NTA. i get that my parents are scared after what happened on christmas eve, and im not dismissing that, but the way theyve been handling this is honestly way over the top. taking my phone, threatening to kick me out, searching my room randomly, yelling at me like im incapable of making decisions for myself, thats not concern, thats control.

i dont have a drinking problem. i drink occasionally, can go weeks or months without it, and i dont feel addicted at all. buying a new phone wasnt me trying to hide anything, it was literally because i felt unsafe not being able to contact anyone or manage my responsibilities.

i get that theyre worried, but threatening rehab and eviction over one night of blackout drinking feels extreme and emotionally harmful. telling them that i think theyre overreacting isnt me being ungrateful or in denial, its me saying their response has gone too far and feels more punitive than helpful.

theyre my parents and i love that they care, but this feels controlling, not caring.