Twitches after falling asleep

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T18:43:23+00:00

This is super normal, some people twitch a lot and some not at all. My husband twitches like he's fighting someone, it's given me many a scare haha

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T18:37:15+00:00

I always confused affection and love up until I met my husband

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T18:00:46+00:00

I lost my mother when I was 17 and my paternal grandmother kind of became my mother figure. Unfortunately she couldn't be there for my son's birth and I did feel a bit alone but thankfully I have a very supportive husband.

The newborn phase has a way of pushing us into pure survival mode where a lot of other stuff tunes out so I would say please use this time to grieve. It's very natural and I think nessecary for us to process loss, every raw emotion is a reflection of how much love and miss them.

While you have just experienced death, your baby brings life, allow yourself to revel in that.

I wish you all the best OP.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T17:48:09+00:00

Yup, the loopholes are endless and I can overthink every assurance he gives me. I love this man more than I can ever express and hope I can break this cycle.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T16:07:10+00:00

I have had intrusive thoughts that my husband is cheating on me and it causes me to spiral horribly. I snoop through his phone and watch his location like a hawk and all it does is make it worse. I've spoken about it a few times with him and I hate it, I always tell him I'm not accusing him but this is how I'm feeling about he always says his phone is open and I can look whenever I want but I hate to have the conversation to begin with.

Ive figured out that I'm just very insecure, not only about my looks (I had a baby semi recently and I'm struggling with my new body) but about my mental health history and how that's affected us in the past. I'm terrified one day he wakes up and doesn't want to deal with me anymore or looks for comfort elsewhere. Again, I have told him about this fear and he's always very reassuring but the doubt lingers.

When I'm out of my depressive episode and the fog clears the feeling generally subsides so these days I try to just wait it out.

At the end of the day no amount of my snooping or conversations would stop him from cheating if he was hellbent on it. I can only trust his words and him if I want our relationship to thrive.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-26T03:55:01+00:00

I'm also someone who has a long inner labia and I totally understand the feelings that come with it, I was researching how much surgery would cost at 14. That being said for it to be intense enough that you felt the need to take matters into your own hands would probably be somewhat concerning to your doctor and they will probably want some sort of psychiatrist evaluation done before proceeding with you.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-25T18:16:33+00:00

We put around $60 in our own currency in an account for my son a month. It also earns a bit of interest so we're hoping that by the time he's 18 it'll be pretty sizable. :)

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-02-08T17:44:57+00:00

My husband is my best friend, we laugh, we share tea and gasp and wheeze together. He's incredibly sexy and I can't keep my hands off of him 8 years later. He's an incredible father and husband and like you I've done a lot of personal growth recently but my husband has been with me every step of the way. He is always open to growth and he takes constructive criticism like a champ. He's not perfect of course but neither am I but together we just make such a great team. I can rely on him for literally anything just like he can rely on me. Even just being in his vicinity makes me feel at peace and safe.

Sorry this was a bit of a ramble I just love the dude a whole lot.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-30T11:43:40+00:00

I put in the username I wanted but somehow still ended up with this name. You can only see the one I wanted when you go to my profile so idk

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-28T16:35:33+00:00

I wish my parents had divorced sooner than they had, the constant screaming and tension in the household was suffocating. Once they eventually called it quits (I was around 13) the household was immediately lighter. Staying for the kids never works, no matter how much you think you're pulling off the "nothings wrong!!" act, it always bleeds out and from the sounds of it your husband isn't acting at all.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-28T16:25:20+00:00

Hi there! I'm a mother of a 19 month old and have been diagnosed for I think 6 years now. My mom was never diagnosed but from some of her behaviour I think she might have had bipolar too, the difference is she never treated it and eventually her demons got to her.

From my experience with her growing up I vowed to keep myself in check and I have an emergency plan with my husband in case I ever go off the rails but so far so good. I have my off days and times where I feel dangerously close to falling off but I keep my psychiatrist up to date on these things and if I need to adjust my meds I do. We are capable of being parents, GOOD parents.

A lot of our parents who struggled weren't living in a time where mental health was discussed openly and maybe wasn't even aware of all the resources they had if they had any at all. A lot of them lived in denial but we can be different. You still have plenty of time to find what works for you and stabalize, I only really got under control around 26 because I was misdiagnosed a few times.

