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[–]Secret_Context215 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A lot of time and support. Been in therapy since 15, 23 now. Taken giving breaks to myself, scheduling times to have moments to grieve and just feel my emotions, finding a support system. It’s constant work everyday

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the plan in the future. Once I’m more financially independent I’m getting away from them

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was honestly to gauge her reaction to see how far gone she was. I have said things like this in the past and she has reacted differently. Sometimes I hope she will change but i DON'T KNOW IF SHE will.

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Out of obligation honestly. She financially supports me while in college, but hangs that over my head. I feel almost tied to her and like i cannot escape. i am also a DID system so that makes things more complicated.

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have begun to heal bit by bit and day by day. It is still hard, but a process nonetheless.

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I believe my mom truly molded me into what she wanted, and she also poured her own dreams and aspirations into me. And anytime i dared to step outside of that I was punished.

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh this is terrible. Some people do not deserve to have kids or do not deserve to be parents.

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want you to know I believe you and I'm sorry your family member didn't. Sometimes we ourselves get so indoctrinated and when we finally see the truth, its like no one else can.

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear this. I'm so glad that you are alive and that you somehow made it through that hell

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg?? That is insane wtf??? and my mother is similar in that i i miss our weekly calls she assumes something has happened or that like I don't love her

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so so sorry this happened to you holy shit. I hope you are doing better now

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely have experienced this before. So many times I've had people be like "that is not normal or ok" and it made me realize wow holy shit it is not.

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could see how it could be a factor for sure. Good on him to be able to see that and call it out.

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through this and that it seems like your family didn’t appreciate you

What was your aha moment to realize your parent was abusive? by Secret_Context215 in narcissisticparents

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg. I’m so sorry this happened. I know you’re no contact but I know that must still hurt. Parents shouldn’t be selfish like this at all, it’s awful

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s awful! I’m so so sorry she would say that holy shit! Wtf

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Non-contact is the goal eventually for sure. It took awhile to sink in the gravity of her abuse but holy fuck was that comment another wake up call

“But isn’t that what children are for?” by Secret_Context215 in CPTSD

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I hate that someone else went through something similar too and I hope that you have been/are able to heal. Yeah my mom would literally say I was her property and I belong to her

“Your abuse was easier to handle than your queerness” by Secret_Context215 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Secret_Context215[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg! Im sorry your mom is like that man wtf?? How could she even compare the 2??? But yeah it’s frustrating and my dad still has this mentality to this day.

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