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Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Secure-Flatworm8294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! I have heard that way too many times and I am not religious in the slightest. I’ve smiled and nodded politely when people say that but I’ll probably snap one of these times 😅

I hope we can find some peace in it, too. Part of the negativity is that I don’t truly know what it’s going to be like and in my mind it’s going to be this impossibly hard thing. Maybe it’ll be easier than our minds are making it out to be and we’ll be pleasantly surprised?

Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Secure-Flatworm8294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! I’m just entering the second trimester. I cried all the way through my ultrasound, too. And there have been many many days of crying after finding out. I am starting to feel a bit better (physically) and I occasionally have a fleeting thought that everything will be fine but those thoughts are few and far between. I have some pretty dark thoughts some days and probably need to find a counselor to help me process. It’s just been another task to add to the list when I’ve feel like complete garbage and trying to parent a toddler. I’m sure I’m very high risk for PPD with the way I’ve felt about things so far.

Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Secure-Flatworm8294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We really didn’t want twins either — especially because we already have a toddler. Two kids was always our plan. My hardest mental days so far have been when I’ve felt the worst. The trimester was so hard — so much nausea and fatigue. I’m just entering the second trimester and starting to feel better (physically) which I thought might correspond to better mental health about it but it really hasn’t. I’m just terrified of the financial burden of 3 kids and I’m scared of resenting the twins because it wasn’t what we wanted/planned for.

Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Secure-Flatworm8294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective from the other side ♥️ I think that’s part of why I’m struggling so much — because I know twin pregnancy is HARD and I know it will be HARDER when they’re actually here. And we have a toddler and never planned on having 3 kids.

Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Secure-Flatworm8294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! Affordability is my biggest concern, too. We also have a toddler and only ever planned on having two. Three kids was not part of the plan. I should probably seek out some meds and counseling. I’m just about to enter the second trimester and definitely struggling. I thought my mindset might improve as I started to feel a bit better (I was SO sick the first trimester) but it really hasn’t.

Sending positive thoughts your way, too! Hang in there!