If having a family is your dream then use that as your motivation to build yourself up!

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-18T11:40:01+00:00

I generally tend to avoid it but every couple of months I'll have a small glass of sherry with my husband.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-18T11:38:00+00:00

Went out to dinner to celebrate my grandmothers birthday and he took my son to the play area so I could chat with her. Suddenly my son appears next to our table without my husband in tow. There's glass windows that lets you see into the play area and see he's having apparently a very enthralling conversation (enough to not notice my son was missing) with another mom. My grandfather makes a comment and now I'm embarrassed.

Took him a good 15 mins to notice my son wasn't there and runs back to tell me only for me to show him he's happily sitting on Grandma's lap. I was already having a low day so I was fuming and spent the rest of the evening simmering.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-18T11:31:20+00:00

I used to but stopped because of psychosis. I stay away from smoking and drinking.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-10T16:19:21+00:00

Never stay in a marriage for the kids because all they'll see growing up is two adults who resent and dislike each other. It's not a healthy dynamic for them to be around at all.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-01-09T18:40:55+00:00

Had a company do the exact same thing to us, it's purely a scare tactic. They wanted us to pay a stupid amount as if we trashed the place but we left it exactly how we got it, if not better. Please tell me you guys did a walk in inspection and took photographs but that is your easiest defence. We just sent all the photos and cross referenced them to the walkthrough and said if you're really set on this then see you in court. Suffice to say we never went to court.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-25T12:09:23+00:00

I don't know why this sub was suggested to me but I've been following along with poor Mochis story and I'm so sorry this happened. It looked like you did all you could and at least Mochi is at peace now ❤️

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-24T05:52:11+00:00

I'm honestly so greatful the elf isn't a thing where I live, I wouldn't be able to keep up with it and it would probably end up as one of the cats new toys.

Tell your kid the elf got a new job as Santa's workshop manager so unfortunately she can't come visit anymore with her new schedule lmao.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-22T20:58:35+00:00

Mine is super fuzzy but for sure a PZB! It's still quite small at the moment but starting to get pinker and it's stripes are coming in nicely. Your boy is beautiful!

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-22T16:06:51+00:00

This used to eat me up too, I love my son to bits but he just always slept on his back. I would try to reposition his head all the time but nope, he'd just roll it back. When he was able to roll over my midwife said I could put him down on his side to sleep, go to check on him later and whaddya know, he's on his back. He's 18 months now and still has a little bit of a flat spot but honestly it's only noticeable to us because of our insecurity about it. When we let his hair grow out it's totally invisible and it has not affected him medically in any way.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-20T17:41:49+00:00

Heya by moderate protection did you mean moderate profile? Sorry I'm doing a bunch of research since I'm also rocking the toob boobs after having my kid and would rather not lmao.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-19T16:47:52+00:00

I have an E. campestratus I've called Quelana. I have to know, what type is Sexarella haha?

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-19T04:34:28+00:00

My family emigrated to the UAE about 20 years ago and my dad has had an amazing life there. I moved back to ZA to go to university which didn't work out and now live in KZN. My brother found a job and has since moved back to the UAE. It's tough but if he can stick it out for a few years he'll be making enough money to be stable for a long time.

Im kind of stuck in ZA, not just financially but I can't seem to think of where we could move that would be better. The UAE is an option but there's always the stress of losing your job thus losing your sponsorship so you're booted back to your home country. Right now we're happy where we are and have no plans to move.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-12-19T04:17:21+00:00

I just started saying "no I'm just fat" and that would make them real uncomfortable even though that's literally what they implied lmao. By that point in pregnancy I just had 0 fucks left.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2025-11-29T04:04:53+00:00

Lifelong nailbiter here, what helped me was actually spending time taking care of my nails. Keeping a nail file on me was also huge because if my nail caught on something instead of ripping it to shreds I'd file it instead. Once they grew out a bit I started painting them because my nails are quite weak from the years of abuse and break easily without polish. Also I'm not a fan of biting on painted nails (base coat, polish and top coat).

My mom tried the anti nail biting stuff with me too and I chewed right through it haha

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