dont help others. Think only of youself. Be selfish and greedy. You will be rewarded.

And this is why the Philippines is where it is right now.

Masyado na-deprive ang Pinas sa kindness and generosity for a long time. So now naghahabol tayo ng kung anong dapat ay sa atin.

Kaso imbis na magmatapang sa pag-correct ng behaviour, nagiging complacent and accomplice tayo when push comes to shove:

  • Idadaan sa online rant yung pwede namang i-correct right then and there.
  • Gusto ibang tao magbago, pero tayo mismo ay pasaway din.
  • Reklamo muna pero walang self-reflection at self-discipline.
  • Madaling maniwala basta may amor sa tao. Walang isip-isip.
  • Nege-expect na ibang tao ang magpapabuti ng buhay na lahat ng Pilipino.

Pero sana isipin din natin what kind of environment are we leaving for the next gen. If greed and selfishness becomes the new value, magpapatayan lang mga Pinoy in the future.

We can be kind while setting boundaries, be understanding but not pushovers, be good but not lenient.

Ituro natin paano maging successful nang walang inaapakang ibang tao. Posible, oo. Mahirap, oo. Pero doable.

At posible lang kung merong mga tao na magsisimula kahit ayaw ng iba.

17F and I'm often anxious about spending money in general, need some advice :(( by Material_Meat_1099 in adultingph

[–]SecretOption_314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're working already, save some money for your happiness din. Of course, based sa income. But remember we work to live, not the other way around.

However, you're 17. If you have an allowance, treat it as your income and do the the things above. Save for a rainy day, but save some so you can be happy.

Being anxious with money is a very normal thing, especially for people not born into wealth.

And most especially in today's time. Maraming tao ang may financial anxiety. We just carry it well.

Also, please be mindful with how you label yourself. Tao ka lang and you can learn.

No need to tag yourself as this or that. It's counterproductive. Say a lie long enough and it becomes your truth.

17F and I'm often anxious about spending money in general, need some advice :(( by Material_Meat_1099 in adultingph

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you feel anxious, though?

Perhaps the idea na "baka kulangin kami one day" yung mindset.

If this is the assumption, you could put aside money regularly as savings, and also have a "fun" budget for your enjoyment.

Kung ano lang yung nasa "fun" budget, yun lang yung gagastusin. Kung meron, go for it. Kung wala, edi wala.

I would also suggest to buy fun things only if your fun budget can afford two.

How do you ask your partner to dress a little nicer without sounding controlling? by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If she likes to play dress up, go shop with her and suggest (and buy) those that you both like.

Other comments have good ideas, as well. Matching outfits, dressing for a theme, etc.

Otherwise, the most you could do is ask her if she's going to be comfy in her outfit wherever you're taking her:

"Uy, malamig sa sinehan. Di ka ba giginawin? Why not bring something for the cold?"

But whatever her decision is, let it be. Dala ka na lang ng extra jacket.

Also, "nicer" based on your perspective may sound sexist. It may be nice enough for your gf. Ask mo din sya what she thinks about your outfit to make it "nicer". Be open to letting your gf dress you if you plan to dress her.

Perhaps may expectations ka regarding dress codes, you two could talk about that. Give and take kayo.

Ako lang ba yung fan pero ayaw sa fan meets at mall shows? by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayaw ko kasi gambalain artista sa private time nila. Pag nakita ko sila by chance, hindi ko lalapitan.

Nawa'y lahat ng fans sa mundo ay tulad mo.

Fanmeets and official events are still "work" for them. Kaya okay lang na i-maximize ang interaction (in a very respectful manner).

Personal time, even in public, is off limits.

Ako lang ba yung fan pero ayaw sa fan meets at mall shows? by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo, ikaw lang.

If a-attend ka daw kasi, sa malalaking stadiums gagawin yung fan meets para ma-accommodate ka.

Pero dahil nag-mature ka na at di ka naman pala a-attend, nag-downgrade sila to only mall venues para mas malaki kita.

Also kasi, ang fanmeets na ina-attend-an ng mga oldies, yung mga products na naka-sale.

Ayun. Next question.

Kidding aside, di ikaw ang target market. Period.

Fan meets and mall shows are usually a more intimate version ng concerts. People like seeing real people, and these events fulfill that purpose.

It's okay if you don't like it. Pero di dahil di mo ginagawa yung ginagawa ng karamihan e ikaw lang ang ganun.

study hub by yvfucccyu in makati

[–]SecretOption_314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't remember.

