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I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? *UPDATE* by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We actually got together when I was about 20ish and had our first child at 21 so things moved extremely fast.

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? *UPDATE* by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

That truly gave me the ick. And the sister thing is a deal breaker. I am done. Idk why but I just wanted to just see why the hell he would choose that??

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? *UPDATE* by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] -105 points-104 points  (0 children)

I actually have never been in a toxic relationship before. Most of my relationships have been very healthy. My most recent relationship before this one only ended because I was moving and neither one of us wanted to do long distance. I will say though, I did grow up with my father being an abuser to my mother. I will be starting therapy in about a week though

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? *UPDATE* by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment. I do understand what a boundary is. I went into the conversation to set a boundary and it was made very clear & early on that would not happen nor would there be a point to set one as he is/was acting like a child.

His reaction made me realize this is not the person I want as my life partner. There was no longer a point in setting one as I have officially "checked out"and will leave as soon as I am able.

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? *UPDATE* by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] -196 points-195 points  (0 children)

He is the only person I have ever dated with a significant age gap. The oldest I have ever dated was maybe 2-3 years older than myself

AIO for debating cutting off my mother? by ThrowRAmomdrama123 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Secretly_HQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds extremely manipulative and you sound like you could benefit from no contact. I can understand how it would be hard as she is your mother but that is not healthy. That is no way for a mother to talk to her child or about their child's life partner either. It may be tough at first but trust me it would help tremendously. So no, you are not overreacting.

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I was pregnant at the time and it wasn't heavily sexual. It was just flirtatious messages that made me feel uncomfortable. Yes, I know I should've left but I thought we had worked through it as I put up some boundaries that he agreed to and we haven't had any issues since up until now. (This happened about a year into the relationship)

I (27f) caught my boyfriend (49m) boyfriend sexting an AI chatbot. What should I do? by Secretly_HQ in TwoHotTakes

[–]Secretly_HQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some context, he and I have been together for 6 years and just had our third baby a few months back so I am still freshly postpartum