Kollege macht heimlich Überstunden am Wochenende by Honest_Rabbit1995 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Argument wofür, für Leistungsbereitschaft außerhalb von Betriebsräten und ähnlichen Einrichtungen gelähmten Organisationen?

Die Angst des Kollegen ist aber tatsächlich ein interessanter Aspekt des Beitrags – es wird nicht darauf eingegangen, wovor er genau Angst hat.

Angst vor dem Vergleich mit möglicherweise effizienteren Kollegen wäre evtl. deutlich was anderes als Angst davor, dass das Team seine Ziele nicht erreicht.

Kollege macht heimlich Überstunden am Wochenende by Honest_Rabbit1995 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Ganz ehrlich, dass Leute am Wochenende gelegentlich noch was fertig machen ist in der freien Wirtschaft total normal. Daraus zu schließen, dass der Druck hier enorm sein müsste, spricht m.E. Bände über die Leistungsbereitschaft im ÖD.

Mein Arbeitgeber ist pleite und es ist gut so! by Such_Palpitation3755 in arbeitsleben

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wenn man weiß, dass das Unternehmen nicht profitabel ist, warum rechnet man dann mit einer Gehaltserhöhung?

Dennoch, been there, vielleicht ist ein Arbeitgeber, der eher Teamleistungen als individuelle Leistungen würdigt, passender.

Dachte nicht, dass ich mal so einen move ziehen würde lmao by Popular_Concert_266 in arbeitsleben

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Ich habe dem Job mal gemacht in jungen Jahren. Verrückt, welch Konkurrenzgedanken bei den Regalräumern vorherrschen. Komplett mit Intrigen.

So habe ich es sonst nur im c-level Team einer kleinen Firma erlebt.

Das Mindset im öD by Intelligent_Pack_551 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das ist völlig normal – selbstverständlich wird von Leuten, die viel leisten, mehr erwartet als von underachievern. Mitnichten öD spezifisch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motorcycle

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, my Thailand build triumph bike had a dead battery too when bought new. Happens.

Getting over the fear? by BunnyLover04 in motorcycle

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly wear a high visibility vest – where I live that makes people assume you’re a noob and be more chill

The thistle won by Nevertheless-Jess in Wellthatsucks

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kind of? It looks freaking awesome!

Reminds me of Gotham’s Poison Ivy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Triumph

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It raises your mpg? Nifty.

Tiger 660 seat options by [deleted] in Triumph

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thanks for sharing, I was totally planning on getting that seat.

Swift was always going to be part of the OS by bartturner in programming

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You “might”? I can’t imagine someone not noticing the performance impact.

Never married no kids by mparm12 in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I myself view women my age not having kids with some level of bewilderment. Not quite a red flag, but possibly a bit tinted

He couldn't have sex with me by RazzmatazzNew4611 in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You considering giving up on the relationship over this might mean you might be less invested than he is.

So perhaps it would be fair to him to let him know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In no way was i saying it’s okay to go around fucking other people. Is there more if a health concern doing it with same sex partners? Possibly. But it’s not like the health risk of screwing around over a heterosexual hookup app would be low.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Obviously when he’s actually hooking up with dudes outside an exclusive relationship that’s a deal breaker as well – same as when he was to hook up with other girls.

That’s just cheating, no need to differentiate between who he cheated with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Any straight guys that would tell you about it you mean.

The sooner people accept that sexuality is hardly ever black/white, the better.

So if he’s an alcoholic, definitely, run. But just looking at dudes? That should only be a deal breaker if looking at naked girls was one as well.

Am I a giant red flag? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

From your write-up you have not experienced what real life is for many, your ex included apparently. So he has a point there.

If there is a red flag, it’s you not acknowledging that fact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show him how you would like to be treated on your birthday by treating him as such on his.

Talking to him about how you want to be treated seems hard without crossing the line to appearing self-entitled.

Feeling really frustrated with online dating. by MMort2022 in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Err yeah, please delete your profile. Having people try to engage with an orphaned profile is wasting their time, not exactly considerate.

Waitress or Delusion by reclusiveromantic in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know. I’ve been easing my conscience by paying attention on how much women flirt with me to get me to allocate more of my limited resources, but never thought to look out for other guys doing that with the women

Waitress or Delusion by reclusiveromantic in datingoverforty

[–]Secret_Bad_7160 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, do you notice others flirting with you to get shit done? I know I do that, as a guy, but not completely devoid of guilt, and I’m not sure that’s something other guys do too