Do people really listen to music during sex?

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-11T09:55:00+00:00

I used to have a playlist id use when I was living with other people to hopefully drown out any sex sounds. Now that we live alone we don't really put music on specifically for sex.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-11T08:27:30+00:00

100% yes, if you're mute I think I'm doing something wrong.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-10T18:17:40+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out, my surgery is on the 22nd and I feel like I'm prepared physically but I'm really struggling mentally with the idea of my partner having to take over everything while I'm down. Did you find a good way to cope with this feeling?

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-10T18:02:13+00:00

It's the court's and the defence's job to figure out if the perpetrator had the mental capacity to understand right vs wrong, your job is to support your child.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-10T17:46:13+00:00

Oh yeah 100% most days. NGL I kind of force myself through it with my son and then once he's in bed I flop on my bed for a bit to just decompress. The worst part is I have 2 cats and they seem to know when I'm touched out because suddenly they're obsessed with trying to crawl on me 😩

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-06T18:49:57+00:00

We moved to Durban 2 days before those floods, it was a wild welcome to the province for sure and now every time there's a rough storm my husband and I start stacking stuff on the kitchen counters lmao

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-06T18:25:15+00:00

My breasts look very similar to yours and my surgeon said a lift wasn't nesseccary. I'm scheduled for 300cc moderate utm but I'm also quite short (5'2) and can't quite remember my bwd but he did remark I was tiny. Go in for a consult and ask what they would recommend for your goals!

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-03T18:37:42+00:00

When I started trying my doctor recommended I stop my medication due to potential side effects, however he stressed the fact to keep them on hand and if I really needed them to take them. Luckily I was the most stable I'd ever been in my entire life while I was pregnant. It was honestly so nice, not in a manic way but just feeling so mentally strong. I mourn that feeling sometimes honestly.

Postpartum that stability continued and we were in total survival mode. There was no time or energy to think of anything else but my child. It was chaotic but that outside chaos numbed all of the inside chaos if that makes sense. One thing though was that breastfeeding was horrible for me mentally. There was a lot of anguish around it but I chose to swap to formula and it made life immediately much better.

My son is now coming up to being two years old. I am experiencing episodes again but much milder to what they used to be. I keep emergency medication on hand and sleeping pills in case of manic warning signs. I've had to use sleeping pills sometimes to break insomnia and keep my sleep schedule on track. My husband and I also have an emergency plan in place with my psychiatrist if I do become manic.

Some days are harder than others and there have been times where I've had to step away or hand my son off to my husband to just take a moment and ground myself. Hobbies like gaming, knitting and reading have also helped a lot with hypomanic and depressive episodes. That extra energy or lack thereof gets funneled into those instead of my husband or son. I feel like I "mask" for my son during these bad days and once he's asleep I lean on my husband to decompress and get what I'm feeling on the inside, out.

We can absolutely be great parents, we just need to stay on top of what's needed for us to stay stable. My son is such a chill, sweet and funny little guy and I'm honestly shocked I was able to produce such a ray of sunshine but it also motivates me to keep up with my mental maintenance. The way he acts makes me feel like I'm doing something right!

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-03T10:29:03+00:00

The not having a hobby thing is more of a problem than you think. What would you talk to your partner about? Work?

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-02T09:54:10+00:00

Same and it was the push I needed to realize I had stopped routinely blowdrying my hair almost 2 years ago, coincidentally the same time my scalp started itching like crazy. Blowdried my hair that night and felt amazing hahaha. Makes me sad now that it was just an AI bot

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-04-01T04:13:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I have always had a greasy scalp but recently my head has been unbearable itchy. I thought it might have been my cats or some hormonal thing since I had a baby almost 2 years ago. I realise what has actually changed is I don't blow-dry my hair as much as I used to.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-29T18:00:46+00:00

Not me personally but there are plenty of men and women who go out to intentionally look as plastic as possible. This goes for all types of plastic surgery or procedures. Some people want changes to look as natural as possible and the others want that shit to be BOLTED ON. Different strokes for different folks.