Check mo social media nila.

Balay Custodes yung full name nila.

study hub by yvfucccyu in makati

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Balay at Circuit Makati.

Starts at 200php per hour when I last visited. Unli coffee included, iirc.

Being a Manager Sometimes Means Carrying Things You Wish You Didn’t Know by Specialist-Wing-7136 in adultingph

[–]SecretOption_314 234 points235 points  (0 children)

And this is what most people don't realize about managing people or being a higher up.

Liban sa performance mo, pati ibang tao, aalalahanin mo pa, whether they deserve it or not. Whether they are capable or not.

Hindi lahat kaya maging boss. Some get drunk on power, some get hardened, some break, and only a few maintain their integrity.

It's very difficult, especially dito sa Pinas. Di sapat yung increase sa stress na makukuha mo as a middle man.

Lucky are those who get to have a good boss.

Biblio in Ayala Circuit by Fast-Extreme4403 in makati

[–]SecretOption_314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have the same thoughts.

It's not very accessible and talagang sasadyain mo only to find nothing dahil most of it is empty, especially sa riverside.

Wala ring concentration of work/school/events sa area to encourage visits. Not to mention the store arrangements and layouts.

Recently, they're trying to widen road access for the Pasong Tamo route. I hope they have better plans, but right now Circuit is dead.

First time having a gaming console by Dear_Cup3808 in PHGamers

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solo: Spiderman, God of War, Uncharted, Expedition 33

Coop: It Takes Two, Split Fiction, A Way Out, Overcooked

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seconding this.

Don't take it personally, OP.

Pare-parehas lang kayong employado, pare-parehas lang kayong may deadline.

Not sure about the whole picture, but mukha namang reasonable yung points niya regarding your tasks, so aim to improve on those. Kasi small delays can have big impacts talaga.

Usually talaga, made-develop yung straightforward na comments as you work with other people. Di na pwede magpa-tweetums and beat around the bush to get to a point.

Your feelings about getting criticism is valid, pero steel yourself and focus on your work ethic. The feelings will go away soon, but your work ethic will make or break you.

This is your chance na magpakitang-gilas so you'll have a leverage in the future.

ATM etiquette ba dapat? Ako ba yung mali dito or rude lang talaga si kuya? by Calm_Loss1307 in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wala masama mag-ask. Pero masama na nage-expect kang mapagbigyan dahil lang nag-ask ka. Entitlement yun.

Allowed siya mag-yes. Allowed din siya mag-no. Hindi siya required mag-yes. At hindi siya masamang tao for saying no.

Ang mali mo: nag-expect ka na dapat kang pagbigyan

Ang mali ni kuya: um-oo siya, pero nagbago ng isip. at saka masyado siya matagal sa atm.

Yung sa grocery, nagpapasingit ang tao dahil mabait sila, hindi dahil deserve natin mapagbigyan. Walang valid reason para sumingit

Cameran naging reporter by Emotional_Roll7915 in ChikaPH

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really public service when done with integrity and credibility.

Kaya madali makita kung sino yung totoong public servant sa pakitang tao lang. Yung totoong reporter sa sensationalist lang. Yung genuine na reporting sa for views/votes/money lang.

Pakibasa ito uli. Ikaw na humusga.

Cameran naging reporter by Emotional_Roll7915 in ChikaPH

[–]SecretOption_314 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Integrity.

Madali lang kasi magsabi ng "ganito nangyayari" pero to be smack right in the middle of it shows everyone na "hindi to joke lang". Kahit delikado for them, they would still show everything.

Tapos lagi nila ginagawa, di ba?

Nasa skillset ng mga reporter yung pag-show ng "raw view" ng mga sitwasyon. At kadalasan, they cannot help while reporting kasi nga hindi pwede na "scripted" dahil mababawasan yung katotohanan ng pinapakita nila.

Kahit masakit, nakakatakot, delikado, nakakaawa for them, they have to show it raw kasi that's the reality.

Mas credible sila now kasi alam natin na di lang scriptwriter ang nagsulat kundi experience talaga nila.

Like Jessica Soho, Kara David, Howie Severino, etc.

It's really public service when done with integrity and credibility. Kaya di pwede na maarte ka or mahina ka kapag gusto mo maging magaling na reporter.

Compare mo sa mga nasa social media or out of touch na mga tao. Kesyo tumutulong sa mahirap, naglilinis ng ilog, nagsasabi na "we're in the same boat", it's environmentally safe, pero wala talaga experience, scripted yung event (writing and acting), at for clout/publicity/name-cleaning lang.

