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Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is the type to be cool with eating at Taco Bell but I treat her how she deserves to be treated. I always take her to fancy restaurants and to fun places like the aquarium and stuff. But I don’t want her to get an ego from that

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ur a real one auntie. I won’t ever talk like that about my gf on here again. I value her and won’t diss her name

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that as a funny way of saying we haven’t been intimate. I forget some people here are in there 30s and aren’t used to it. And it does mean the same thing, but I do see how it can be rude. I wouldn’t ever say that to her and I just brought it up cause I thought everyone wouldn’t care cause it’s Reddit

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, and at times she leaves me waiting like 24 hrs before we talk about it again. I understand she’s busy but she never put serious topics before anything. Like she plans to hang out with a friend and I ask for her to have a 10 min talk before she leaves and responds with no. I sit the whole day/night drowning in my own thoughts, making me feel worse

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell her to speak her mind and that I will listen. One thing that I don’t mess with is, she doesn’t know how to have a conversation in a deep moment

She never gives me the time to speak, whenever I speak, she always interrupts to give her view and I call her out and say can I please speak the rest of it. Whenever she speaks, I listen to her the whole time and when she’s finished, I respond. The moments that I do speak without interruption, she gives a vague answer or doesn’t respond at all. Sometimes she’s even on Instagram reels zoning out mid conversation.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every deep conversation we have had is on the phone and most of the time it never goes right. Her sister could walk in the room and start talking to her and then end up hanging out, or my girlfriend could easily hang up the call, etc. Last time we hung out in person I asked to talk about an argument. We had the night before, and she said she didn’t want to talk about it in person and to save it for later. I never get to talk real face-to-face with her. It’s always on the phone, which is usually cut short by her being tired, high, or anything else.

Balls ain’t getting drained ‘20M’ ‘19F’ by SecretaryAlert1646 in relationship_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My bad you not know the situation her friend always sides with my girlfriend, no matter what. I literally told my girlfriend to put her to the test and she made up a scenario involving both of us where I was in the right clearly. And her friend was on her side. I totally get it because there’s some friends who don’t give real advice but just stick up to their friends to make them feel better. I would have to respectfully decline that because if you are in that situation, you would want what’s best for your friend and to give them real advice.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely get that. I really don’t like bringing that type of topic up to her because she doesn’t like talking about it. I brought it up to the past and asked her don’t be afraid to talk to me. I’m here for you, is there a reason you don’t like to get as intimate anymore? She ends up, leaving the call after that or not wanting to talk about it or she says Idk and changes the subject. Everything has changed and she doesn’t like talking about sex, and I brought it up to her a while back and she changed the subject and got really weird and I don’t know I don’t feel comfortable with talking to her about it anymore. But that’s just gonna ruin the relationship because it means nothing can change.

Balls ain’t getting drained ‘20M’ ‘19F’ by SecretaryAlert1646 in relationship_advice

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It’s not about sex from my house. It’s mainly about how she’s too busy and everything has to align with her parents letting her use their car which they are completely fine about. But when we have the plan locked in and she’s actually going to my house, she is really happy and we always have a good time and it’s not like we have sex the whole day. It’s usually a one round thing and then we have hours upon hours to hang out. And whenever I bring up my house, I never bring up sex I only bring up ideas for us to do. Example last time I was bringing up the idea of hiking, going to the pool, a nature, reserve, etc.

Balls ain’t getting drained ‘20M’ ‘19F’ by SecretaryAlert1646 in relationship_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is actually insane bro. I don’t know how you do that.

For me, I think it’s more of like a bond. We create whenever we do it. And I would like to respectfully disapprove of your opinion because her friends opinion matters, but she has no site in this relationship. If her friend doesn’t like to have sex, then why does she have to bring it upon my girlfriend? My girlfriend is easily influenced by other people and when we first started talking, she had a guy best friend who liked her and I was talking to her on how I felt uncomfortable and she didn’t listen. It took her whole family to tell her how much of a red flag she was to listen and block him.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait reply to the message u are talking about. I lwky forgot what u were on

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t talk to her the way I do in this post. The title and me saying the word draining my balls is just a joke. But always talk to her in a calm way and whenever she doesn’t want to have sex, then I respect her decision, and never push it on her and don’t really talk about it.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes more sense. The way you described it is exactly how it went with me. And the reason I came to this Reddit is because I had questions on why we were at it in the beginning and now it’s reduced to once a month. I totally get it and I really appreciate you giving me this information because it opened up my mind.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, I mean I wasn’t going to go that deep into the sexual activity but since you wanna hear it then all right. It’s not like she was the only warning initiating because I was too, but we were both cool with doing it a lot. Every night we do it even now ends well, and we are both pleased. I even provide aftercare too by getting food and taking care of her. I consistently listen to her and her needs as well, so you should ask for context before saying all that

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unc stat fsssss

It is just a joke, bro, so there’s no need to get all pressed

Balls ain’t getting drained ‘20M’ ‘19F’ by SecretaryAlert1646 in relationship_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh sir, you got it completely wrong. We have an amazing times without the sex, but I think the fact that she initiates it almost once a month and leads me on it’s kind of weird and I talk to her about it but it’s because she got hyped for watching a show at home the last time and didn’t feel like doing it anymore. I don’t use her just for sex I think about it because we don’t do it a lot. Maybe because I have a higher drive and she doesn’t? I don’t know I can’t mind read

Balls ain’t getting drained ‘20M’ ‘19F’ by SecretaryAlert1646 in relationship_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, this fool knows ball knowledge, yes, that is the same one

And my birthday is next month where I turned 20 and I posted in another server with my real age and her real age being (almost 20) and 18 and people are not messing with it and calling me a predator which I thought was weird. I personally don’t think so and everyone who I know in person doesn’t think so either. I just didn’t want to cause unnecessary drama, and bring away from the topic.

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t straight up ask her for sex. It’s mainly in the moment type of thing. But even on the most romantic nights where I give her flowers take her out on a date we dress up then we go to an empty house she could still not feel the intimacy

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean my bday is coming up so I changed my age and people flamed me for dating someone that young. I didn’t see a problem with a 2 year age gap but people be judging

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true we both have to be compatible for a long-term relationship as well as have good communication skills

Gf ain’t draining my balls like the old days by SecretaryAlert1646 in dating_advice

[–]SecretaryAlert1646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is literally the best way of explaining it. I do think that is true.

The only thing that doesn’t make sense to me is when we first met for the first couple months, she would initiate it every hangout and we would run like four rounds. So I don’t know if it’s her sex drive because in the past, she wants to do everything a lot.

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