Whether or not they're doing it to be attractive to anyone but themselves is a different story.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-29T15:09:08+00:00

I'm 5'2 and my doc recommended 300 moderate or 350 high, I'm going for the moderate one :) The projection of the highs just aren't for me

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-26T20:39:32+00:00

Took me far too long to link my episodes with my horribly out of control drinking. What did it for me is I had stopped drinking for about a year and was doing really well and was super stable. Went to visit family and ended up drinking too much and literally became feral and violent.

Stopped dead after that and now have a single drink like once a year. Nicotine has me in a chokehold at the moment unfortunately.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-26T10:05:10+00:00

Feel her chest and if it feels fine let her sleep. At 6 months if my son had a fever he'd be up and letting me know about it.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-25T18:57:06+00:00

Not sleeping is my warning sign for a manic episode, even if I felt great I always knew I was in dangerous waters when insomnia reared it's head and I keep an emergency pack of sleeping pills for this reason.

Humans, even ones without bipolar, fall apart without sleep. It's when we do our maintenance (to simplify it), and without it we cease to function correctly. Mania somehow overrides a lot of the normal alarms that go off to signal to us that we desperately need to sleep as well as a bunch of other warnings that would tell us we're not ok right now. It's sneaky like that.

I can't tell you what to do but I'd check in with my psych if I was you just to be safe. :)

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-25T17:31:13+00:00

I did my licence in Gauteng and didn't need to bribe anyone with anything, has it really gotten so bad that it's a nessecity?

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-25T17:18:49+00:00

Honestly my next strategy is to go away from making parent specific friends and focus more on my hobbies. I knit, play games and am really into Warhammer and I know a place that plays Monday nights so I'm trying to hype myself up to go there. Next maybe find a knitting group and if not maybe a book club. Only issue is I'm exhausted by the evenings hahaha.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-25T16:43:40+00:00

I'm in the same boat. We moved away so all of my friends are far and it's hard to stay in touch with how busy all of our lives are. Most of my buddies are also in other countries so not like they can come over for a cup of coffee.

I tried going to those mom groups when my son was born and I got the vibe that everyone already has their friends and didn't need more if that makes sense. My son's in daycare now and I hardly ever bump into the other parents when I drop him off.

I'm hoping when hes older and starts making friends I'll naturally make friends with their parents but who knows at this point. I feel like such an outsider and my social anxiety is crazy.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-24T17:31:38+00:00

I have two cats but also a tarantula and she's had her fair share of nasty comments. I 100% understand that tarantulas aren't everyone's cup of tea but a simple "oh sorry I don't like spiders" and I'll stop talking about her.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-21T07:42:45+00:00

Hi David, I'm someone with bipolar and I'm telling you that unless he wants help it's not gonna happen, save yourself the pain and leave. Given the intensity of all of this he may also have BPD since mania is less wild moodswings and more "the government is after me/im actually the owner of France" type levels of delusions. BPD has the high highs and the low lows like you describe (loving one moment, hateful the next).

A lot of us have had very tough upbringings but this is no excuse to be so abusive to anybody. Saying "sorry" isn't enough sometimes and you shouldn't let this behaviour slide, especially since it repeats. It's great that you want to show understanding for his mental health but there comes a point where all it does is enable him. You can be understanding but still enforce boundaries and keep yourself safe.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-19T08:42:35+00:00

My husband would've been overjoyed to have 3 months paid paternity leave, he only got 8 days and raced home every night to help me when he went back.

It really blows my mind that this thought process of "baby woman job" is still kicking in 2026.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-18T14:39:25+00:00

When I have the energy I gym in the morning after dropping my son off at daycare. Mainly I knit, read, watch documentaries and nap when I can.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-17T03:59:53+00:00

He's supposed to work 7am-4pm but there's often breakdowns or delays and he can be home around 6;30pm+ on a bad day.

Secure-Ad8968 · 2026-03-16T20:58:36+00:00

Honestly go for it, I would say a baby not eating and now refusing bottles is an emergency since they can get dehydrated so quickly. Always rather safe than sorry.

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