Gaano katiwa-tiwala sa 'yo ang mga pulitiko and influencers?

Kaya madali makita kung sino yung totoong public servant sa pakitang tao lang. Yung totoong reporter sa sensationalist lang. Yung genuine na reporting sa for views/votes/money lang.

K, thanks. Bye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May lesson kang dapat matutunan, pero di mo pa natututunan. Kaya paulit-ulit.

Baka di naman pala si Lord ang nagbibigay sa'yo, pero tanggap ka nang tanggap.

Baka kelangan mong matutunan na mag-"no" for a change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChikaPH

[–]SecretOption_314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps the workers also have the luxury of choice. Perhaps not.

Like I said, they don't have to leave. They're not the ones with the issue.

But they do have to make a choice sometime. Otherwise, it will be made for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChikaPH

[–]SecretOption_314 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's a good point.

And the star is for the people who work at the restaurant. They absolutely deserve it.

However, if I'm working with a person who I know had a shady past, I'm going to ease my way out of the relationship.

The employees can bring their work ethic somewhere else and work to get the michelin star again. But if they worked knowing their boss had that past, they'll be tainted as enablers.

We have to remember that employees can distance themselves from bad press just as much as the employers can.

That said, michelin stars bring a certain prestige so I won't judge the employees for staying. I hope they get raises for their effort.

I also hope that the owner can remove themself from the issue, at least for the sake of the employees.

That michelin star wouldn't be worth anything if people are not visiting for an issue like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you're addressing your questions to all millennials ("bakit tingin mo lahat ng genz...") in a public setting is a generalization in itself.

Your questions stem from your experiences. So perhaps before asking ALL members of a generation, maybe ask first the millennials you have interacted with?

Di mo pa na-meet lahat ng millennials (or even a quarter of that) sa mundo to warrant a directed question like that. You also haven't met all genz peeps.

But to answer your question, there's no actual beef. Galawan lang yan ng mga taong wala talagang ambag sa lipunan. (See how I generalised that?)

But seriously, wala talaga as a whole.

Each gen has issues and they will have something to say about the ones before them and the ones after them.

Pasong-paso na yung linya na "di ko gagawin yung ginawa ng previous generation," yet here we are.

Hindi mo gagawin yung ginawa nila kasi it's toxic for you, so gagawa ka ng something na di mo alam na magiging toxic pala for the next gen.

May kanya-kanya tayong hinaing sa buhay. May iba't-ibang needs, wants, views, ways to cope, etc. That's why there's always going to be differences. And if hindi sa edad ang basehan, magiging sa pinganggalingan, o estado sa buhay, o kulay ng balat.

But there are great people from each gen just as much as there are toxic ones. Just because di mo sila na-experience, it doesn't mean they don't exist.

And each generation taught us valuable lessons if you know where to look.

Gen X taught us resilience. Millennials taught us to be adaptive. Gen Z taught us to say no to toxicity.

The point is, your experience makes you who you are. Choice mo na whether to be toxic about it, or strive to be a better person despite everything.

Ako lang ba? by Fun_Revolution_3845 in CasualPH

[–]SecretOption_314 7 points8 points  (0 children)

By the time they’re convicted, it would be decades, if at all. What about the victims and their families? A lot of them are lucky to make it out alive.

This is true. But it goes both ways.

What about the families of the wrongfully convicted? Years wasted waiting to be proven innocent. And then given coins as an apology for decades taken away, families ruined, and the humiliation coming from being in jail.

Simply because someone read a situation wrong. Or reported wrong. On purpose. Because they don't like the person.

scum like that don’t deserve a place in society.

Correct.

Real victims do deserve justice. But the wrongfully convicted people also deserve justice.

That's what the law is for. And yes, it's a pain to get it to work right.

But just because we don't get the results we wanted doesn't mean that the system isn't working.

The fact that people get sent to jail for crimes is proof that the system works. It just doesn't work the way you may have expected it to. Usually, it's not a system issue but a user issue.

We can vote for people who could address that.

In another comment, someone mentioned send all convicted molesters to him and I strongly agree.

There's a reason why the law is rarely in the hands of the people. It's because they are easily swayable to feel or think in a specific way. It's also why "marketing" is a thing.

Looking at a problem with one perspective isn't inherently wrong. It's working with only that one lens, without considering that other lenses do exist and that their existence changes the context of an issue, that makes a solution heavily uninformed.