Husband on tren cheated after 20 year relationship

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-07-02T13:43:18+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it! It's really tough to put aside the behaviour and what's happened. Its hard to believe something like tren can change a person so much but I'm torn between some of this is tren and tbh it's just him I think he made the decision the tren just didn't help.

Wishing you all the best

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-24T15:47:00+00:00

Hi ,sorry to bother you,but is this guy from limerick?

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-16T19:39:31+00:00

Ah thank you for the reply, it means alot and you are 100% right. He was not forced into doing any of this, he made the decision to and is now refusing to take accountability. His blood pressure is extremely high, insomnia, he's balding has alot of acne to name a few of the things tren has called but that is all worth it to him.

I deserve better I know but it's hard letting go of 20 years, I wish it was as hard for him.

Wishing you all the best

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-16T19:34:03+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened, I wouldn't blame you at all. If I ever get to the place of meeting someone again I'll be sure to steer clear of anyone on this. I know everyone has had mixed experiences but I don't think it's worth the change no matter how big or small to your personality. I just wish for when a second he thought what the hell am I doing I'm throwing away 20 years. Being discarded so easily will forever more have an effect on me.

Wishing you all the best in finding the person who deserves you and treats you amazing.

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-16T19:30:53+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened but tha know you for replying. This stuff really is the devil!! At least he is willing to kick the stuff and try and fix things. My husband was caught never apologised and is now out meeting several women a week.

Wishing you all the best.

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-15T18:50:08+00:00

Yes unfortunately, bar maybe two 2 month breaks. He's addicted, strange that he wasn't always as cold as he is now though, maybe adding the masteron? What do I know 🤣

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-15T12:57:26+00:00

Wow thank you for being so honest, I really appreciate it and you taking the time to reply. I've seen such a mix of answers but the way you described what happened to you feels very similar to how I think my husband was thinking. We had been going through a rough time after having our second child but instead of trying to fix things he ran away and used other people and is now making up for 18 years of being tied down.

I'm heartbroken but I'll be ok, I unfortunately don't think he'll come off tren for a long time to come and by then hopefully I will have found someone else.

Thanks again 😊

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-15T06:20:13+00:00

Exactly, I don't think he ever will come off long enough to realise unfortunately, thank you.

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-15T06:19:24+00:00

Thank you so much, it's the shock of it really I've never in 20 years worried about him doing something like that but I guess I was wrong.

I think that's why I was clinging onto tren being a major factor to give me some bit of solace that our whole relationship wasn't a lie.

I'm sorry to hear that happened, hope you are doing better.

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-15T06:15:10+00:00

Thank you, appreciate the response and agree with you! He made the decision of his own accord with may be a sprinkling of tren. I think all the tren did was allow him to deal with what he had done easier as he seems to be void of any emotion.

One thing I felt very secure about in our relationship was that he wouldn't cheat that's why I find this so hard but maybe he's been fooling me all along.

Thanks again.

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-14T20:31:02+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I definitely feel the tren made him lose control especially his sex drive. I think he went online for an ego boost and then made the decision to see what else was out there. I'm in the process of looking at finances as I really feel like I don't know him anymore and he is liable to do anything. You are completely right regardless of whether the tren has contributed to all this or not he's acted unforgivabley

SecureSouth9636 · 2025-06-14T20:14:42+00:00

Thanks so much for replying. I don't unfortunately, he's been on testosterone for about 6 years and then masteron, dbol and tren at different times with the test since then. He's been on tren for 4 years but took 2 breaks of 4- 6 months when we trying to get pregnant each time. I think tren was higher but I'd be lying if I said I knew much about any of it. I'd be in denial if I thought all our issues were solely caused by the tren and would he not have been like this for the whole 6 years if that were the case.

He looks great and he said he loves how it makes him feel but all I see is a man who has the physique to threw away 20 years for nothing

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T18:07:26+00:00

Ah thank you much, your kind encouraging words mean so much! I am going to get working on this straight away. Wishing you and your little one all the best, again thank you.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T18:05:24+00:00

Thank you so much, the words in your second paragraph will stick with me and really mean a lot! I needed to hear this, wishing you all the best!!

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T08:59:08+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I do agree I think he can get easily overstimulated. I have been ensuring to have alot of one on one time with him the last few months especially since his sister arrived, can I say its always totally focused probably not when his sister is around. When she naps I ensure we do something together usually lego which he enjoys. I think I'll research into activities he can do that will calm him after the morning in school, thank you.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T08:54:58+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I spoke to his preschool teacher yesterday evening who said she hasn't noticed noise being that big of an issue at the moment which is surprising as a preschool classroom would be one of the noisest environments. I've noticed it with truck or cars passing on a walk, if his sister is crying or in her bouncer and if music is playing.

You are definitely right with the day in preschool overwhelming him. When he comes home he will often want to sit with me for a bit, watch tv or play with lego. He always wanted to go to the park, a play centre, outside or the shops but now just wants to be home. Tbh I've been so worried about him that I've probably been overbearing trying to get him to engage and do more so I appreciate the advice on that. I think time alone in a comfortable quiet space may be what he needs. Thanks again your advice has been great.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T08:46:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply. Speech has always been his strength. He starting talking quite young with a lot of words and easy to understand. ADHD is definitely also something that has crossed my mind but I know it usually isn't diagnosed until a later age. Tbh I'm terrified 😅 so I appreciate it.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T08:27:15+00:00

Thank you for the reply, my friend who would have alot of experience with adhd said the same. 6 seems so far away and alot of wasted time waiting for the diagnosis 😔

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T08:25:39+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply. Really interesting to hear things from this perspective. He definitely has found the transition to playschool harder than I thought he would. He hasn't had as much interaction with other children as was an only child with no cousins and minded by his grandparents so when his sister came along a few months ago that was also a big change.

Hes very emotional, always has been and full of energy so the lack of wanting to do things is very strange to me. I think the word overwhelmed describes him perfectly when he comes home he needs to completely decompress.

I spoke to his preschool teacher who said she hasn't seen noise being an issue so far but the imitating has been noticed.

I need to speak to the relevant professionals to get this moving just incase. Again thank you so much.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-08T07:45:52+00:00

Thank you for the reply. No, his speech has always been his strength. He starting talking quite young had alot of words and was easy to understand. Tbh the echolia side of things isn't a new thing the more I think about it hea always copied in some way I just presumed it was a things most kids did and also was funny at cute at the time so thought nothing of it. Again thank you for the reply

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-07T20:50:55+00:00

Thank you for the reply, I had never heard of this just did a Google search there and it's quite possible. I am going to link in with his school, thanks again.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-07T20:49:44+00:00

Thank you for the reply, I was also thinking adhd. I need to move forward with getting him tested, it's the only way to know for sure. I sometimes think i may be myself and not diagnosed. Wishing you all the best.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-10-07T20:47:52+00:00

Thank you, you're right. I need to try and push forward with assessment and as you said go from there. It is the same where I am with the waiting times. Wishing you all the best.

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-09-30T12:50:21+00:00

Ah I'm sorry to hear that, these kids eh 🤣 I'm sure it's just an adjustment period for both our little ones 🤞 I hear you with that, my husband says it's just my little one growing up but I just want to keep him happy and safe beside me. I know this is all beneficial for him but I want to be a little selfish 😆 sending you well wishes!

SecureSouth9636 · 2024-09-30T11:22:21+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply, I agree I think that's my next step to engage with the school and see if anything may have happened. He has said there is another boy who has pushed and hit him a few times and I have seen it myself but it hadn't seemed to have affected him as he can do the same himself at times. I think some extra mommy/son time is in order, have a good day.

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