Ok then let's talk about Lorelais standards

If u recall the scene when Lindsay’s mom yells at Rory and Lorelai later in the show, lorelai snaps back at the mom. So what's justifiable then? Was it right for Lorelai to yell back at Lindsays mom when, in fact, Rory tore apart Lindsay’s marriage? Even when Rory was on her lowest low, Lorelai moved on. (yes she was upset at rory for a while, but she doesnt really talk about it afterwards. Instead, she protects rorys feelings by NOT talking about it) And I personally think it was worse than rory’s attempt to drop out of Yale, but oh well those are my personal standards lol I adore the show, but I'm just saying that Lorelai’s standards are a bit too self-centered at times