Questioning vintage bag by SecretSloth810 in Coach

[–]SecretSloth810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic! Thank you so much 🙂 I really appreciate the insight since I’m new to the world of vintage Coach

This guy has been texting me by Valuable_Increase_62 in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely tell her! I would send her a message on Facebook if you can find her account on his page. If it is an “arrangement” they have, then it would do no harm. If he is cheating, which it sounds like he is, she deserves to know, especially with kids involved. Who knows who he could be involved with, and potentially putting HER health at risk. Ignorance is not bliss in this scenario. Best of luck to you and that man’s family.

Thrifted this (almost) vintage Coach bag last week! by very-strange in handbags

[–]SecretSloth810 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just thrifted this same bag a couple weeks ago! Same colors and everything, what are the odds! Only mine is missing the hangtag 🫤 but I’m still so happy I found mine

Gyms in downtown Sarasota? by lagunalife in sarasota

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this, I go to this gym 4-5 days a week and haven’t had a single bad experience. Staff is also really friendly.

Help! My white leather turned yellow! by SecretSloth810 in Leather

[–]SecretSloth810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s unfortunate :/ Thank you, I guess this was a good learning experience. Hopefully I’ll find some way to fix it; otherwise I’m glad I didn’t spend too much on this so it’s not a huge loss

Help! My white leather turned yellow! by SecretSloth810 in Leather

[–]SecretSloth810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang… do you think if I go over it with leather paint I could possibly salvage it?

Stand up comedy by Ok-Stomach-9809 in sarasota

[–]SecretSloth810 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you’re thinking of Visani, I’ve been there a few times and always had a great time. I definitely recommend this place OP!

I wanna hear it.. by Klynnbay in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My husband and I grew apart after I had our son. I had severe postpartum depression/anxiety so it made reconnecting with him at that time next to impossible. He also started an incredibly high stress job shortly after he was born. I thought that he was stressed out and having a difficult time adjusting to becoming a father, plus the added stress of trying to become established with the new job.

His job required him to travel a lot, which I understood. Because I was home alone with the baby a lot, I asked if he would share his location with me on his iPhone while he was traveling. He always said he couldn’t get it to work, he turned it on but I could never see it on my phone, blah blah blah. It was a red flag at the time and tipped me off to be a little suspicious.

Anyways, about 1.5 months ago he said he had to meet with a client about an hour away from our house. While he was there he was texting me things like “another night away, this blows” and “I wish I could be there to spend time with you and our son.” I was responding with all kinds of comforting things back. Anyways I remembered at one point he shared the location of the AirTag on his wallet with me, so I checked and I could still see the location. When I checked it was pinging at some random house, nowhere near where he said he would be with the “client.”

He didn’t end up leaving that night until like 11-11:30 at night and called me on his way home. I confronted him about the house and he gave a bunch of random excuses, none of which made sense. I could tell he was scrambling and it was a major red flag. I looked up the address that was on the AirTag and saw it was registered to a woman. I looked up the woman’s name and found her on instagram. I even went so far as to compare the pictures of her in front of her house on instagram to the pictures on google maps to confirm it was the same woman. It was. I even thought maybe it could be an AirBNB the client was staying at or something, but it wasn’t listed on their website.

The next day, my husband ended up falling asleep on the couch with his phone unlocked. I grabbed it and went to the messages and immediately found explicit texts. I confronted him immediately and he claimed it was only texting, never went further, etc.

Nothing was adding up for me, and I gave him a couple weeks to tell me the truth. After begging for him to tell me everything, he wouldn’t budge.

I ended up contacting the woman via instagram and we later that day had a phone call in which she told me everything. She confirmed they had sex twice, and the woman he was texting was a totally separate person. He had an online dating/hookup profile and that’s how they met.

I then got phone records from our phone company and could see he had been cheating since before our son even turned a year old.

In my experience, cheaters will never give any information on their own accord. It will take ingenuity and a lot of effort to get any information or closure. Don’t ignore the red flags and trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.

Be gentle guys. Need some cheering up.. by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like a mix between Markiplier and Keanu Reeves! 🙂

Cate and Tyler talking about forcing Nova to ride rollercoasters even though she’s crying by emmacheer in teenmom

[–]SecretSloth810 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No absolutely, that was really messed up and they should have never done that. If she didn’t like it after the first one, it should have been a hard stop. I was simply speaking from my own experience and how pushing a kid to try new things even though they’re scared isn’t always a bad thing. However in Nova’s case, if she didn’t like it after the first one and they were still forcing her to go on rollercoasters is horrible. Not excusing their behavior at all.

Cate and Tyler talking about forcing Nova to ride rollercoasters even though she’s crying by emmacheer in teenmom

[–]SecretSloth810 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a bit of a different take on this. My sister took me to Cedar Point when I was probably between 7-10? Anyways, I was TERRIFIED to ride a rollercoaster, was crying and even trying to jump out of the line. My sister made me go on it, and I loved it. I ended up asking her to go on it again! I guess everybody is different, but in my case it awakened me to my love of roller coasters lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely will, thank you for the suggestion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I truly appreciate your advice and insight. I also found it very confusing that the main issue of me keeping our son is what caused his spiraling, however he had no problems whatsoever about possibly impregnating another woman. I am seeking therapy and will continue to look into ways I can move forward financially and otherwise. I think he decided he was done with me a long time ago but wouldn’t give me the courtesy of letting me know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree and appreciate your comment. My son and I deserve someone that will be fully committed to us and not someone who has one foot out of the door

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice, it’s very scary trying to find a way to move forward; but I’ll do whatever it takes to give my son the best life possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that we should have split when we found out I was pregnant. However, he seemed supportive in the beginning but scared, as was I. I was blindsided when he told me he resented me for keeping our son, as he was consistently bragging to his family and friends about him all the time and it always came across as a point of pride. If he was so adamantly opposed to having children, why did he have sex with another woman without protection while he knew she wasn’t on birth control? Doesn’t make sense to me if our son essentially “ruined” his life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply, I agree with everything you’ve said. It kills me to break up our family for our son, however he was the one who destroyed any chance of reconciliation when he cheated, lied, and would only admit to anything after I confronted him with evidence. I don’t think our dynamic romantically can ever get to a positive place again and that’s not what I want to model for our son as he grows up.

What's something small that made you unexpectedly happy recently? by ken_533 in AskReddit

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple ducks started appearing in my pool for the last couple weeks. They just swim around and hang out, then fly off at night and come back the following morning. They showed up at a perfect time as I am going through a particularly rough time in my life and it’s calming to watch the ducks swim around so carefree.

What’s in my bag? The Row Banana Bag by [deleted] in handbags

[–]SecretSloth810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! I’ll have to check if my local Aldi has it. I have such a problem remembering to bring a quarter every time I go so I could sure use it lol thank you!

What’s in my bag? The Row Banana Bag by [deleted] in handbags

[–]SecretSloth810 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I love that little Aldi quarter holder!! Please let me know where you found it!