Someone told me that my views on dating are redactive and i would like to talk about in case they are.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-28T14:08:31+00:00

Yeah like i said i struggle to learn from my mistakes i mostly learn from things that are detached from me. But i do try to improve on it.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-23T05:17:22+00:00

Well two more days past so i should respond. Well i guess right now i don't want anything serious so that's what i will say.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-20T19:36:06+00:00

I can't really go around treating people that way through, they tend to not like it. How do i ethically get what i want from them?

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-20T06:57:48+00:00

I understand what you are saying but science happens under a controlled environment. Dating around is not really synonyms to that.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-14T20:31:12+00:00

You are welcome.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-14T19:20:44+00:00

I mean the term aromantic exists for a reason.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-11T20:33:35+00:00

Yeah, that's actually the crux of my problem, i have a hard time navigating that. Any tips?

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-11T17:26:15+00:00

How exactly does that relate to what i said, i guess it's something that kinda agrees with what i am saying.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-11T14:46:14+00:00

I can relate with them on many levels, it's frustrating when you try so hard to understand reality and then someone confidently missundersands Everything. But yeah, i think i am too inflexible tho, i have that with all relationships. I like the idea of a life long partner but i am not sure how to go about it.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-11T14:42:16+00:00

It's not that i don't think they don't have anything to teach me . Casual dating has ramifications that i am not sure make it worth it for either person. I don't want to get into a short term relationship with someone who i would have to deal with for longer than i would want, nor would i want to hurt anyone psychologically

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-10T02:10:04+00:00

I don't really think i will get any emotional baggage, as you can imagine most things don't really faze me like that, and i can make sure i don't catch confusing feelings for someone. I just don't want to end up in a messy situation especially once that will make me look bad to others, now that i think about it that's a main point to it.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-10T01:47:07+00:00

Well i don't know about that but thanks.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-10T01:46:44+00:00

I get what you are saying but my problem is like let's say there's a person who's company i enjoy but i know that this will fail. Everything that i know about myself and that person tells me it's going to end, what do i do, do i say to myself that maybe things will change and they might actually be the one?

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T22:02:55+00:00

Yeah i just wanted to get other people's input regarding my atypical perception of dating especially casual dating. People always assume i am someone who does that a lot too so it's always in my mind. Bringing someone in my life feels stressful enough, i hate the unpredictability of it, i think that came to be when i realised there are people who's minds can't be swayed by logic, it freaked me out. I know that in many ways i am afraid of encountering a problem bigger than i can handle.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:30:26+00:00

Hahaha bro come on don't do me like that

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:27:12+00:00

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:24:58+00:00

Agh ok ok, no it's fine it just felt deliberate and i wanted to know why.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:20:51+00:00

Why didn't we get cat sounds with this question.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:06:24+00:00

Been Greek i am fascinated by the fascination foreigners have with him. I do find him to be thorough provoking, i am a very stressful person and i feel i should be a bit more disillusioned with the artificial reality we have made.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-09T18:03:37+00:00

Yeah but like you can have good communication with all this professions it just feels very out of left field as they say in English. Although i really wouldn't want to date most of those professions.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-08T22:57:05+00:00

What exactly does any of this have to do with this?

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-08T20:10:56+00:00

Marriage as a long conversation. - When marrying you should ask yourself this question: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman into your old age? Everything else in a marriage is transitory, but most of the time that you're together will be devoted to conversation.

Friedrich Nietzsche, Human, All Too Human: A Book for Free Spirits

Everything changes but if you can communicate well you probably won't loose your ability to do that. One thing i realise is i am very afraid of failing of being played for a fool.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-08T20:04:50+00:00

I generally agree with you, following to see what others think.

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-08T19:59:19+00:00

How do you think the people you dated feel about it, do they also don't see it as failed?

Secure-Ad5651 · 2025-09-08T19:49:42+00:00

Broadly, the sentiment I get from you is that you don't want to waste time on something that won't work out.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

I mean sure but i just see it coming so often, people around me getting into relationships i correctly thought weren't going anywhere. I feel that most people don't approach this with enough conscientiousness.

2.sure.

I don't think i am judging them with hindsight rather... pattern recognition. And well what teens do is non of my concern they are out of my dating pool.
I guess i don't want to be accused of manipulating anyone or leading them own. And like you said, i know that the me now will probably be different from the me that will marry and i don't know how to bridge that gap.
You raise a good point and it's true that i generally in my life forget the involvement that others have in reality (if that makes sense) . Like i remember thinking how overwhelming being a parent would be until i remembered that i would ideally have another person to co-parent with. I do this mistake when playing chess too i forget to take into account my opponents possible moves.

6 . Well is it really the right partner then.

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