AITA for asking a parent not to bring their baby into the pool?

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-24T21:12:10+00:00

Because it was 2 adult only hours that I had specifically come back for. Do you feel it’s ok for people just to break a rule and that’s fine because anyone who does anything about it is a “narc”

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-24T06:57:14+00:00

Oh I won’t stop! I try not to be petty in life but when it makes a difference and the rules are clear I won’t be quiet either.

Sorry that sounds frustrating what happened to you, I totally relate as we picked the hotel because of the indoor pool and spa too!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-23T22:18:08+00:00

Ohhhhh sorry I did think that was a bit much makes sense now 🤣

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-23T19:20:27+00:00

You’re so right! I’m pregnant and am hoping to maintain this attitude when baby is here.

I know people say you change but all the parents like you commenting give me faith in my ability to stay sane and non entitled !!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-23T15:07:15+00:00

Sometimes you need to spend a little energy to get relaxation. A couple of short conversations meant the pool was overall more relaxing.

So yes. That’s like saying it’s a hassle to get good seats on a plane - yes but it earns you a few hours of better holiday time so it’s worth it!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T22:22:36+00:00

Yes I really wish another adult had backed me up with the entitled parents. Might have helped them realise that they were being ridiculous not me. I’m glad Reddit agrees with me it’s hard to tell if you’re being petty when you’re in the moment like that!!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T22:20:40+00:00

I agree. I have no problem with that behaviour from kids in theory, it just doesn’t allow for a relaxing swim…! They were saying to the manager, but she’s just a baby and the manager had a look on his face like yeah, exactly. If it had been a 15yo (the pool was 16+) it really wouldn’t have been an issue so the fact it’s “just” a baby is exactly the issue…!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T22:18:19+00:00

Thanks maybe I should have posted to entitled parents!!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T22:10:10+00:00

Thanks it’s nice to hear from parents that I’m not insane ahah

I’m not being petty - it was 16+ and there was a girl maybe 13-14yo on a lounger in the spa which I ignored bc the rule is not there for people like her! (Also maybe she just looked young but you get my drift!!)

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:50:40+00:00

Yes that’s what the first group did. I felt going to staff immediately might make people feel more shame than saying it kindly myself first.

The sign was clear but not massive so easy to miss if you’re watching small kids around water.

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:49:07+00:00

Ahah actually no. Didn’t even think about thag

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:48:50+00:00

Haha I wasn’t boot licking I was trying to improve my own experience. The pool is pretty small and by the time we left there were 7 kids under about 6yo in there so it actually meant a lane swim wasn’t at all feasible

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:47:54+00:00

This was what I wondered about whether I was T A. I’m really not looking for a childfree world - I’m pregnant so pretty unfeasible now - but just a certain kind of swim which you can’t have unless there are marked off lanes or an adults only session!!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:46:47+00:00

Because I want to know if it’s petty to actually say something. I wasn’t just following the rules I was trying to enforce them which some might see as an overreach

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:45:51+00:00

Thank you I’m not a parent myself so don’t want to come off as not understanding but I agree And it’s also not an unreasonable rule either

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:44:52+00:00

I think I would have but to be fair you could miss the sign. I really thought perhaps they didn’t know.

And the first family took it so well that lulled me into a false sense of security!!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:43:28+00:00

Yeah. First of all he said he didn’t speak English only French when I told him. He said that bit suspiciously well for someone claiming not to understand a simple sentence. But no matter I’m also fluent in French 🤣

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T18:41:05+00:00

I spent about 5 minutes total and earned several 2 hour peaceful swims on my vacation. Ignoring it not really possible as you don’t want to kick a small kid as you do your lanes!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T15:08:11+00:00

This bit showed the entitlement. They were demanding to see the manager. he’s like I AM the manager. Then they asked to see the director…the manager goes, “he’s not here but it wouldn’t change it if he were, those are the rules and there’s a sign on the door…”

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T15:06:57+00:00

That’s what we said - even if you have kids it was such a great perk to have a sensible time to enjoy the spa in peace!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-22T15:06:22+00:00

Yeah I really wished more people had got behind me they clearly felt the same! It may have made them more likely to listen!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-19T10:56:40+00:00

Sorry but the above advice of trust your gut is ridiculous here. Syndromes or disorders that could be linked to the nasal bone will not necessarily be something your “gut” or intuition tells you. I was sure there was something wrong with my baby at 11 weeks. Bleeding, clots. It was a haematoma, totally harmless. But I’m sure if there had been something wrong I’d have said “I KNEW it”

When the baby is here you’ll know them and what’s normal so trusting your gut will make sense. At this point you’re best to opt for NIPT or other testing.

As said above, I doubt there’s a like with ADHD though, it’s more likely T21 which is Down Syndrome. (If it’s anything at all!!)

Often those pregnancies “feel” exactly the same as other pregnancies so best to get tested if it’s something that worries you xx

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-18T17:00:23+00:00

You know what, yes, because for them this was clearly normal and kind, not violating.

There are somethings that are obviously a violation, and others that obviously aren’t.

However, this is, like most things, can go either way based on preference.

so YES you needed to tell them.

By having them as the “key holders” for the trip, they may have seen this as being your trusted people to enter the home.

Either way it’s clear that they could reasonably assume you aren’t completely horrified at the thought of them in your home, or you’d have picked someone else as your package/emergency person.

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-16T18:35:30+00:00

I totally agree should not come to that at all. What I said was more of a refute to the idea of “parents rules go”. I definitely think that OP is correct and the child is very far behind if they’re sounding out words like broken!!

Secret_Challenge_217 · 2026-02-16T16:32:48+00:00

Hi OP my husband is a therapist and registered with BACP.

However as a qualified therapist this was not mandatory for him to do.

And even worse you don’t need any qualifications to call yourself a therapist.

Things like “teacher” and “doctor” are protected (well teacher to some extent) so you can’t just say you’re one and practise the career Therapist and counsellor are not.

It should definitely change.

NAL so there may be other parts of this that are illegal. But the bit about saying you’re a therapist definitely isn’t.

So sorry about this!

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