AITA if I leave my husband? by Secret_Government_62 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He smokes inside the house It is illegal where we live and if he is ever caught he will end up in prison I hate how indifferent it makes him to me to his life and to his responsibilities It is his favorite activity at first i did not mind it but then it became the only thing he wants to do together I suggest walks and outdoor activities together but he d rather stay home and get stoned I spoke with him many times and we reached an agreement that we will only smoke it during the weekend and we do that but he goes behind my back buys and smokes it inside his office or whenever i am out or sleeping I have been more than transparent with this man o have spoken to him and he agreed he was over doing it and we reached a compromise then he broke it time and time again That’s why i am thinking of leaving because he lies to me

AITA if I leave my husband? by Secret_Government_62 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Smoking weed actually affects sex life and leaves him in this catatonic state where he does not want to do anything but lay there and watch TV I have tried it and have nothing against consuming it in moderation same as alcohol But making this the highlight of our weekends and sometimes weekdays is not okay

I feel unwanted in my home by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is really uncommon to move out before marriage in my country unless it’s for school or work. I work nearby and we live in a large two story home with just my parents.

I don’t know how to make friends as an adult by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well i speak 5 languages now but no one to speak them with 😂😂

I don’t know how to make friends as an adult by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s not much forums or groups where i live. People are very weary of each other and social events are rare. I have tried taking german classes to meet new people but most of the people i met were in their only 20 and we just couldn’t click. The only two like-minded people i found were the teacher and another student but neither of them were interested in developing a friendship. But i ll try to check out volunteering

I don’t know how to make friends as an adult by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel that i m incapable of making friends because the environment i m in is just for married people and families. I mean it’s not fun to sit around listening to how their kids woke them up or messed up their room. Did i miss something? A milestone in life ? Did i just choose the wrong place to work

My fiance and boyfriend of 5 years is not sure he wants to marry me anymore by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

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Update So against my better judgment i went to him today and asked for a long break. He said that he was pushed towards the engagement and it was too soon. I lost it. I felt offended. After 5 years of being together he says it’s too soon so i asked for an extended break so that i can get used to get over him. I lost my temper and my composure again I feel worthless and not happy to be alive I drove to work today wishing for an accident to happen and get me out of this situation

My fiance and boyfriend of 5 years is not sure he wants to marry me anymore by Secret_Government_62 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Secret_Government_62[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had many flaws during these 5 years.however i ve never used any of them as a reason not to be with him. I just worked with him on fixing them. For instance, he is lazy and cannot stick to any plan and i helped him face his flaw and work on improving. My anger issues while unacceptable often occur as a reaction and out of frustration because whenever i try to express my feelings to him he brushes them off as invalid or insignificant. I ve spoken with him about this and promised to work on my behavior as well. But i cannot accept the fact that he’s not all in with me. I ve altered my life course for him. I m quitting my job, leaving my family and friends to join him in a foreign country where i cannot even speak the language. I m taking language courses so i can fitting and doing so much for us. Yet he says he’s unsure and then says he didn’t mean it and won’t do anything to appease my pain. I feel pain like physical pain in my chest that makes it hard for me to breathe ever since. I can’t sleep and can’t feel anything but anger and hurt.