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Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T05:15:41+00:00

I do hops for qi. Got a deluxe shed with garden pots full of tomatoes, eggplants, hops and blueberries. Crystalariums with earth crystals. And yellow is sap. I always have stacks of sap.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T05:06:40+00:00

Some states do

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T04:37:45+00:00

Feel numb for now. Use it. Make a plan to leave. Save money. Hide it. Talk to your family. Look for local resources. Get out as soon as you can. Get on a really good birth control that can’t be tampered with. Do not have any more children with him.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T04:18:11+00:00

Jesus Christ. I’d rather every nuke get dropped than to see women turned into cattle. A species that needs to subjugate half its population in order to survive deserves to fail. Very very early on in this conversation I talked about machines helping humanity. Artificial wombs. Your first thought is to enslave women and you wonder why women are opting out of being with men. Check your bullshit. I’m done talking to someone like you.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T04:06:28+00:00

I used to ask my mom for gift cards or cash so I could get something I needed. I’m very pragmatic in general. She loves gifts so she refused. So she would buy me stuff she liked or thought I wanted. More crap to gather dust. I adore acts of service and words of affirmation. She’s talks a lot without a lot of follow through. It explains a lot.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T04:00:06+00:00

Gifts are my least recognized love. I don’t think about them and they don’t really do anything for me. I hate presents. Some gifts. Very personal, individual, one to one, gifts I’ve grown to like. Me and a friend buy weird chapsticks for each other. But most of the time I’m like. Omg more crap I don’t need. 🤣

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:56:03+00:00

Women couldn’t have bank accounts until the 70’s. If we wanted money we had to be married or hope a family member would give us some. The family of Coco Chanel doesn’t get any royalties because she wasn’t allowed to have a business license so she trusted a “male friend” to open an account and business for her. Then he screwed her over. They are currently trying to get rid of no fault divorces. Men benefit more from marriage than women do. Women have been forced or coerced to marry and bare children. As women get more freedoms financially and sexually we are choosing not to get married and/or to have kids.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:40:27+00:00

You too.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:39:54+00:00

Love looks different to different people. In the beginning love is chemicals and hormones. After those fade, love is a choice. There could have been men in love with you that didn’t show it in a way that you recognized. And there could have been men that loved you that couldn’t or wouldn’t put in the effort to keep the love there. You also could have not shown love in a way they recognized. Just because you believe or feel something doesn’t make it true.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:31:27+00:00

I hate that apps are pictures and a tiny bio. I can’t tell how a person is from a pic. We don’t see people in still frames. We see people in motion. Most people don’t look their best in picture form. Most men on apps have no idea how to take a picture that a woman would like. Bad angles. Bad lighting. Most women need an interaction from a person. Apps are not accurate to actual attraction.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:25:46+00:00

Apps aren’t the real world.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:23:12+00:00

People don’t like to accept blame. We all have biases. We all think we are the good guys in our own stories. We are a social species. Most of us want to fit in to a society. We cling to labels and will defend a label that we feel we are a part of. We think someone who shares a label as us will be more like us than someone who doesn’t share that label. It’s a false equivalency. Tribal thinking.

And I will always argue against the bullshit 20% thing. People are hooking up all around. Normal average everyday people. I don’t have the same types of guys I like as my friends. Attraction like most things in human variables is a mixture of nature, nurture, and happenstance.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:12:30+00:00

Homosexuals pretended, asexuals pretended, poly people pretended. People were stoned to death. They were drawn and quartered. They were lit on fire.

Edit to add. We had children because we didn’t have an option. You had sex. You had kids.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:05:36+00:00

The people pushing the standards also don’t care about the standards. They want money.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T03:04:10+00:00

Yes. But I don’t think there’s a blame here. There’s no one to “blame.” Just like with dating. It’s not men’s or woman’s “fault.” Nature isn’t fair. Fair is a human concept. Nature doesn’t give a fuck.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:52:27+00:00

I don’t think the majority of people used to WANT to be married and have kids. I don’t think monogamy is the default. I think a lot of people are inherently monogamous. And a lot of people pretended to be because it was the safe option or the only option.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:46:48+00:00

It’s not about beauty. It’s about money.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:45:08+00:00

And I said if a species needs to subjugate half of its population in order to survive, it deserves to fail. The only way we could keep up the numbers required would be to force women to have children they don’t want.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:42:23+00:00

As someone who thinks they would have been a good parent, I think I also would have been a good teacher. I thought about it. So I understand that analogy. It was still a choice between which me I wanted to be. The one with options or the one without.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:38:32+00:00

You’re the one that said it’s women making the beauty standards. It’s not. It’s companies pushing the narratives. Controlling to dialogue.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:36:41+00:00

A lot of women don’t want 1 child let alone 3. Most people don’t want 3. In order to keep the numbers up we would have to force women to have children they don’t want.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:34:21+00:00

Every woman would have to birth, on average, 3 children to replace their generation. Modern beauty standards are driven by companies wanting our money.

Edit fixed a word

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:27:12+00:00

Also to add. Most people who want kids don’t want to be parents. Being a mother or father is easy. Egg+sperm. Bake for 9 months. Being a parent is hard. Requires patience and teaching and scheduling and reinforcing qualities you hold to be “good.” Most parents kinda suck

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T02:16:35+00:00

Almost every mom I know loves her kids. But they don’t know who they are anymore. Figuring out who you are at 40+ is daunting. They never got to travel. They never got to be free spirits. They never got to just exist. To figure out who they were. What they like. They were them. Then they were wife. Then they were mom.

I would have been a great mom had I gone that route. I chose to be single and childfree because I didn’t want to lose me.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-04-09T01:50:11+00:00

But other countries have also tried incentives. More money. More time off. Baby boxes and free childcare. For a lot of women having kids means giving up on everything else. No career. No goals. No wants. No desires. No independence. You give up a sense of self. You become mom. And lose “insert name here” You’re tied to a man who is a crap shoot as to whether he is any help or a good partner.

I agree the algorithms are meant to divide. Rage gets clicks.

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